Things that are socially acceptable but you wish they were not

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I feel like a bit of a man. For me:

Men pissing by the side of the road. I have see this twice in the past few days, yet there were public loos close by. If a woman did this people would question her sanity, or at the very least think she was undignified yet for men it's considered normal.

Men going shirtless in public. Do what you like in your own garden, but why walk down the high street etc without a shirt. It's never that hot in England - in fact some much hotter climates actually have dignity laws that prohibit both men and women from even showing their arms or legs. Plus you know, sun burn.

Smoking. I hate walking behind someone who is smoking, it blows back in the face of the person behind and gives me a headache. It's unhealthy, expensive and should just be banged in public full stop imo.

Yes, I do hot yoga and there are always topless men in there and it just winds me up so much! You aren't any cooler, I don't want to see you topless. Especially in such a sweaty environment. It just feels very overbearing.

Yes, the majority of the men in yoga are usually topless! It doesn't bother me much but I also can't see that it makes them any cooler.

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Being in a Teams meeting at work, I don't work from home, my manager does, the door bell rings and they say, oh hang on a minute I need to get the door. If you was in the office, you wouldn't even know your door bell was ringing.

Or same person has children appearing on screen during half term, totally unprofessional. I just don't see how this has become acceptable.

Walking around with coffee cups a water bottles Eating whilst walking around outdoors.
Smoking, spitting, urinating, littering, throwing doggy bags on the ground or hanging them in trees or never picking up the poop in the first place.
Males walking around shirtless.
Males shirtless in hotels or guest houses especially at mealtimes.
Leaving a hotel with mates (all genders) possibly drunk and making excessive noise laughing and joking and saying lengthy goodbyes after midnight.
Vomitting in public.

I hate this, it is rude

Drag acts
Gender woo woo
Topless men in public in the UK but especially abroad - ashamed to see this
Sex neutral toilets
Phones at the dinner table

Also endless snacking and eating in public, especially on the street

People wearing sandles with unkempt feet, gnarly toenails and thick dead skin on their heels. Makes me want to throw up! 🤮

Make them up to your heart’s content, I totally agree with you.

Whistling. I hate it; it makes me anxious.

Noise.

I'm actually sitting here feeling like suicide is my only way out of this hell I live in as my neighbours are having yet another party without a thought for those around them that they're disturbing. Like the family on the other side of them with 2 young kids, my husband that starts his shifts at 5am, or me who has ptsd that is triggered by noise.
I have tried speaking reasonably to them in the past and only asked that they turn their music down, it was 1.20am and the noise had been going on since 7pm. They had a right go at me and I darent speak to them again so instead I'm curled up crying, with headphones on trying to drown out their noise, knowing neither I nor my husband will get any sleep tonight.

When did it become socially acceptable to be so noisy and so loud you can stop neighbours from sleeping? When did consideration for others become a laughable phrase. Hate today's society.

Short shorts that show camel toe and butt cheeks, basically the equivalent of speedos being worn in public.

Drivers who act like they're never pedestrians.

Men with hands down their trousers.

People who get on a full bus/train, ask someone to move their bag then put their own bag on the seat when the other person leaves.

Ugh, that reminds me of the time I sat open mouthed agog at a lady walking through a local shopping centre in what I thought was just a large Tshirt, turned out she was wearing flesh coloured leggings, not that it mattered much.

Owning more than one home

I hope those that dislike the folk who are seeking ADHD diagnosis realise how important it is for individuals to have that diagnosis. Without it their lives can be barely worth living, it causes family disruption and dysfunction, suicide, job insecurities and a shed load of other issues.

Perhaps they would be better off channeling their energies into an improvement in mental health services, instead of blaming those who may well share the same disadvantages as their family member

I agree with you. We lived something with constant barking dogs, it drove us absolutely crazy. Luckily we were able to leave. The stress was unbearable.

Noisy eating and sweet wrapper Crisp packet paper rustling in cinemas.
Chewing gum while having a conversation.
Wearing slippers and PJs outside and in shops
loud mobile chat on trains or buses.
Smoking or Vaping on the street.
Men with no tops on in the high street, keep your belly for the beach or garden.
Throwing litter out of car windows.

People who do this are sizing up your socioeconomic status to decide whether you're worth talking to or not.

To be honest, it’s probably a fault in me, but I wince when I see upper lip hair on women (usually old/older ones-sorry). They MUST see it themselves?
Equally off putting is nasal hair (mainly men, but occasionally women). Eugh!

You know that people exhale whether they're vaping or not, right?

Not at all, it's just an easy conversation starter. Hobbies are hard (I have none), and so are interests (I have many!)

Agree with several of the above. Also:

• vaping
• smoking, which increased as vaping took off (people even light up on train platforms)
• dog owners expecting everyone to want physical contact with their dog
• men wanting you to walk under their armpit to get through a doorway (just stand next to the unattached side when holding a door open, it's not difficult)
• the expectation that you must allow men to hug and even kiss you hello and goodbye (I don't have to hate you to not want you touching or slobbering on me, and yes they literally leave slobber sometimes)
• near-naked clothing (I didn't use to care what other people wore until my commute began entailing walking behind people in barely-there leggings up stairs/an escalator, as you can't not look because you risk face-planting)
• pressuring people to have alcohol (if you want a drink I'm not stopping you, so if I want a soft drink you should not try to stop me)
• Tories

I will defend eating on public transport and mobile phone conversations in the middle of something, e.g. paying, as long as they don't expect the other party to wait for them, e.g. they finish up paying without interruption as they would have anyway.

The first is because I used to work extremely long hours (early morning until after midnight) and grabbing some junk food from nearby prior to my journey was the only way I'd get to eat anything all day.

As for phone conversations, it's not something that affects me personally but I know someone whose caring responsibilities mean they often receive an unplanned phone call when they are in the middle of something and don't have any choice but to attend to it.

Organised religion.