How to bag a rich husband?

[Sugarfish]

I’m not really looking for a rich husband, I’m in a very happy long term relationship with my average earning partner, but I’ve seen a lot of threads here where women are married to dh’s who earn over 6 figures. And I’m just being nosey about how you met. Currently have covid and bored but also genuinely interested. Especially if you’re from different “classes” as I’m from a working class family and in my circles, no one earns close to that so I would not know where to look even if I did want to “marry well” as my mother would call it!

If you come from a high earning family, did you always have an expectation that you’d have a certain lifestyle so specifically chose someone with a high earning job? Or are you also a high earner and met through work / uni. If you’re a low earner compared to your husband, do you ever feel like he thinks he’s more important in the relationship because of this, and how did you meet him?

Also to switch it round for fairness, if you’re the higher earner, how did you meet and does your dh ever feel threatened? Do people ever comment on it?

Have any of you ever faced and snobbery / reverse snobbery due to your choice of Partner?

As I've said once before on a similar topic, brains tend to marry brains and high achievers marry other high achievers.

Stop looking for a husband and start climbing the professional ladder, then you might find a similarly well paid husband.

We earned the same when we met. His earnings have grown and grown, and I work in the NHS, so that was never going to happen!

You have to be around them to nab one. I met my very wealthy ex when I attended some sort of art show in a gallery in a posh area of London. I didn't really 'get' the type of art on show so propped myself at the bar with a cocktail and a few hours my ex approached

Hang out in bars where footballers go

In my circle the two old school friends who are now very wealthy married farmers sons who were only children, in-laws eventually died, sold farms now have millions. Not an option for me as the only farmer’s son I ever dated was one of 6, and not very attractive.

As I've said once before on a similar topic, brains tend to marry brains and high achievers marry other high achievers
I have noticed the men my DH used to work with didn’t necessarily follow this theory. About 2/3 married women who probably earned less than 10% that were not ambitions.

Met at Uni and been together ever since (25 years). He definitely didn't start put wealthy but went straight into a job after uni in pharma amd is still there but worked his way up. Now on 6 fig salary but we have had many years of financial hardship and struggle. I've always worked in public financed private companies so unable to match his salary and now earn one third of what he does.

I don't recommend a rich husband. Although I did alright out of the divorce

DH was 17 and I was 16 when we met at a party. Both working class ( he lived in the dodgy area with the rough school!) He was the ambitious one with his career while I was happy to be a SAHM. We definitely are a team and worked hard together so agree with that as well as well as finding someone young and ambitious!

Met at uni, I earned more than him for first few years then he started earning silly money and we had children. One with specific needs so I became a sahm

Wow!! How do you meet one of those 😃

OP to answer the last part of your question, I get a lot of reverse snobbery and snippy comments from my "D"M. Sniping about ideas above my station and "Well, the Holiday Inn was good enough for us, I don't know why you think you have to stay at the Ritz" kind of thing 🙄. Any time I have something nice, she has to be disparaging about it - or she'll buy me a crap version and make a fuss that the thing I have is too nice.

Also, I work too, despite the wealthy husband, I've got no interest in being a SAHM. I make 6 figures (barely) and like having my own money. We also chose to stay in the city with less space, so we don't have to deal with a long commute out to the suburbs/countryside.

Oh and per PPs, we met at Oxford 😂. Clearly we're a cliché.

We met at work, both earning the same amount.

We met at 19 when we were both broke and working in the same supermarket at the weekends. Came from similar backgrounds. He's just done very well in his career.

We met at work when he was earning six figures already. Now I actually earn more than him.

But looking at what goes on around me at work, in the City pretty and bright personal assistants tend to do very well at bagging rich senior husbands.

Haha I suppose I didn’t ask anything about keeping hold of a rich husband!

What the fuck is old??

Op if you hang out in poor area your not like to meet high earner

I’m married to a rich man. We met at work, both in the same job (although neither of us earning much at the time as we were unqualified juniors).

The fact he’s now rich is nice for us but I didn’t marry him for his earning potential. Marry for money and you’ll earn every penny.

I don't kmow how to spell her name but Jenkins in real housewives of Beverly Hills met her hugely wealthy now ex in a gym apparently..

We met at work. He earned more than me at the time, but it evened out. We both work in IT.

Online dating

Mine’s ex status now (but we have adult children). I worked in the same company and he was significantly higher up and earning ten times my salary. He wasn’t rich as such but we did have a very good standard of living. We’re both working class but he went to Uni and got a very good degree and I left school at sixteen with a few mediocre O levels. It started well but went horribly wrong. If I ever had another relationship (I like being single) I’d prefer someone with just an average job and average lifestyle. Funny how utterly miserable you can be whilst staying in a 5* luxury hotel.

My nan was like your mum. My dad’s side of the family didn’t have more money but were from a slightly nicer part of town. She said they were up themselves! Not sure if it was jealousy or insecurity. Or maybe she just didn’t like them. Looking back she fell out with a lot of people.

I’m Black and an immigrant. I suppose my family is upper middle class by Brit standards (where I’m from, there are just rich people and poor people - and we’re rich but not the richest). I currently earn about £70K.

DH is white British, Oxbridge, old money, works in the City. He’s on £140ish.

We met on an app.

Have any of you ever faced and snobbery / reverse snobbery due to your choice of Partner?

And, nope. Literally never.