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What is something someone has said that is etched in your brain?

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WhiteNoiseMoreToys · 19/02/2023 21:49

Mine is when I was 17, pretty self conscious and just finished being intimate with my then boyfriend.

We decided to get up and go out and as I sat up to put my top on he poked my belly and said “Christ, you could feed Africa with that tyre” it baffles me now, how brazen it was to just come out with it. But I was a size 8-10 and honestly I think I’m still confused 😂

Its one of those things that ‘pop’ into my mind at random times ans it’s gout me wondering what others peoples ‘moments’ are when they remember something someone has said that might not have significance, but will always be remembered.

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ILoveCats89 · 21/02/2023 23:19

You are fat and ugly and I don't want you. If I don't want you no man ever will.

JoonT · 21/02/2023 23:25

”It’s all downhill from here.” Said to me on my 40th birthday!!

2ndTimeRound90 · 21/02/2023 23:26

I work in a patient-facing job and when I was a student on placement, one of my tutors advised me 'always pay attention to the last thing the person brings up at the end of the appointment, as that is often the thing that they are most worried about or is most important to them'. I still consider this theory regularly both in and out of work!

rosegoldJune · 21/02/2023 23:38

An ex (not ex husband) telling me I needed a tummy tuck & my boobs doing, I managed to lose 10 stone after my divorce & yes had flabby skin but he wasn’t perfect himself far from it! I’m still so self conscious to this day with new partners.

ellamar1 · 21/02/2023 23:52

During a very intimate moment my partner asked me to remind him to ring his mum tomorrow he could not understand why I was annoyed by it.

Iris1976 · 21/02/2023 23:59

After being mercilessly bullied the first year of secondary school,the maths teacher thought it was ok to shout at me in front of the whole class using the "nickname" the bullies tormented me with.

Iris1976 · 22/02/2023 00:03

And my dad saying if he hadn't had us kids he could have bought himself a jeep.funnily a few years later parents got divorced and he never bothered with us after,but instead of buying a jeep he very very quickly married another woman and raised her kids instead.

Newnamesoembarrassed · 22/02/2023 00:37

A boy I was supposedly very good friends with as a teen, I was about 16, he was 19…. I was keeping him company at his work in a golf shop with zero customers ever, he had a phone call from a different friend. I was sat next to him and my friend said he was working but I was there keeping him company.

He then said:
”no!!!! Change the middle letter and she’s that” followed by lots of laughing and sniggering.

I know held was asked if I was “fit” but he had meant change it to “fat”. It was the buzz phrase of the time.

I was a size 10 with an eating disorder I was just starting to get over and he knew that very well. I froze. I literally couldn’t move or respond in anyway. I’ve never felt more ashamed and embarrassed. He was a shit human.

I think about it most days nearly 30 years later.

Mamanyt · 22/02/2023 00:39

Overheard. My mother was talking to a friend whose elder son (a true Golden Boy) had died. She said, "It seems that God always takes the best and brightest, and we just have to soldier on with whatever is left." Bear in mind, my sister died days before I was born, so I was "whatever is left."

Skone · 22/02/2023 00:44

I was around 12 Me and mum were in a shop looking at some crochet placemats along with another lady. The lady commented that they were nice and mum said oh, she knows how to make them. I was a bit embarrassed by the compliment (crochet wasn't trendy then). Then the lady said 'oh how nice. She can put them in her hope chest.' My mums reply: 'More like hopeless' I felt so hurt. When I got home I looked up the word hope chest because i didnt know what that was and my heart just broke and remember crying alone. My mum thought I was hopeless and no one would want to marry me :( I think about that now and again after it happened decades ago.

Fluffmum · 22/02/2023 01:04

I had just had an emergency c section and through my haze I heard the theatre nurse telling my extremely worried DH that he has a baby boy and tell your wife to get on a diet as soon as the stitches heal. I was 14 stone at 40 weeks.

MotherOfUnicorns4 · 22/02/2023 07:32

"You know I've always loved you." From my stepmother who had been so cold and nasty to me that she gave me an eating disorder.
I was also told by an optician that the thing he'd found in my eye was going to cause me to go blind. Turned out to be a freckle that had always been there.

OracleMiracle · 22/02/2023 07:37

DMum several times when I was growing up: ‘I didn’t get married to have kids’ and ‘I love you but I don’t like you’.
DDad ‘You have to share‘ when my DD had just been born and I was expected to just hand her over and leave her with them.

Sab1981 · 22/02/2023 08:45

My mum died when I was 8, my dad remarried a year later. When I was 20 I asked my dad and step mum why they had never ever hugged me growing up, and their response was "well you weren't a huggable child" no wonder I felt completely shit about myself.

Heyhoitsme · 22/02/2023 10:32

I was heavily pregnant and going out for a meal. My childless friend shouted into the restaurant "wide load coming through"! I was mortified.

Silvergone · 22/02/2023 10:56

“Control is something you take.”

Hellosunnysun8 · 22/02/2023 10:59

“You don’t listen, you wait to talk.” Said by my ex boyfriend when I was about 16.

Ouch! He might have been right - I can’t remember. But I’ve always been self conscious of it and made sure that isn’t true since!

CountryMouse22 · 22/02/2023 11:20

Some of these make me wonder why anyone ever has children.

Something I always remember is being at a fairground, age about 13, with a prettier neighbour and a fair employee (some youth) saying he fancied my friend but not me. You never forget something like that.

StaceySolomonSwash · 22/02/2023 11:37

A man I was casually dating told me my legs were sturdy (just out of the blue while we were having a drink) and then asked if we could go back to mine next. I just looked at him and said that my sturdy legs won't go that far and walked out.

My mother at the start of every phone call would ask how my diet was going. I was never on a diet but she used it to try and knock my confidence. But after 35 years of her constant put downs I had learned to ignore her.

My mother would when I was a teen, if I'd accidentally put my finger through my tights, had to redo my eyeliner, had a period leak anything slightly embarrassing would tell my friends what I'd done. In full blown detail implying what a sad klutz I was.

I've not been in contact with her for the last 18 years and I don't miss her constant jibes and put downs.

JaffaCake70 · 22/02/2023 11:53

My Dad took his own life when I was 22. When I was in my 30's, a very abusive boyfriend I had told me that my Dad took his life because he was ashamed of me for having a baby out of wedlock. He said that he'll have been thinking about what a let down I was as he kicked the stones to the side of the railway track where his life tragically ended.

I wish this hadn't affected me because I know it isn't true, my Dad had suffered with his mental health for most of his adult life,

It still sickens me to think that someone could be so cruel to say such a thing.

butterfliedtwo · 22/02/2023 12:10

JaffaCake70 · 22/02/2023 11:53

My Dad took his own life when I was 22. When I was in my 30's, a very abusive boyfriend I had told me that my Dad took his life because he was ashamed of me for having a baby out of wedlock. He said that he'll have been thinking about what a let down I was as he kicked the stones to the side of the railway track where his life tragically ended.

I wish this hadn't affected me because I know it isn't true, my Dad had suffered with his mental health for most of his adult life,

It still sickens me to think that someone could be so cruel to say such a thing.

That's shockingly cruel.

Buttonjugs · 22/02/2023 12:24

RudsyFarmer · 19/02/2023 22:17

The worst words that have been said about me have always been by men.

An ex that called me fat when I was around 15. I had been very ill and I can remember being devastated. My dad called me lazy a lot. Not unsurprisingly fat and lazy are things I say to myself a lot.

There is no such thing as being lazy. It is a horrible word for unmotivated.

WickedSerious · 22/02/2023 12:42

StaceySolomonSwash · 22/02/2023 11:37

A man I was casually dating told me my legs were sturdy (just out of the blue while we were having a drink) and then asked if we could go back to mine next. I just looked at him and said that my sturdy legs won't go that far and walked out.

My mother at the start of every phone call would ask how my diet was going. I was never on a diet but she used it to try and knock my confidence. But after 35 years of her constant put downs I had learned to ignore her.

My mother would when I was a teen, if I'd accidentally put my finger through my tights, had to redo my eyeliner, had a period leak anything slightly embarrassing would tell my friends what I'd done. In full blown detail implying what a sad klutz I was.

I've not been in contact with her for the last 18 years and I don't miss her constant jibes and put downs.

My mother never missed an opportunity to put me down,it stopped bothering me when I was about sixteen and I realised nothing I did would ever be good enough for her.

BucketofTeaMassiveCake · 22/02/2023 12:54

My narcissistic and cruel-tongued dad said to me when I was about 16 and struggling in an early job, "Just remember that you're as good as anybody else, you're just new, that's all."

All well and good, but after 15 years of treating me as though I was an inferior being because I was quiet and shy did you really expect me to believe you?

Ilikeredtoomuch · 22/02/2023 12:57

“Sht, Sht, Sh*t!” Said my husband when I told him I was pregnant with our second child. We had decided to wait and save up and recover from maternity leave, but it was too late. He’s regretted it since but I have never forgotten!