Can you really be gay at 7?

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So its valentines day. My daughter is 7. I helped her make a card for her friend (on her request) and said friend bought her a rose and a load of sweets. Cute right? I picked my daughter up this afternoon and she said matter of factly, her valentine was her girlfriend and they are both lesbian. School friends have called them gay for exchanging gifts. She insists they are girlfriends and she's asked her out. I've just said OK, I'm glad you have each other. I've pushed it no further. Can you really know at 7 or is this just the age that boys are mean and yucky and girls are just nicer to you?! I'm not holding my breath as she is still little and I would have absolutely no problem with her being gay, it's just shocked me how matter of fact she is so young about it. Is this a sign of things to come or is it nothing? Just mentally preparing myself!

I don't think it matters personally. I mean I suppose it could matter if people's sexuality was being squashed at 7 but since it isn't in this case I don't think it matters either way really. She could well be gay or she could be describing the very intense feelings of love that people have for friends (esp girls). Or she could be channeling all the messages we're bombarded with all day every day about women being the ones who are sexually attractive.

Whatever the relationship is it sounds lovely and to be celebrated and enjoyed.

Well my 7 year old wants to marry her dad.....enough said!

Normal, dont worry or do anything

"I remember being 8-ish and me and my friends had lists of boys we liked in school. It wasn’t copying adults, we fancied them 🤣"

I can't remember exactly how old the teacher was, could have been 8 as well.
And like I said in another post, I don't doubt that some children do have crushes way before puberty.

I definitely fancied boys when I was 7 or even longer! I loved playing kiss chase in the playground, haha.