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"All women are bisexual"

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Louise4939 · 16/02/2023 23:41

Why do many men believe this? Because even on the internet I've seen articles which prove that we are all bisexual or lesbian but never straight. If sexuality was a choice then I dont think many of us would be picking men lol

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monsteramunch · 17/02/2023 13:52

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I mean I literally told you I find men's bodies as attractive, have a male partner and am very happy and in love with him so your comment of 'all you womeb' (how apt you dislike women so much your fingers couldn't even bear to type the word correctly) doesn't apply to me does it?

I don't watch porn and I don't look at men's or women's nudes because I'm in a happy, healthy and monogamous relationship.

I'd say you should try it but you sound completely unable to have a healthy dynamic with a woman due to the anger you feel towards us.

Therapy could change your life.

Cassie9032 · 17/02/2023 13:55

@Username4993 You need to work on your self esteem and you shouldn't rely on women looking at male porn etc to feel validated. Also you need to calm the F down lol

SinnerBoy · 17/02/2023 13:56

I think that Username4993 would definitely benefit greatly from a trip to a planet called "Earth."

Username4993 · 17/02/2023 13:58

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RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 17/02/2023 14:07

Men are also more funnier, laid back and interesting lets be real

hahahahahahaha…nope

monsteramunch · 17/02/2023 14:08

Because I want women to be visually aroused by my body, I dont want them to find me attractive only if there is a connection or because I gave them attention

So you only want a women who would still be physically attracted to you without any connection with you or attention from you? How small and fragile is your ego that you don't want to be seen as a whole person?

Mate do us all a favour and just buy a flashlight, honestly.

And stop listening to Andrew Tate, which I'm certain you do or have done and thought how terribly clever and manly he is. Spoiler alert - he's a sex offender who hates women. Which is funnily enough the reason we tend not to like him either, rather than it being due to us fearing his 'truth' as he likes to kid himself!

If you're completely honest, do you subscribe to the incel / black pill ideology?

monsteramunch · 17/02/2023 14:10

@Username4993

Men are also more funnier, laid back and interesting lets be real

Yeah you do sound incredibly chilled out and a right laugh to be fair.

LittleBoPeepHasLostHerShit · 17/02/2023 14:24

I'm 100% straight. I know this because I know myself and nobody can mansplain tell me otherwise.

SeasonalDependency · 17/02/2023 14:26

As a bi woman, no not all women are bi.

I'm straight passing since I am in a hetero relationship with a child, perhaps my only giveaways are my love for dungarees and septum piercing (jk)

I have many straight friends and conversations I've had with them about my bisexuality very much indicates none of them are attracted to the same sex.

SandraCumin · 17/02/2023 14:27

SeasonalDependency · 17/02/2023 14:26

As a bi woman, no not all women are bi.

I'm straight passing since I am in a hetero relationship with a child, perhaps my only giveaways are my love for dungarees and septum piercing (jk)

I have many straight friends and conversations I've had with them about my bisexuality very much indicates none of them are attracted to the same sex.

Do you not feel like you’ve betrayed your feminist roots by being attracted to women yet choosing to cohabit with an oppressor? You should be with another woman, there’s no excuse for you.

SeasonalDependency · 17/02/2023 14:32

Are you serious 😂

I fell in love with a pretty amazing man. I've been with him for many years and have no desire to be with someone else, man or woman. He is certainly not an oppressor, he's a wonderful human I would choose above and beyond 99.999% of the population.

monsteramunch · 17/02/2023 14:33

@SandraCumin

Do you not feel like you’ve betrayed your feminist roots by being attracted to women yet choosing to cohabit with an oppressor? You should be with another woman, there’s no excuse for you.

Who on earth do you think you are?! What an utterly bizarre way to speak to a complete stranger about their life choices.

You are married to a man yourself, as you said upthread. You said you think men's bodies are repulsive. And that you believe the only reason you're with a man is due to brainwashing. Based on your question to PP just now, aren't you betraying your feminist roots by continuing to be in that relationship instead of being single and independent? Aren't you upholding the heteronormative standards you criticise throughout this thread despite feeling they are unnatural and wrong?

Glass houses and all that.

LowbrowVictoriana · 17/02/2023 14:34

SandraCumin · 17/02/2023 14:27

Do you not feel like you’ve betrayed your feminist roots by being attracted to women yet choosing to cohabit with an oppressor? You should be with another woman, there’s no excuse for you.

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What now @SandraCumin ? You're not a proper feminist if you don't opt to live with another woman?

I'm not sure you know what feminist or bisexual means. Neither mean lesbian, as you seem to think - though you can, of course be a feminist lesbian.

monsteramunch · 17/02/2023 14:38

@SandraCumin you criticise bisexual women for 'choosing to live with an oppressor' when they also find women attractive.

Yet you live with a man (one of the oppressors in your opinion) rather than choosing to be single?

You know you don't have to be in a relationship with a man (you don't have to be in a relationship with anyone at all!) if you feel so strongly about this that you berate other women for loving and living with men just like you do?

SeasonalDependency · 17/02/2023 14:40

You are married to a man yourself, as you said upthread. You said you think men's bodies are repulsive. And that you believe the only reason you're with a man is due to brainwashing. Based on your question to PP just now, aren't you betraying your feminist roots by continuing to be in that relationship instead of being single and independent? Aren't you upholding the heteronormative standards you criticise throughout this thread despite feeling they are unnatural and wrong?

Oh wow, that makes her comment more wild.

I'm not gay. I'm bisexual. I am attracted to both sexes but I haven't explicitly chosen one sex, I have chosen to be with a person who I love, connect with, and feel loved by.

LowbrowVictoriana · 17/02/2023 14:40

Oh you live with a man, too, @SandraCumin ? Then what you wrote to @SeasonalDependency is even more ridiculous than I first thought.

SandraCumin · 17/02/2023 14:40

monsteramunch · 17/02/2023 14:33

@SandraCumin

Do you not feel like you’ve betrayed your feminist roots by being attracted to women yet choosing to cohabit with an oppressor? You should be with another woman, there’s no excuse for you.

Who on earth do you think you are?! What an utterly bizarre way to speak to a complete stranger about their life choices.

You are married to a man yourself, as you said upthread. You said you think men's bodies are repulsive. And that you believe the only reason you're with a man is due to brainwashing. Based on your question to PP just now, aren't you betraying your feminist roots by continuing to be in that relationship instead of being single and independent? Aren't you upholding the heteronormative standards you criticise throughout this thread despite feeling they are unnatural and wrong?

Glass houses and all that.

I was brainwashed though. I would have given anything to be attracted to women so I would never have to deal with one ever again. Yes I may have been a wee bit confrontational with my questioning I apologise, but I just get frustrated when supposedly women who are attracted to other women choose men. I mean, do you not understand how lucky you are?

LowbrowVictoriana · 17/02/2023 14:43

You definitely HAVE been brainwashed, @SandraCumin , but not by the people you think.

rexythedinosaur · 17/02/2023 14:45

You'll never know unless you talk to every woman on the planet.

ConfusedNT · 17/02/2023 14:47

SandraCumin · 17/02/2023 14:27

Do you not feel like you’ve betrayed your feminist roots by being attracted to women yet choosing to cohabit with an oppressor? You should be with another woman, there’s no excuse for you.

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Has @SeasonalDependency actually said she is a feminist. I mean she quite possibly is but I think the assumption that lesbian/bisexual woman must = feminist to be rather tiring as it just lays an expectation on women who aren't straight that straight women don't encounter as much

Also feminism doesn't automatically mean someone thinks men are our oppressors. There are many strands on of feminism.

Finally how dare you tell a bisexual women she should be with a woman. Do you really think it's okay to go around laying down your rules for who people can and cannot be in a relationship with? Explain how that is better than homophobia please? Luckily for bisexual women in the UK they are in a country where they can be in a relationship with an consenting adult without having to abide by rules some random posters make up

You clearly have some unresolved issues with your comments about men. But that's for you to resolve instead of coming on here and berating women who are confident in their choices

monsteramunch · 17/02/2023 14:50

@SandraCumin

I was brainwashed though. I would have given anything to be attracted to women so I would never have to deal with one ever again. Yes I may have been a wee bit confrontational with my questioning I apologise, but I just get frustrated when supposedly women who are attracted to other women choose men. I mean, do you not understand how lucky you are?

So you'd rather hold up the patriarchal structure you say you hate, by staying in your relationship, than being a single and independent woman?

The options aren't 'be with a man' or 'be with a woman'. You can 'be single' too. You don't feel strongly enough to step outside of the structure you claim to hate if it causes you any upheaval (even though you say men are disgusting and you don't believe at your core you should be with them) but pour scorn on other people for living with and loving men, just because they are also capable of finding women attractive?

You're frustrated that bisexual women like me have 'chosen a man over a woman' when you've chosen, and continue to choose, a man over just being single.

Your comments have been really offensive to be honest. And bizarre.

ConfusedNT · 17/02/2023 14:50

SandraCumin · 17/02/2023 14:40

I was brainwashed though. I would have given anything to be attracted to women so I would never have to deal with one ever again. Yes I may have been a wee bit confrontational with my questioning I apologise, but I just get frustrated when supposedly women who are attracted to other women choose men. I mean, do you not understand how lucky you are?

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supposedly women who are attracted to other women

Supposedly? But not actually right because you can't be a real bisexual person and be in a relationship with a man?

The biphobia is strong in this one...

ThisWOMANWontWheesht · 17/02/2023 14:52

Why are you in a relationship with a man, @SandraCumin ?Given that you have the choice not to be in a relationship at all, if being with a man is such a terrible anti-feminist thing to do.

And talking of anti-feminist, berating other women for their freely made life and sexual choices? Shame on you.

SeasonalDependency · 17/02/2023 14:56

I just get frustrated when supposedly women who are attracted to other women choose men

Supposedly? I'm still bisexual even though I'm in a relationship with a man, same as I would still be attracted to men if I was with a woman. Jesus, you're wearing your biphobia a bit too proudly there.

Beezknees · 17/02/2023 15:02

SandraCumin · 17/02/2023 10:32

Men are literally disgusting. They smell, they are hideously hairy in all the wrong places and their genitals are absolutely odious to the senses. Ask yourself if it is natural for us to be attracted to such poor specimens because it is not. You have been conditioned into wanting it.

I don't feel that way about men.