Why is my friend trying to make out I'm crazy?

[ohdontthinkimnot]

My friends boyfriend set me up with his friend.
The 4 of us went out twice and me and the guy hit it off.
He made it clear he wanted to spend time with me.
We went to a outdoor gig and it was cold but really fun.
Then it all got weird ...
He said he was going to get a drink and my friend said "oh she will hate you leaving her on her own,she will go crazy in a minute"
So he asks me "if I minded"
I told him of course not

Then my friend pipes up laughing
"She was asking if you were talking to any other women -she was so jealous when you mentioned your female friend"
"Crazy lucy came out to play"

It was normal chit chat like you do with your friends.
Then later she was back again with her "oh feb real Lucy will be out soon-your a bit stalkery aren't you"
So I snapped "what are you talking about"
She giggled "see this is the crazy coming out and laughed"

So we all went back to his and when they went to bed I said to him
"Maybe next time we leave her at home and just go out the both of us"
He looked confused and said "are you a bit crazy like she was saying? "
I said "I don't know what her issue is "

He has been a bit off with me since
Have I blown it?
Why did she do this ?
I feel like crying

Step away from the evil friend. Ignore her, later block her. She sounds vile.

If the lad chooses not to contact you again it’s his loss.

Bin them both.
She's awful and not your friend.
And he doesn't want any "drama" in his life which usually means the slightest sign of an issue and he'll be off.
He has believed her too easily.
And she fancies him.

Honestly it isn't going to be worth the grief. Ditch her, tell her why. I would hope the guy and your ex-friends bf are both as mystified and offended by her weird behaviour asrhe rest of us are. But it's not in your power to sort that out, so I would just leave them all to it.

I do know what you mean, because the more you defend yourself, the more you look "crazy"

My advice is to take all the drama out of it and knock both of them on the head.
(Not literally 😁)

To him:
"You're right, too much drama. It was nice spending time with you. All the best.

To her:
You are nasty person and I don't have time for nasty people. Never contact me again"
Then block.

Sorry but I'd have to speak to her about it. Very direct

"Why did you set me up with your bfs friend only to then insult me the whole time? It wasn't funny. To be honest if you think I'm 'crazy' why have you been friends with me and why would you want to set me up with him? All you've achieved here is to show who you really are."

If she responds trying to make out that it was all just a big joke, then id say something along the lines of "well that 'joke' has put him off seeing me again and put me off seeing you again".

Bin the lot of them! No one is worth that much aggro, she is deliberately sabotaging you so definitely not worthy of your friendship.

Ooooh, love I would bin them both. She's no friend. How old are you all if you don't mind my asking xx

She's obviously jealous of you and fancies him. I'd call her out on it and drop them both!

It was her boyfriend who set you up with this guy. If he wanted to find out if you were crazy, he just had to ask his friend, not her. The fact that he can't see through this women's heavy handed nastiness makes me think he's not very bright. I'd have nothing to do with this awful woman who was supposedly a friend.

She is nasty.

Who needs enemies when you have friends like her? I once had a friend like this who went above and beyond to put someone I liked off of me and it later came to light that she fancied him. I suspect the same issue here.

Get rid of the friend. Unfortunately, the guy may now be uninterested (thanks to the actions of said ‘friend’) which is understandably upsetting however if you cut her out then it prevents her from sabotaging any future endeavours. Plenty more fish in the sea!

Is it a new relationship for her? I'd say she's trying to match their banter and be sooooo funny and take the piss. But she's only able to do it to you because you're her friend and there's no risk of upsetting one of her boyfriends group and getting in trouble. She's showing how well she fits in at your expense.

frustrating - she sounds like the crazy one!

I'd ease away from her gently - if you cut all ties immediately, she will just say 'see, told you she was crazy' - if you just the the friendship slip away, she won't really notice.

As for the fella - he was bit feeble to just accept her 'jokes' as truth and you're best off without him. Tell him it's a shame he feels like that, but he'll just have to see for himself where the drama has generated from.

She’s being a cunt, pardon the language but it’s true!

She's no friend because a friend wouldn't do this!,I'd definetly get rid of her and let the new guy make up his own mind,if he doesn't want to stick around and give you a chance to see you're not crazy then it's his loss!
It sounds very much like she fancies him OP.

I don’t know what to say to you if you can’t see that you need to cut her out of your life immediately. She is beyond toxic and not only not your friend but a major enemy. You can keep her in your life and she will go out of her way to destroy you, that’s what she is doing. If it was me I’d get her, the boyfriend and the boyfriends friend all together during the daytime and call her out in broad, sober daylight. Keep her in your life and I can guarantee she’ll destroy you. I can’t believe for a minute that you can’t see that. Get rid fast and call her out in front of everyone first. These people need to be exposed to all under a very bright light. You can sort her out by calling her out. Just stick to the truth and facts. She can’t compete with that.

She’s cock-blocking you because she’s jealous. She either fancies him herself or she’s just jealous of the attention you’re getting. I’d have pulled her up on it in front of the new bloke and her DH to make her look really silly and feel uncomfortable “why are you saying these weird comments, are you trying to put [New Bloke] off me cos you fancy him yourself or something?!”

This is right.
No point trying to salvage any of it.

Also, don’t contact her again. She’s weird and out to sabotage. Hopefully you here from the guy but if not, chalk it up as experience. Absolutely do not obsess over it in front of him, that will just feed into her narrative. Play it cool and gloss over it (if you get the opportunity)

Honestly I would send him a text saying look it was fun to meet you but has turned into far too much drama with 'friend' trying to persuade you I am something I am not. And then block them both!

Hope you have a good date with the psycho if you choose to go out with her again "

Bloody hell OP - newsflash: this is not a friend!

Whatever her game is (I suspect she fancies him) - dump her immediately - SHE’S the psycho. If lover boy decides to believe the nasty, toxic things she’s said about you without getting to know you himself he really isn’t worth getting upset over.

Ditch her, she's not healthy to have in your life.

Honestly the best thing you can do is walk away casually, unbothered by this all. You’ve given it the headspace it deserves to establish you need to put distance between yourself and this friend. She’s unhinged bit bloody good at it. Do not engage in her games.

The date is collateral damage. Plenty more out there (who have the balls to call out nonsense when they see it)

I’d completely ignore her forever more. If you like him I’d text him once saying you had a lovely evening despite all X’s attempts at spoiling things. Say you’d be happy to see him again for another date, but can completely understand if X has put him off, you don’t like drama .either. Then the ball is in his court, if he’s intelligent enough to see her tricks he’ll work it out, otherwise he’s not worth the effort, leave them all to it. But it would be a nice finale if her sabotage failed and you guys got on.

Your 'friend' is nasty.