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Sat on my own on holiday ....boyfriend made new friends

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balconygirl · 30/03/2023 17:33

I'm on holiday with my boyfriend of 2 years.
It's meant to be a romantic holiday
Had a brilliant morning
Then he talks to anyone
He started talking to this couple with their kids
All afternoon he has chatted with them
I have sat there -he hasn't said a word
He's organising to meet them tonight and keep spaces around the pool tomorrow

I said I'm going to room to have a shower
He has stated writhed the pool with them

I'm not excited for the few days ahead now
Am I being silly ?
I don't want to spend my holiday with strangers
I'm just not that type of person

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girlmeetsboy · 30/03/2023 19:22

I like a drink like anyone else BUT starting to drink at 10am would piss me off (my DH would totally do it) its a bit like people who have a wine at 6am in the airport -not judging but I couldnt :-) I love my own company and rarely have it so Op, go and have whatever you fancy to eat, have a few drinks if you want and enjoy the place you are staying at xx

Left · 30/03/2023 19:22

I wonder if the other family had had enough of him, and he was embarrassed and took it out on the OP when he got back to the room.

Hope you have a lovely meal and beach trip OP!

Drywhitefruitycidergin · 30/03/2023 19:25

balconygirl · 30/03/2023 18:37

I was speaking to the people but not ott like him
He was in the pool playing with the kids then offering them upgraded drinks as we have the gold band
Just being too much
It wasn't just 10 mins it was hours
I'm going to get ready and go for food then sit on the beach (the hotel is on the beach so no walking far) and watch the sunset

Dinner & sunset on the beach sounds fab! Is there an excursion you can go on tomorrow?

Bettyboop3 · 30/03/2023 19:27

I too would ask if there are any spare rooms. Give him something to think about if you're not there when he wakes up, hopefully with a hangover.

NotAHouse · 30/03/2023 19:30

NameChangeFor2023 · 30/03/2023 18:52

No you're not. Was looking for this comment from the start. More so after the update about pool and drinks.

Hoping to be completely off the mark.

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Same. But sadly I've seen this happen before.

NotAHouse · 30/03/2023 19:32

PogoThePunk · 30/03/2023 19:05

I know this might sound dim, but I don't understand the question?

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I'm concerned he's a paedophile looking for an opportunity. It would also explain the sudden alcohol abuse as he struggles with his urges.

AtseneGatnalp · 30/03/2023 19:37

NotAHouse · 30/03/2023 19:32

I'm concerned he's a paedophile looking for an opportunity. It would also explain the sudden alcohol abuse as he struggles with his urges.

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Blimey, that's a leap and a half.

I think he's just a dick, and not someone I'd be marrying or TTC with, OP.

Tribblesarelovely · 30/03/2023 19:41

I feel sorry for the family, I can’t think of anything worse than having someone attach themselves to us. Fortunately, we’re both the same on holiday and don’t speak to anyone.😂

Greensleevevssnotnose · 30/03/2023 19:42

My ex used to do this, in Cuba I barely saw him for two weeks he was playing cards with the other knob head alcoholics who go to cheap Caribbean all inclusives. He has hopefully died of liver failure by now. but if yours is called Ian it doesn't get better and you'll find out he had a vasectomy that's why you can't get pregnant after 10 years. Prick. Sorry, you hit a trigger.

whataboutism · 30/03/2023 19:50

sounds like a topical poem. All the best op.

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balconygirl · 30/03/2023 19:52

He just loves people
He loves people thinking he is great
He doesn't have a nasty bone in his body
He just wants people to think he's great
He's done this before with couples etc

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balconygirl · 30/03/2023 19:53

The kids were 16 /17 he was playing pool volleyball etc

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AtseneGatnalp · 30/03/2023 19:54

I pity the couples to whom he attaches himself. My ex husband used to do this. It was embarrassing. I just left him to it and had a much nicer time without him and his grandstanding.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 30/03/2023 19:56

He's a dick.

But at least you have found out now....

Go and have a nice dinner. Leave him to sleep it off then try and avoid each other for the rest of the holiday and make plans to split when you get home.

Do not have a baby with this man!

Scousefab · 30/03/2023 19:56

Sounds like they just lingering round him for the free drinks! Let him sleep it off and in the morning maybe suggest getting off the complex on a boat trip by yourselves that should break it up a bit for you. He does sound sociable but people will take advantage of kind people too. Go and grab some cocktails your holiday too and have a bite to eat and enjoy that sunset! Wouldn’t stay in.

canyon2000 · 30/03/2023 19:57

He is prioritising people thinking he is great over what makes you happy. He won't change.

Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2023 20:00

balconygirl · 30/03/2023 19:52

He just loves people
He loves people thinking he is great
He doesn't have a nasty bone in his body
He just wants people to think he's great
He's done this before with couples etc

Read that again.

Thats not a description of a person who doesn’t have a nasty bone in their body.

That’s a description of a man who wants to be centre of attention to the detriment of his partner’s wellbeing.

Whatwouldnanado · 30/03/2023 20:01

Don't marry or have this man's child. You deserve better. Make plans alone for the rest of the trip. The other family probably think he is a complete pain.

DarlingG · 30/03/2023 20:01

My husband would do this if given the chance. He talks to people far too much in my opinion and I’d far rather speak to no one on holiday 🙈 it’s just awkward if you do speak to people as they’re then there on your holiday all week and there’s no escaping it. He’s now warned within an inch of his life not to speak to people any more than a polite chat on holiday 😂

Schmutter · 30/03/2023 20:02

He sounds like a weirdo.

Also, it sounds like he's not that into you.

category12 · 30/03/2023 20:02

Merryoldgoat · 30/03/2023 20:00

Read that again.

Thats not a description of a person who doesn’t have a nasty bone in their body.

That’s a description of a man who wants to be centre of attention to the detriment of his partner’s wellbeing.

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Yeah, certainly he'd rather please strangers than his partner.

Which is pretty wearing in a marriage.

ellebelli · 30/03/2023 20:03

I am the same, I don't mind a chat with people on Holiday but I quickly run out of things to say and am happy to then go back to my book or whatever.
Partner is much more outgoing and enjoys a chat with everyone,Last Year on Hol he did end up staying by the pool drinking with a couple we/he had been chatting too whilst I went to get showered etc..He was only there for one extra drink and then we had the night to ourselves, he would never leave me out for hours-and to be honest i wouldn't let him

ThreeRingCircus · 30/03/2023 20:07

He just loves people
He loves people thinking he is great
He doesn't have a nasty bone in his body
He just wants people to think he's great
He's done this before with couples etc

He's an insecure man-child. He needs people to think he's wonderful so tries to be the life and soul but turns into a drunk arse. He's hanging round the teenagers because he's clinging onto his youth and wants them to look up to him and think how GREAT he is. I genuinely think your conversation about marriage and children has spooked him, even if subconsciously.

He sounds like the last person that you should have a baby with OP.

MonkeyMindAllOverAround · 30/03/2023 20:11

balconygirl · 30/03/2023 19:52

He just loves people
He loves people thinking he is great
He doesn't have a nasty bone in his body
He just wants people to think he's great
He's done this before with couples etc

No nasty bone??? Remove the pink glasses dear, you just described a narcissist. He spends all the time working on getting his ego massaged, drinking and upsets you by putting the blame on you (obviously what you think and feel is of no importance to him) but no…. No nasty bone in his body… none. Perfect abusive husband and parent material 🙄

Rumblingwellies · 30/03/2023 20:14

A man attached himself to my DH and I when we were having a lovely day out together. We are both very busy so it was a rare we both had days off at the same time. This arse hole gate crashed our day. He sat by us whilst we were eating and after some polite chit chat, he would not leave us alone. I ended up walking around by myself. He was horrible and we were too polite to tell him to fuck off. I am still resentful. Lovely people do not intrude on others.