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Why is my friend trying to make out I'm crazy?

157 replies

ohdontthinkimnot · 31/01/2023 11:35

My friends boyfriend set me up with his friend.
The 4 of us went out twice and me and the guy hit it off.
He made it clear he wanted to spend time with me.
We went to a outdoor gig and it was cold but really fun.
Then it all got weird ...
He said he was going to get a drink and my friend said "oh she will hate you leaving her on her own,she will go crazy in a minute"
So he asks me "if I minded"
I told him of course not

Then my friend pipes up laughing
"She was asking if you were talking to any other women -she was so jealous when you mentioned your female friend"
"Crazy lucy came out to play"

It was normal chit chat like you do with your friends.
Then later she was back again with her "oh feb real Lucy will be out soon-your a bit stalkery aren't you"
So I snapped "what are you talking about"
She giggled "see this is the crazy coming out and laughed"

So we all went back to his and when they went to bed I said to him
"Maybe next time we leave her at home and just go out the both of us"
He looked confused and said "are you a bit crazy like she was saying? "
I said "I don't know what her issue is "

He has been a bit off with me since
Have I blown it?
Why did she do this ?
I feel like crying

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WarrickDavisAsPlates · 31/01/2023 11:58

Why would she even set you up with a friend of hers of she really believed you were a "psycho" or "stalker"

She's clearly just being a bitch and is not a nice friend. If you're desperate to see this guy again maybe message him saying you had a nice time and ask if he's free to meet up again just the two of you. But I probably wouldn't bother as your "friend" will probably try and ruin it again anyway.

picnicshnicnic · 31/01/2023 11:58

ohdontthinkimnot · 31/01/2023 11:53

It would never work between me and him would it considering he is friends with her and partner ?
There would always be Agro wouldn't there ?

How old is she?

I can't imagine a guy being impressed with that behaviour.

I would just say to him "look, she's gone really weird. I'm not crazy in the least. If I was, why would she set you up with me? And then start all this childish behaviour.
I think she must have a thing for you. I'm. It going to get in an arguement with her over this, but I don't want any involvement and will be pulling back from her. If you want to go out for a drink, just us, that would be great. Otherwise no hard feelings."

Sorry your mate is such a dick.

olympicsrock · 31/01/2023 12:00

What a bitch she is!

Brefugee · 31/01/2023 12:00

jesus, ditch her. Chalk this one up to experience.
Send her one last message telling her to fuck off and grow up then just ignore ignore ignore (bin her off any social media - just make sure she can't see your posts etc, don't block or she'll use that as "evidence")

Good luck

Tamarindtree · 31/01/2023 12:02

What a vile creature she is.

Dump her and then if he contacts you I would personally say no because she is always going to be stirring the pot.

Thesearmsofmine · 31/01/2023 12:02

Yeah she fancies him or likes being the one with a boyfriend. She’s not a friend and I would just distance myself from her. If you like him then I would just ask him to meet for a drink or something and not mention her.

Ohhmydays · 31/01/2023 12:03

picnicshnicnic · 31/01/2023 11:58

How old is she?

I can't imagine a guy being impressed with that behaviour.

I would just say to him "look, she's gone really weird. I'm not crazy in the least. If I was, why would she set you up with me? And then start all this childish behaviour.
I think she must have a thing for you. I'm. It going to get in an arguement with her over this, but I don't want any involvement and will be pulling back from her. If you want to go out for a drink, just us, that would be great. Otherwise no hard feelings."

Sorry your mate is such a dick.

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Defo this

PousseyNotMoira · 31/01/2023 12:06

picnicshnicnic · 31/01/2023 11:58

How old is she?

I can't imagine a guy being impressed with that behaviour.

I would just say to him "look, she's gone really weird. I'm not crazy in the least. If I was, why would she set you up with me? And then start all this childish behaviour.
I think she must have a thing for you. I'm. It going to get in an arguement with her over this, but I don't want any involvement and will be pulling back from her. If you want to go out for a drink, just us, that would be great. Otherwise no hard feelings."

Sorry your mate is such a dick.

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Do this, OP.

And stop your nasty ‘friend’.

Prawnsma32 · 31/01/2023 12:09

She's belittling you in front of him in an attempt to make herself look good. Drop her and find yourself some real friends.

Celinia · 31/01/2023 12:10

Your ‘friend’ is sabotaging your date and being a bitch. I’m sorry OP but it’s time to find yourself another friend.

Iwantabloodypizza · 31/01/2023 12:11

ohdontthinkimnot · 31/01/2023 11:53

It would never work between me and him would it considering he is friends with her and partner ?
There would always be Agro wouldn't there ?

No, it wouldn’t.

She sounds like a complete arsehole who would always stir things up.

She either fancies him herself or doesn’t want him to have a partner for some reason.

I wouldn’t take it personally, she would be like this about anyone, even if he introduced her to a stranger.

I’ve met people like her before and they hate not being the centre of attention.

Ditch them both.

spidereggs · 31/01/2023 12:15

Dear me, never mind him, get away from her very quickly

Slobbet · 31/01/2023 12:16

I think I’d message her and point out that she was needlessly unkind and you don’t need ‘friends’ like her in your life. Something is only funny if both parties find it fun.

StressedToTheMaxxx · 31/01/2023 12:19

It won't work, she'll always be making up shit and you can't escape her if they are friends. I'd text him saying something along the lines of "I'm not sure why she's being so nasty and lying about me but you and I together seems to be too much for her and I hate drama, so let's just leave things all the best". And dump the 'friend'.

IwasToldThereWouldBeCake · 31/01/2023 12:23

Ditch her. Distance yourself from her and communicate to her you don't find her jokes funny, but instead think they are Gaslighting and abusive.

Let the guy chase you, if he doesn't he is not worth it.

BubziOwl · 31/01/2023 12:27

She's not your friend - please tell me you're not going to bother with her again! What a weirdo she is.

bluemooooon · 31/01/2023 12:31

Well it's safe to say she's shown her true colours, not much of a friend to try and embarrass you like that. I think she fancies him herself so is trying to make you look stupid... she sounds like the crazy one

MadeForThis · 31/01/2023 12:32

She fancies him. Or she's worried her bf fancies you.

Either way she is a bitch.

GloomyDarkness · 31/01/2023 12:33

I think you'll be happier with out a "friend" like this in your life.

Not sure about the guy - either he was oblivious to her behavior hence the confusion about why ditching them for next date or she said something to him before hand like you'd try to do that and if you did beware of you.

I'd have low expectations with the guy - either he likes you and will seek out contact or not - but if he doesn't well you avoid all this drama.

Ladyofthesea · 31/01/2023 12:37

How can you call such an enemy your friend? She actively tries to make you unhappy! Just totally ghost her from now on.

Original poster
ohdontthinkimnot · 31/01/2023 12:38

He said to me he doesn't like drama in his life
The thing is the only one causing drama is her .....

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Ladyofthesea · 31/01/2023 12:41

Forget him. He'll discover who she is later on. It sounds like he believes her sp let him go.

Teaandtoast3 · 31/01/2023 12:42

Ah no, bin them both off.

YoComoManzanas · 31/01/2023 12:43

Plenty more fish in the sea. Let him chase you now. Ditch the saboteur. I would probably ghost her but you might want to spell out her behavior is not kind.

WhereYouLeftIt · 31/01/2023 12:43

ohdontthinkimnot · 31/01/2023 11:53

It would never work between me and him would it considering he is friends with her and partner ?
There would always be Agro wouldn't there ?

Yup. She's made sure of that.

Sounds to me as if she likes to be a bit of a Queen Bee, having her boyfriend to hand but also his friend buzzing around. She's probably got no interest in his friend, but she likes being the centre of attention, and you were taking his attention away from her. She punished you for that, and diverted his attention back to her. She's rather immature.

So ditch her - she's not a friend. As for him - you've dated twice, no matter how well you hit it off he's no real loss.

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