To think there isn't an excuse for an adult to live filthy

[bubblec]

Let's put aside the vulnerable who for obvious reasons can't be included in this discussions. + not a shame post for people who do genuinely like to be in a clean environment but sometimes work and family gets in the way.

Why is it that grown adults who are more than capable of cleaning, just CHOOSE to be dirty and live In such environments that are clearly very unhygienic.

Even worse why does society treat some grown adults like they are little children who 'tried their best'. Your telling me a grown adult can't programme as an example, how to fix the bed in a decent manner that doesn't look like a 4 year old done up.

I am raging because I am in a position where I like to keep things decently clean and liveable whereas the other person has 0 care and then gets left on me because I know they simply don't care enough.

It should be a very bare minimum!!

Throw your thoughts ....

Making the bed is actually less hygienic though. The covers should be pulled right back so it can air during the day, with the windows open.

Em, filthy means very dirty.

Not making a bed is untidy at worst.

Ok, your other examples might count as filthy, OP!

Getting tired of repeating myself like a broken machine over the bed. I've clarified in a number of posts now so please take a few second to read before completely missing the point. I am not going to repeat anymore :)

There is a small trend on TikTok of people showing off their really dirty, not just untidy, homes and being congratulated for it because they are showing real life.

None of your examples are unhygienic. You’re not going to get ill from any of that. Different people have other priorities than constantly cleaning.

I understand you @bubblec , its not just the bed making ( though I am with PP on letting the bas air ) .
My DH would tidy up by cramming everything into a draw , this would include hospital letters , bills , candles , shoe laces , table mats , phone chargers , clothes pegs , tissues cat and dog toys and god knows what else .
I always said he tided like the queen was comes to tea but he had only been give 30 seconds notice !

People have different levels of what they consider clean.

I'll make sure the dishwasher is full before washing the dishes. It's a waste of resources otherwise.

Fully making the bed is a waste of time. If I lived with someone that wanted that then they are more than welcome to do so.

I used to live with someone who claimed I was dirty, slovenly, disgusting because I didn't wash a mug as soon as I'd finished my drink, or didn't clean up from cooking dinner before I'd eaten. Thankfully, they're an ex and they can keep their weird standards to themselves.

My point. Why can't a capable 43 year do his own cleaning but puts the pressure on someone else.

Those examples would drive me mad. Makes me shiver just thinking about them. And I'm not the tidiest person on the planet.

When my mother got ill and died, my father really stopped trying. He didn’t made the bed but also didn’t clean the toilet or do the dishes or even put out the garbage… just left it in the kitchen. Empty bottles piled up in the livingroom.
That is what i’d call “live filthy”.

Not making the bed perfectly is not about living in filth but about having different standards and priorities.
I do not take much effort making the bed, i don’t care enough about it… luckily my dh isn’t interested either.

Quite frankly because someone else has always done it for him 🤷‍♂️

I'm thinking OP never spent much time in student houses/flats.

I've been in homes with mould streaks, obvious dust on floor, sticky floors & counters, hairs all over kitchen floor, chronically clogged sinks. DS is house hunting, some of the properties he's looked at are shocking.

OP is not describing similar.

Real life to an extent, but if you get a moment, go clean it.

Thank you @usernother, I have been rather confused about who is congratulating people on doing inadequate cleaning.

I rather question why anyone is being congratulated on cleaning, effective or not.

Definitely unhygienic unless your on a different planet. No one said spend every minute cleaning but if you get a chance, then a good clean does no one bad. However, choosing to be dirty and not doing anything about it, says a lot about a person.

I sometimes babysit for my sister. I used to live with her before I married but moved out due to her filth. We're in our 40s now and she still doesn't clean up after herself. Some people are just like that. I don't feel comfortable in her home. I always take my slippers and my kids come back with dirty socks from the floors/carpets. There are many cardboard toilet roll inners on the bathroom floor, sometimes sanitary towels too. The bin is maybe 2 feet away. The washing up isn't done until there isn't a clean plate or cup available. A used mug can sit on a windowsill for 2 weeks or more. I genuinely don't think she sees the mess. Our dad was the same. People's standards are just different. It's fine. It's her home not mine, but I can't live like it. And when she visits my house I always have to tell my niece to remove her shoes, no shoes on the sofa etc. I think it's only polite to follow the example set in the home you're visiting.

It's so hard to live with though. I used to end up in tears because it would NEVER occur to her to empty the bin, or wipe down the kitchen etc and she'd just say I should do it if it bothered me. As 20 year olds I guess I thought she'd outgrow it. But nope.

Grown adult, professional career, mother. Lives like she left home last week and thinks someone else will clean up after her! We're the best of friends though, but a holiday together is enough to stress me out from a cleanliness point of view!

OP...I'd be moving out! Or making the messy one move out!

There are loads of posts with lots of comments with tap to tidy, videos from house cleaners, different methods of how to clean, how not to clean. All extremes of something most of us mange to do most days.

I'd be livid tbh, good thing I haven't got to experience that.

My 6 year old can do a decent job without me even asking but a grown adult can't. Logic isn't there for me.

I wouldnt call any of that filthy (presuming it is cleaned up at some point) just lazy

What an arsehole of a comment.🙄

@usernother A whole new world! It does rather beg the question, why?!

I feel rather old now

I'd like to know why there are so many stinky people on the buses I travel on. They stink and their clothes do, too.

I keep a mask with me just so's I can block out the pong.

I dread to think what their houses are like.

You've described someone I know. Yes, they are in their home but honestly I don't even feel comfortable sitting on their sofa. Pet pee everywhere and food pieces everywhere. In fact police went over their house once for some check up thing and they were shocked to think someone who has a child in the home would be ok to live that way, take away boxes still on the floor.

Your home in a way can say a lot about you as a person and how you carry yourself. How do you spend hours fixing your hair and makeup but can't spend 1 hour to do a decent job. 🤷🏽‍♀️

If it attracts insects or vermin it is most definitely unhygienic