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Sat on my own on holiday ....boyfriend made new friends

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balconygirl · 30/03/2023 17:33

I'm on holiday with my boyfriend of 2 years.
It's meant to be a romantic holiday
Had a brilliant morning
Then he talks to anyone
He started talking to this couple with their kids
All afternoon he has chatted with them
I have sat there -he hasn't said a word
He's organising to meet them tonight and keep spaces around the pool tomorrow

I said I'm going to room to have a shower
He has stated writhed the pool with them

I'm not excited for the few days ahead now
Am I being silly ?
I don't want to spend my holiday with strangers
I'm just not that type of person

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MissLucyLiu · 30/03/2023 17:59

Oh god that is not RIGHT!

Do you remember at which point from the nice evening you've had that's lead up to this?

What happened in between?

It's just so odd !

IncessantNameChanger · 30/03/2023 17:59

My dh does this on holiday. When our eldest was a toddler he befriended two ladies more his mums age. I don't really mind tbh. He managed to get them both absolutely pissed too. So I'm not sure he is a great holiday companion. He is a extrovert and I'm a introvert but I can make myself ok with it. But only for short bursts. Like dinner then drinks? Fine. Breakfast, pool, lunch and dinner? I would all peopled out.

Broadbeachshallow · 30/03/2023 17:59

He's not a keeper. One bad holiday is a small price to pay to find that out.

Enjoy the rest of your stay your way - if that's reading a book by the pool, do it. Please yourself.

UndercoverCop · 30/03/2023 18:00

Why is he so drunk? Does he always do this or has he misjudged his limits in the sun?

MissLucyLiu · 30/03/2023 18:00

balconygirl · 30/03/2023 17:56

He's came back up to the room really drunk and said I'm ruining the holiday
And doesn't know what my problem is
Says he wants to go home -slavering on

Have you two argued about something in between? Have you gone silent and started stonewalling him because you are not happy he's spending all his time chatting to the holiday friends?

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balconygirl · 30/03/2023 18:00

We have had a lovely day
He's been drinking since 10
Gradually got louder and louder
Now he is really drunk and being a dick basically
This morning we were talking about trying for a baby and getting married

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Crazyshihtzulady · 30/03/2023 18:01

Ugh I feel for you, my fiance is the worst for sucking up to strangers, wish he was as nice to me sometimes...

UndercoverCop · 30/03/2023 18:01

How old is he? 21 year old on holiday, I can semi understand the all day drinking but not the twatty behaviour

MissLucyLiu · 30/03/2023 18:01

balconygirl · 30/03/2023 18:00

We have had a lovely day
He's been drinking since 10
Gradually got louder and louder
Now he is really drunk and being a dick basically
This morning we were talking about trying for a baby and getting married

That is a reallllllllllly crazy flip from getting married to not wanting to continue this holiday.. RED FLAGGGGGGGG

ChangedmynameagainforChristmas · 30/03/2023 18:03

So he's got drunk then. I would not do a thing until he is sober, and then I would be telling him to fuck off home on his own OP

ChangedmynameagainforChristmas · 30/03/2023 18:04

Do you feel safe OP

MissLucyLiu · 30/03/2023 18:04

How old is he OP? Maybe he needs a bit of maturing to do ?
He prob thinks this is like his lads holiday everyone gets pissed all day or else it doesn't count as holiday.
Where as you jsut want to have a nice romantic chill holiday together.
Has he been in serious relationship before... he sounds really childish!

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balconygirl · 30/03/2023 18:05

Yeah I'm perfectly safe he's just a prick
He is 37
He will regret this in the morning

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PogoThePunk · 30/03/2023 18:06

Sorry op, but he would be the last man I would marry and have kids with. He sounds like he has the maturity of a day old bottle of wine.
Both me and my DH are chatty people, but on holiday it only extends to a quick chat with others while in the bar or similar.
I don't want people attaching themselves to us, so I wouldn't do it to someone else.
I would be waving bon voyage to him when we got home..... permanently.

DoristheDuchess · 30/03/2023 18:08

He is self sabotaging his relationship. The future talk in the morning has triggered panic in him and hes acting out as a result.

I'd think very hard about what he's trying to tell you OP by his behaviour.

ChangedmynameagainforChristmas · 30/03/2023 18:08

Try and enjoy your holiday without this waste of space drunken idiot. Will he get pissed everyday?

Muffit · 30/03/2023 18:09

My parents are both like this, they go away and always come back having made friends.Tjey don't drink though and I think he's being rude to you.He's behaving badly find yourself some other activitiesfor the rest of the week.Don't accept this behaviour.

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balconygirl · 30/03/2023 18:09

Yeah we are all inclusive so he will be
He's now fallen asleep
So I either go down to dinner on my own or eat crisps

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Drywhitefruitycidergin · 30/03/2023 18:10

n you go for a walk, see local town, get an ice cream/cocktail/read a book and try to enjoy yourself. Let him be a pissed nobhead and be hungover tomorrow.

KilljoysMakeSomeNoise · 30/03/2023 18:11

Go down to dinner on your own, take a book, sit in the bar and enjoy a peaceful evening without him.

ChangedmynameagainforChristmas · 30/03/2023 18:11

Oh go down for dinner and just chill. Take a book if you don't feel like making eye contact. What an idiot. I hope you don't marry him or have babies with him as this is just a small dose of what it will be like

babasaclover · 30/03/2023 18:13

Go and make your own evening fun.

When on holiday everything should be great, better than home. Don't let him ruin this for you

MissLucyLiu · 30/03/2023 18:15

It's not that easy is it. The man you think you want to marry is being absolutely selfish/childish and undependable.
It's kinda hard to have a 'fun evening' when you sit there to contemplate is this what you want to put up with rest of your life. Sorry :(

reelcat · 30/03/2023 18:16

Go for dinner and a walk then either sit and read or have a drink in the bar. Make the most of your time and ignore the selfish dick!

EyesOnThePies · 30/03/2023 18:17

Go for dinner early when the buffet opens, take a book, then sit in a lounge, or on beach, with your book.

Talk to him calmly, seriously and assertively in the morning.

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