DD's friend has been kicked out of home

[TheLastDreamOfTheOak]

....and is currently in our kitchen in tears. They are 15. He has had a fractious relationship with him mum and step dad for some time (though we only have his side if the story) but the rows
have apparently got worse this week. He left the house last night and was wandering around his village-he came to ours for a bit then I took him home. He said he told his mum about an earlier Suicde attempt last night and she told him to 'go away'. He has been at school today and she Has been sending him abusive messages all day telling him he is a waster etc, culminating in her saying she is chucking all his stuff out and not to come back.

I don't know the Mum at all. The boy is visibly distressed. We have a spare room he can stay in and I'm fine for him to do so-my view is it might take the heat out of the situation a bit. But I don't feel comfortable not speaking to the Mum
About it-I've asked
Him to send her my number and ask her to give me a ring. Not sure what else to do!

@TheLastDreamOfTheOak yes I want to add my thanks too, for standing up for this vulnerable child. I hope his situation in the medium term improves a lot, it must be so hard for him at the moment.

Not to mention the last 3 years of lockdown disrupting his education and being shut indoors with his family a lot of the time!

You should contact the school a.s.a.p. and let their welfare people deal with the local authority/police. You don't want to put yourself in the position of letting him stay when they have reported him missing. Might be a good idea to contact the police to let them know he is with you.
Teenagers are notorious interpreters of facts in their own favour, it could be that his story has little truth behind it.

Sorry, posted before I'd read all the OP's posts and see that the welfare people have it in hand.

Well done op. You sound like a wonderful social worker, and an overall good person in general. It's good to know there is some real genuine kindness out there. ♥️

This. I am a foster carer and frequently have teenage children's friends coming to our house for safety. Have also had one of their mothers turn up at my house and punch me in the face. For the young person to have gotten to this state he will already be broken by emotional abuse. It's common. This 15 year old has no reason to lie

Op
Not read the entire thread but read all your replies.
You are doing the right thing.
Male suicide is so high.
The poor boy - to be so totally rejected by his mother ....
You are a very kind person.
Hope your dd is ok too.

What a thing to say!! I have a stepdad who has brought me up my whole life. Amazing father! Such a judgemental comment!

I agree @BlueSeaWave in your response to @MadamArcati99

I was disappointed he or she tagged me into that reply. I think it's outrageous they made the comments they did about OP's DD, their having searched on unrelated issues on OP's previous threads.

This unfair and unhelpful MN behaviour by a few individual posters is the very reason some posters are forced to name change regularly on MN

I think @TheLastDreamOfTheOak has been incredibly supportive and thoughtful.

If that had been my DS (not that I'd behave like his mum did nor ever throw my 15 year old son out!!! ), I'd have been grateful to know where he was, that he was safe and had a warm bed and been fed that night (Ie. if he'd walked out after a row). But then I'd have been ringing round and out searching for him..!!

There's a sad story behind this for this teenager, whether he's troubled or not, whether this is a family not functioning well or whether as seems fact that this is neglect of a young teenager going through a time he feels abandoned by his mother. I am so glad he's getting support from school and Children's services.

It’s not judgmental. It’s a statistical fact. A child can be 100 times more likely to be abused if a step parent is moved into the house, there are various studies that have been done by respected scholars of differing fields. The most thorough study has been done by two evolutionary psychologists. It shows that all homicides known to the police of children under 5 being beaten to death by their biological fathers numbered at 2.6 per million children. That corresponds with 321.6 children per million beaten to death by their stepfathers.

Oh absolutely wrong that they tagged you in that post, and I hope it came across my anger to them against you. Still can’t believe they posted that on this thread for support. Bonkers.
i name change regularly for this reason.

You must be a very good social worker. Well done you 👏.

@TheLastDreamOfTheOak you have such a good heart - you must be amazing in your job x