Sat on my own on holiday ....boyfriend made new friends

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I'm on holiday with my boyfriend of 2 years.
It's meant to be a romantic holiday
Had a brilliant morning
Then he talks to anyone
He started talking to this couple with their kids
All afternoon he has chatted with them
I have sat there -he hasn't said a word
He's organising to meet them tonight and keep spaces around the pool tomorrow

I said I'm going to room to have a shower
He has stated writhed the pool with them

I'm not excited for the few days ahead now
Am I being silly ?
I don't want to spend my holiday with strangers
I'm just not that type of person

I’m guessing the other family are planning a covert flit from the hotel so they don’t have to eat with him too. Drunk people are rarely fun.

You’ll probably need to write off tonight and have a serious discussion about this tomorrow. There is really no point trying while he’s drunk.

No you're not. Was looking for this comment from the start. More so after the update about pool and drinks.

Hoping to be completely off the mark.

Eek how many days holiday do you have to go OP? Look after yourself, make sure you are safe.

My friend is like this. A quick chat and a bit of banter is enough for me but she glues herself to strangers and spends hours listening to their life stories. I absolutely hate it and won't go out with her unless it's in a group now as we just end up arguing. You are not compatible with this prat.

I agree with this.

I have friends who love going on holiday and making new friends. For them, that’s part of the whole holiday experience- and he might be this kind of person. I don’t think that makes him a dick, just different to you. He is a non for getting that drunk though.

You sound a bit sulky tbh. You said you “hadn’t said a word” for hours then stropped off to the room. You sound like a bit of a misery - it’s not as if he’s invited other people to pull up a chair while you’re having a romantic meal.

You also sound a bit prone to dramatics “I have to go down to dinner alone or eat crisps” I’m sure there are plenty of alternatives other than just “eating crisps” if you couldn’t face the hotel restaurant….but as you’ve now decided you can manage to go down and eat alone, that’s fine.

As it happens, I’m actually very introverted and have zero desire to chat to others. If DP didn’t take the hint that I’d had enough, I’d have been sociable this afternoon but had a talk once we were alone in the room about not wanting to spend my whole holiday chatting to/hanging out with others.

I don’t think this reflects well on either of you - and I also think if you were the sociable one and your male partner was the one doing the silent sulking, you’d get very different responses.

You don’t sound compatible tbh. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to socialise on holiday - but personally I’d rather be waterboarded in the pool than do that so I understand your reticence. Has there been any signs of him being more sociable than you in you everyday lives? Do you do much with just the two of you or always a group of friends?

You will not be sat with some random family if you stand up for yourself, tell him it's not what you want and that he should be concentrating on you.
The idea of sexy time would be right off the table for me if he made me spend time with some randoms.

Well, whatever you do, do NOT marry and/or have a child with this person. Can you imagine the years rolling on that way? He's not going to change.

That he prefers some randos to your company on a romantic beach holiday should tell you everything you need to know.

'3 hours I've sat on my Todd'

I daresay Todd's quite happy with that isn't he?

I know this might sound dim, but I don't understand the question?

Not just you.

His behaviour comes across as really inappropriate.

@Crazyshihtzulady if he isn't as nice to you as he is to strangers, he shouldn't be your fiancé.

It's inappropriate for a random drunk man to be playing in a pool with strangers' children. If these are young children, I would be concerned for their safety.

Flip side is did you really sit there all afternoon not joining in?

Bingo! He's seen a future of marriage and kids and is freaking out, it sounds like. Not a long term good bet then!

He might just be acting like a knob as he has drunk all day. No excuse but not really breaking up over. However that would depend how repentant he was in the morning!

Get a good book

Wow sounds like a shit day, not the type of day I’d want either.

Did you tell him at all. I mean I would have thought it would have been obvious you weren’t happy but being explicit with how you feel is always helpful too.

I hope he sleeps it off and can have a reasonable talk tomorrow so you can enjoy the rest of your holiday.

@Choconut they were talking about marriage and kids this morning BEFORE he turned into a drunken annoying arse. Do at least try to read.

God sorry but he sounds a nightmare. I feel bad for you and the other family.
Tell him to wind his neck in and stop it

Ah, I see now. I never thought of that.
Thanks.

I know it's what a lot of people and families like, but I couldn't do an all inclusive or package holiday if you paid me to do it. That is not criticising those who do, it suits many people, but personally I don't want to make conversation with people around a pool, or see the same people every day, and all that. I know it sounds bad, but it's just not for me. DP is similar although we both chat (briefly) with those we meet when out and about.

I think I would go off the reservation before he gets up tomorrow and take myself off to the nearest town or whatever, stay out all day and enjoy my own company. If he doesn't improve, do the same every day. It must be so demeaning and embarrassing to be ignored in full view of other guests, although TBH if I were one of the bombarded guests like that I think I'd have to mention the fact that motormouth was ignoring his companion and why? Tough on the recipients of his antics too, as many are far too polite to tell him to F off.

The family will be avoiding him soon.

Oh I know, but I'm almost 40, had a crappy upbringing so not much self esteem and scared to be alone.

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