Things that are socially acceptable but you wish they were not

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I feel like a bit of a man. For me:

Men pissing by the side of the road. I have see this twice in the past few days, yet there were public loos close by. If a woman did this people would question her sanity, or at the very least think she was undignified yet for men it's considered normal.

Men going shirtless in public. Do what you like in your own garden, but why walk down the high street etc without a shirt. It's never that hot in England - in fact some much hotter climates actually have dignity laws that prohibit both men and women from even showing their arms or legs. Plus you know, sun burn.

Smoking. I hate walking behind someone who is smoking, it blows back in the face of the person behind and gives me a headache. It's unhealthy, expensive and should just be banged in public full stop imo.

Spitting on the pavement (men usually)
Pissing in open spaces (men usually)
Dog shit everywhere or in plastic bags draped on branches and in bushes
smartphone addicts and their constant selfies, especially tourists
Cyclists and their bells
Littering and some people's general belief that everyone\council is there to clean up after them

People's obsession with breast feeding and people publicly thanking partners on Facebook.

Speeding.
Just cunty driving in general.
I loathe how much motorists are indulged in this country.

Talking over the fence to your neighbour

Also: eating cheap factory farmed meat. Honestly makes me despair of humanity

Not sure smoking is socially acceptable now? Thankfully, it’s a pretty rare sight (where we are, anyway).

Men not paying cms.

Drug taking.

Clearly men not paying CMS is not socially acceptable though

🤣😂

The trend for nitros oxide drug taking - all fun and games & anti social behaviour

People who let their dogs wee on my plants. We have open plan gardens and I've been trying to grow some shrubs on the boundary. Dog owners just stand there looking at their phone while doggywoo has a piss. The urine can't be good for plants. Another gripe is dogs running all over the park. Yesterday I took my five year old grandson and a dog chased him. GS was really scared and ran until he fell in the mud. His clothes and shoes were caked in mud. Dog had lost interest and the owner was nowhere to be seen.

@mynameiscalypso - especially when they later ask what was discussed!

How stupid and disrespectful can you be? Also, why can’t people live without their phones for an hour or two?

My biggest peeve is when people use phones in the theatre or cinema - or a wedding! Theatre and films average 2-3 hours, and wedding ceremonies are even less! But people just have to be texting or whatever… or worse, filming, which means sticking the phone up in front of my face, blocking my view! For a stupid, crappy video for social media that no one actually cares about!

And you’re not actually supposed to - films have messages at the start, theatre performances and weddings have people announcing not to film and take photos (it’s actually illegal for the theatre), and people still just ignore it.

I always say something, but then I get yelled at about how it’s ‘not a big deal and to just shut up’ - it actually IS a big deal. It’s distracting me - I PAID for the film and theatre ticket, and I was invited to watch a WEDDING, not a crappy video through a small screen because it’s right in front of my face!

Why are people so incapable of living without something that we didn’t have 25 years ago, and got along just fine without? 😞

You can report it to environmental health after 11, for someone to come out I think. You can report persistent noise, at all other times, in addition.

If they have a landlord or agent you could contact them.

Check your local government website or start a thread in chat for more help.

Alcohol and the drinking culture. Can’t we just concentrate on making our existence better without the need for regular intake of alcohol? It’s so ingrained people are immune to the huge problems it causes. And yes that includes you, you middle class wine drinkers. We’ve heard all your stories many times before and we are so bored of them.

Fire Pits. Bonkers to sit round one in the middle of summer when it's already hot. But it's ok I'll just shut all my windows so my fabrics don't stink of whatever shit you're burning and we'll all sweat our tits off.

This!!!
especially when the owner is like ‘she’s very friendly’ erm, I don’t wanna be friends with your dog.

Agreed, the abusive and bigoted comments about people who have been diagnosed with serious neuro-psychiatric conditions are pure evil, and the people pouring out bile and bigoted hate claiming that anyone who sees a psychiatrist for conditions they deem less valid than other conditions are just "attention seeking belly button gazers" are fucking idiots and vile vile vile.

I have both schizophrenia and autism and ADHD and the ADHD has caused me to attempt suicide three times. The reason the schizophrenia treatment didn't work was because the ADHD had not yet been diagnosed. I would absolutely be dead without an ADHD diagnosis.

Most of the comments here are just factually untrue and laughably ignorant.

"People with these illnesses usually are so debilitated by their severe mental illness that they are unable to work. "

Plenty of people with ADHD are utterly debilitated and unable to work. It's laughable that you think everyone who claims to be depressed has a debilitating illness. (Yes, depression can be debilitating, but there are also plenty of people claiming "depression" when they're actually just lonely and want a chat with their GP because they have no one else to talk to, and plenty of people who claim depression to get out of working.)

"It’s still incredibly difficult to be prescribed meds and therapy won’t cure your “ADHD”. "

Complete and utter bollocks. If you are diagnosed with ADHD then you will be prescribed meds as standard and put on titration. It is not "incredibly difficult" at all it is literally standard treatment to put someone on meds, the NHS has a very well-implemented policy on how to titrate someone with a brand new ADHD diagnosis onto ADHD meds, and there are at least several ADHD medications being currently prescribed on the NHS so if one isn't effective, your NHS doctor will switch you to a different one.

My ADHD was diagnosed on the NHS (after 20 years of being under NHS care and being Sectioned regularly), I was given ADHD meds instantly, and the ADHD meds meant I was able to live a normal life for the first time in 20 years.

If I'd been diagnosed and given proper treatment 20 years ago it would have saved me being regularly Sectioned and definitely would have saved the NHS a lot of time and money.

ADHD is one of the more easily treated conditions and ADHD is absolutely a debilitating condition. I have a friend who's able to hold down a job for the first time in her life after a lifetime of debilitating undiagnosed neurodivergence. Being diagnosed and properly treated with medication means that she's been able to get off benefits, stop being an NHS frequent flyer, hold down a job and pay tax - and she certainly is far less of a "drain" on the NHS now that she's been diagnosed and just collects her meds once a month than when she was struggling to get a diagnosis all those years!

What do you think you're going to gain by pitting different conditions against each other?

White knickers with black leggings

Wearing gym clothes for all occasions. Gym clothes that are that tight you can literally see someones camel toe and the crack of their arse!

I can totally relate!! I had the misfortune of living next door to someone like that. They endlessly had parties, always to 6am - EVERY bank holiday plus (of course) their 4 birthdays... not once did it occur to them that not everyone has bank holidays off work!!! And even if I did - why would I want to stay up to 6am?

I can't fathom how it's socially acceptable either - everyone on the street whispered to each other that they were really upset about it, but no-one (except me) would do anything (it wasn't just parties they did to the neighbourhood so I guess the others just didn't want the trouble).

I think they see people partying till all hours on the TV and they think that's how they're supposed to live! Some kind of mark of success? The bigger the parties the better than the rest of us they are? #instagram culture ftw!!!

Honestly, the only way to make it stop is to move (which half the street ended up doing).

I don't think it is considered socially acceptable for men to pee in public. Just because some men do it, doesn't mean that most people think it's OK, nor does going shirtless at every available opportunity - I think it looks rather silly. Spitting is revolting and I think, to the vast majority of people, it is not socially acceptable.

I was on the tube the other day and the woman opposite me was cleaning her teeth with a tooth pick. That was revolting.

In fact, most of the things I find unacceptable I think are probably unacceptable to most people. For example, people on public transport who take up whole seats or sit on the outside of a seat to try and prevent someone from sitting next to them, or people dropping their litter or leaving it on public transport.

Personally, I don't like drag acts because I think they offer a crude and somewhat offensive caricature of women - in the same way as the black and white minstrel show offered a crude, and extremely offensive portrayal of black people. It seems, though, that many people find female impersonators acceptable.

I don't like many aspects of social media but it seems rather ironic of someone to criticise social media en masse while contributing to a social media platform.

When men with small willies like @makten85 became the social norm.

What did they right?

All of above, also those that park to do a shop in the drop off point in supermarkets especially when theres free parking opposite.