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Why is my friend trying to make out I'm crazy?

157 replies

ohdontthinkimnot · 31/01/2023 11:35

My friends boyfriend set me up with his friend.
The 4 of us went out twice and me and the guy hit it off.
He made it clear he wanted to spend time with me.
We went to a outdoor gig and it was cold but really fun.
Then it all got weird ...
He said he was going to get a drink and my friend said "oh she will hate you leaving her on her own,she will go crazy in a minute"
So he asks me "if I minded"
I told him of course not

Then my friend pipes up laughing
"She was asking if you were talking to any other women -she was so jealous when you mentioned your female friend"
"Crazy lucy came out to play"

It was normal chit chat like you do with your friends.
Then later she was back again with her "oh feb real Lucy will be out soon-your a bit stalkery aren't you"
So I snapped "what are you talking about"
She giggled "see this is the crazy coming out and laughed"

So we all went back to his and when they went to bed I said to him
"Maybe next time we leave her at home and just go out the both of us"
He looked confused and said "are you a bit crazy like she was saying? "
I said "I don't know what her issue is "

He has been a bit off with me since
Have I blown it?
Why did she do this ?
I feel like crying

OP posts:
ScatteredMama82 · 31/01/2023 11:38

She sounds jealous! It probably did make him feel awkward but if you like him, try messaging him suggesting an outing just the two of you.

Walterwhiteswifey · 31/01/2023 11:38

Think your friend secretly fancies him so is trying to scupper your chances with him.

Hawkins002 · 31/01/2023 11:38

Very charming of your friend. Just keep being yourself other wise if you try to react ect it may be you prove your the person they think you are

Hoppinggreen · 31/01/2023 11:39

She’s a cow, not your friend

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ohdontthinkimnot · 31/01/2023 11:40

I think me trying to prove I'm not crazy has actually made me look crazy
He showed me a text off her saying
"Hope you have a good date with the psycho if you choose to go out with her again "

I pulled her up on it and she said "all in jest "

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Stressfordays · 31/01/2023 11:41

You need to ditch that friend. Tell her shes the fucking psycho and block her. What an absolute fruit cake.

MeMyCatsAndMyBooks · 31/01/2023 11:41

Stop calling her your friend, she's not a friend. Ditch her.

And ask him on a date.

IScreamAtMichaelangelos · 31/01/2023 11:42

She's not much of a friend, is she? Continue the calm and confused line - don't get annoyed or it will fit into her nasty narrative.

FiveGoMadInDorset · 31/01/2023 11:42

You need a new friend

Circumferences · 31/01/2023 11:43

Wow I would not put up with that assholery.

You sound like the opposite of a psyco! More of a wet blanket!

She's made it clear as fuck she's no friend to you.

WhiskersPete · 31/01/2023 11:44

She fancies him!!

sydneysunset · 31/01/2023 11:44

Yes she’s definitely not a friend. Shocking

WhiskersPete · 31/01/2023 11:44

And she is not your friend!

Fernticket · 31/01/2023 11:44

She is no friend. She probably wants him for herself, or she secretly doesn't want you to have a boyfriend at all (wants to feel superior to you). Deffo distance yourself from her.
Its funny how they are ever 'only joking' when they pull shit like this.

Original poster
ohdontthinkimnot · 31/01/2023 11:45

I think I've already blown it
The way I reacted to her saying "this is the real Lucy ,the crazy one"
I don't think It's in his head now

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35965a · 31/01/2023 11:46

She’s not a friend. Probably projecting her own ‘crazy’ attributes onto you because she’s either jealous or just a horrible human being.

BocolateChiscuits · 31/01/2023 11:46

Probably best just to leave it. Dump the "friend", just forget about the guy. Say he does like you, it'll just tie you into the friend's life and orbit and make your life miserable.

No idea what her issue is, but whatever it is, you need to steer well clear.

Hawkins002 · 31/01/2023 11:48

ohdontthinkimnot · 31/01/2023 11:40

I think me trying to prove I'm not crazy has actually made me look crazy
He showed me a text off her saying
"Hope you have a good date with the psycho if you choose to go out with her again "

I pulled her up on it and she said "all in jest "

It's seems not much help from the seems of it, either that of filp the situation and embrace the strange then it's up-to the guy or not

RoseBucket · 31/01/2023 11:49

Jesus walk away from both of them, who needs that drama in their life. She is not a friend.

1smallhamsterfoot · 31/01/2023 11:51

Both her and him in the bin

DestinysGrandchild · 31/01/2023 11:51

Safe sounds like she's got a screw loose.

NowThatIThink · 31/01/2023 11:51

This is one of these bafflinf Mn threads where 'friend' appears to me 'someone who repeatedly sabotages something in my life that is going well'.

Honestly, OP, surely even the most blinkered person can see that this kind of deliberately undermining behaviour isn't that of a friend?

Original poster
ohdontthinkimnot · 31/01/2023 11:53

It would never work between me and him would it considering he is friends with her and partner ?
There would always be Agro wouldn't there ?

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itsnote · 31/01/2023 11:55

Don't contact either of them.

She sounds horrible. Attention seeking

SallyWD · 31/01/2023 11:58

Why are you still friends with her?! If my friend texted a man I was seeing and called me "psycho" she wouldn't be a friend anymore. She sounds about 13. I'd end the friendship and never let her meet anyone you're dating again.