What is something someone has said that is etched in your brain?

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Mine is when I was 17, pretty self conscious and just finished being intimate with my then boyfriend.

We decided to get up and go out and as I sat up to put my top on he poked my belly and said “Christ, you could feed Africa with that tyre” it baffles me now, how brazen it was to just come out with it. But I was a size 8-10 and honestly I think I’m still confused 😂

Its one of those things that ‘pop’ into my mind at random times ans it’s gout me wondering what others peoples ‘moments’ are when they remember something someone has said that might not have significance, but will always be remembered.

“Does she have to come ? She cramps my style”

My dad, about 15 yo me

Yeah to be honest pregnancy wasn't a great look for you......
To be honest I don't fancy you since you put weight on (I had gone up a dress size since having four kids)

From therapy: ‘you wouldn’t think that of your best friend so why are you thinking it about yourself’. My mind was blown

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Oh those are both shitty! I’m sorry that those words are the ones that are stuck in your heads.

@MeganLogan hmm that is quite ‘food for thought’ and I think I quite like that one..

Coming home from collecting my GCSE results very proud with 7 B's and 4 C's. Happily told my dad the news. He says 'what, no A's?'. Really rained on my parade

Someone hugged me and uttered in my ear "just because I am hugging you, does not mean I like you".
Still sticks with me now. She was an utter bitch anyway.

Awww, OP, what a rotter. I hope you dumped him for that!

Mine was one of my university tutors who said that I was a survivor. I actually did turn out to be a survivor, but a lifetime on I'm still wondering what she saw in me to make her say that.

Immediately after sex, only a couple of months into the relationship, bf said 'you remind me of my ex gf'.

We're still together but I've never forgotten it.

Some of these are brutal 😳

I remember vividly a horrible man I knew once making an astonishingly heartless and rude (and completely unfounded) comment about people living with HIV. I was actually rooted to the spot in astonishment - that conversation is indeed etched on my brain.

Having lost weight after an injury caused the gain, my boss at the time commented after someone said doesn’t Gin look good having lost weight? yes well she did need to . 🙄

I went for a job interview for a telemarketing thing when I was a student. There as a draft script to read. When we'd completed the task the interviewer asked me if I was just getting over a cold or "if my voice always sounded like that". I've been paranoid about my voice ever since. That's 21 years ago.

A Valentine's card when I was 15 (40 years ago) with the verse
"Those tight jeans around that skinny crotch
Turn me on so very much."
I was horrified and upset and I never found out who sent it.

My boss talking about someone in the company "Pallisers, there is no such thing as a part-time alcoholic"

The worst words that have been said about me have always been by men.

An ex that called me fat when I was around 15. I had been very ill and I can remember being devastated. My dad called me lazy a lot. Not unsurprisingly fat and lazy are things I say to myself a lot.

Similar to the OP - and a couple of other posters on here. When I was about 17/18, I was dating this bloke - about four or five years older than me, and we were about three weeks in. We were sitting on the couch in my mum and dads dining room, when he squeezed me around the waist, and said 'wow you got a really bloody flabby ring of lard around your middle haven't you fatty?' with a massive grin! 'Yeah, you could pinch more than an inch!' (Remember the pinch an inch campaign? Fucking awful THAT was! Can you pinch more than an inch? You must be obese then.)

I am 5 foot 3 and I was eight stone 5 pounds. And a size 8/10. I was already a little bit conscious about my weight and my size because I was a couple of stone heavier a couple years before and had lost weight, and actually felt OK about myself. Yet here was this 22 year old MAN telling me I was a flabby lardy porker. I dumped him that night, but what he said sent me into a spiral of crash dieting.

Every woman I have ever spoken to has a tale to tell of being fatshamed by a man - or boy. And most of the time they were not a single ounce overweight.

Back in the days when we did end of year tests at primary (late 60s) and we were placed, I got my results and was placed 8th out of a class of 45 ( big classes back then) i would have been about 9 then.
I went home excited to tell my parents I came 8th. My dad's response,: Are you some sort of dummy?
Yes my parade was well and truly pissed on

A man I used to work with (he's since left) liked to remind anybody who'd listen that I had no experience in the industry when I started my new role. He said it repeatedly. 'I would explain but you've got no experience' or 'I can't believe the believe the business has employed somebody with no experience'. I still hear those words in my head some days.

When I was a teenager and was objecting to going somewhere (can't remember where now) my dad saying:
" oh you just go home and sit picking your nose over a magazine like you usually do"
For some reason that pops into my head even now (35 years later) every time I try to have a relaxing day, then I get up and get busy again.

I have always had self esteem issues.. when I was 15 a girl said urg who invited her when I went to a party

“You’re no oil painting yourself”. From my then-husband. He literally never said anything nice about my appearance. I don’t think he found me attractive, or even liked me very much, but it took that comment for me to realise it. And yeah, I hear it often when I look in the mirror.

Another thing that springs to mind... when I was in my mid 20s, I was holding my cousin's first baby.

One of my parents neighbours said 'look at the way you hold that baby - You ain't got a bloody clue how to hold him. He's not a sack of potatoes! Imagine YOU with your own baby. Bloody hell!' That will be a laugh!' And she started laughing at me.

Fucking bitch. She made me feel so self-conscious. When I had my first DC, I told my parents I didn't want this woman in the house while I was there with my DC. Luckily she rarely came. The first time she toddled over when my first baby was 4-5 months old, I left via the back door immediately. I think she got the message, that she was a rude and nasty and horrible woman who I wanted nothing to do with.

A disgruntled ex wrote me a really vile email shortly after saying I had "mongoloid eyes" and that he could understand why my ex husband was abusive to me.

When it pops into my head I'm just massively fucking relieved I dumped him.

My Dad once said to me "I saw you ignoring me, walking down the road all poshed up to meet your swanky friends". I was devastated that he thought I had ignored him because I adored him. I honestly hadn't seen him pass by in his van, I was actually on the way to a club for the.l elderly where I'd been asked to help put a party on for a 100th birthday. It made me.see him differently. I was about 15 or 16, I'm 58 now and still remember it.

When you was born you were at the back of the line when brains were given out.