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PTA members bitched about my child.. M

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Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:10

To start with when the dc joined the school I went to a couple of the meetings but as a new mum to the area & no other new parents attending the established clique excluded me.
As the years have gone by it turns out I have "those children" the ones who win the awards, get the leads in plays, solo pieces on their instruments & two of my daughters have been Mary.
The schools spring concert is this weekend & my three all have big roles.. I heard back from my sil who was on a pta night out that there was three disgruntled parents who said DH & I do nothing for the school & can't understand why our dc get such preferential treatment..
To clarify we contribute all our fees, also bake lots for the cake sale.

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Redebs · 30/03/2023 16:13

I couldn't work out why you gave your children the same name, until I realised you meant Nativity plays

Can you not just rise above it all OP?

Nimbostratus100 · 30/03/2023 16:14

your SIL is stirring unnecessarily

TheSnowyOwl · 30/03/2023 16:15

You seem to be giving this a lot of unnecessary headspace and is your SIL usually such an unpleasant stirer?

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Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:18

Nimbostratus100 · 30/03/2023 16:14

your SIL is stirring unnecessarily

No, my daughter heard it a couple of years ago too from the child one of the mums..

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ScentOfAMemory · 30/03/2023 16:18

You know what they say about the communicators of bitching...
Don't ask yourself why the bitches are bitching. Ask the messenger why the bitches feel comfortable saying it in front of them...

Waydown · 30/03/2023 16:19

I'd take it with a pinch of salt, SIL is probably passing on her own feelings as much as theirs.

Also, you're going to have to admit you quite like being someone whose situation makes others envious...

whataboutism · 30/03/2023 16:19

Take lots of pictures and close your ears. You will not remember those pta parents.

drpet49 · 30/03/2023 16:20

TheSnowyOwl · 30/03/2023 16:15

You seem to be giving this a lot of unnecessary headspace and is your SIL usually such an unpleasant stirer?

It is stirring? I would want to know if someone was bitching about me.

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Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:21

drpet49 · 30/03/2023 16:20

It is stirring? I would want to know if someone was bitching about me.

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I'm close to my sil & she knows what has been said to my child previously. It is an established clique.

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Nimbostratus100 · 30/03/2023 16:24

Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:21

I'm close to my sil & she knows what has been said to my child previously. It is an established clique.

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said a couple of years ago...

this is just a non incident, except for the escalation by your SIL, which I personally would be annoyed by

nahnahnahnahnahnah · 30/03/2023 16:29

Ah, fuck them.

What do you care, really? Your children sound like they are good at stuff. Enjoy it.

To be fair, if you were the head of the PTA, you’d have people bitching saying you had special treatment because of that.

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Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:33

To me it just seems that they are on the PTA to get special treatment for their dc & it's not quite working out..
One of my dd's had a piano solo at Christmas & my DH has a video of one of the parents turning around to another pta parent & rolling his eyes about my child. I was furious, my dh laughed it off saying he was always a tosser!

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Chewbecca · 30/03/2023 16:39

Ignore them and be grateful your DC are privileged in this way.

The fact they are on the PTA doesn’t prevent them being bitchy or mean they will display better behaviour than non PTA parents, it just means they have time to spare that they are prepared to give up for the benefit of the school.

ScentOfAMemory · 30/03/2023 16:45

Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:21

I'm close to my sil & she knows what has been said to my child previously. It is an established clique.

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An established clique that your SIL is part of.
It's very easy for people to run telling tales to a third party because they "thought you should know".
Has she said how she defended your kids when they were being slagged off?

CarolDunne · 30/03/2023 16:47

Such a non issue

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Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:48

Yes she said that my kids (her nieces) love music & performing. She said she was glad the teacher rewarded them as they work very hard at their music & musical theatre outside of school also. Also that DH & I were very committed to bring them to all their activities.

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Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:49

CarolDunne · 30/03/2023 16:47

Such a non issue

Well it is to me! They're making it sound like their dc are more deserving because of their pta work!

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Mypatioisminging · 30/03/2023 16:51

CarolDunne · 30/03/2023 16:47

Such a non issue

Agree, folks get so het up in this shit. Petty school yard politics

honestly all this bitching and back biting about who gets roles. Who gives a fuck really

Mypatioisminging · 30/03/2023 16:51

Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:49

Well it is to me! They're making it sound like their dc are more deserving because of their pta work!

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So?

Duvetdweller · 30/03/2023 16:52

As a former chair of a PTA I’m always amazed when people are excluded and ignored when attending meetings. I was always delighted that someone else was prepared to help.

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Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:53

Mypatioisminging · 30/03/2023 16:51

So?

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So? But they are basically saying my dc are undeserving that's why.

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HecticHedgehog · 30/03/2023 16:54

They're obviously jealous. Also a bit dim if they think being on the pta entities their children to special treatment from the school.

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Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:54

Duvetdweller · 30/03/2023 16:52

As a former chair of a PTA I’m always amazed when people are excluded and ignored when attending meetings. I was always delighted that someone else was prepared to help.

And I bet you didn't expect favours for your children & begrudge kids of non pta members?

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Mypatioisminging · 30/03/2023 16:57

Mommymoments · 30/03/2023 16:53

So? But they are basically saying my dc are undeserving that's why.

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Look they probably don’t even have bloody jobs , just spend their days doing annoying things on the pta and bitching. Really. It isn’t about your kids, it could be anyone who got a specific part, it’s irrelevant, move on.

winelove · 30/03/2023 17:04

Just smile sweetly and say how wonderful, clever and hard working your children are and hiw proud you are and walk away. Who gives a shit what they say.
Toughen up.

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