Ioan Gruffudd/Alice Evans

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Don’t know if anyone has followed this, but she had an arrest warrant issued today for failing to appear in court for breaching a restraining order he has for domestic abuse. Their poor children seem like an afterthought.

Wonder if he will get custody of the children? If he does it will put paid to the countless holidays he’s always on, that he can’t really afford because he is totally ‘skint’ alledgedly. She may be a bit unhinged, but he thinks he’s something he’s not, he’s not a nice person and can’t act for toffee!

Thank you for replying. I have realised I was in an abusive marriage and left my spouse because we were both so unhappy. I went to the house every day for many months to see my children and help my ex but she was often drunk and abusive. I am now going through court and have asked the judge to consider mandatory therapy for the kids. My ex agreed but then had continued to interfere in every single FaceTime, visitation, text and therapy session so I am virtually unable to have any time with my children and my eldest daughter is very angry at me, I have been advised by therapists to put in boundaries because she only contacts me when she wants money, tickets, trips etc and I can’t always afford this

Yes, and he's aging like a ripe banana. How will he generate much of an income going forward?

i can’t see any man wanting to be with her after this.

This hopefully is and definitely should be the absolute least of her worries. Certainly would not be how I decide any of my behaviour.........

These are often work trips. He is paid travel with work. He went to Aus to make a Tv show. France for a TV show. Wales to see his parents and got a job for Welsh TV. He went to NY for that Tv show. He went back to Oz for his GF’s family trip and work because even in the court docs the flight cost for that was $0.00

Any good dad would imo, he doesn’t have to take his girlfriend out with his children all the time!

Do you actually think Ioan Gruffudd is a millionaire? I highly doubt it.
Alice could hoik her lazy idle arse up and get a job but she'd rather play the victim. She's a nasty liar and I can see why he hotfooted it out of there, have you heard the way she spoke to him in front of the children, and indeed the way she speaks to her children🙄

I don’t think it was because he wanted to take his girlfriend with him, but that she was having a MS flare up at the time, it was in the middle of Covid and he lived with her.

He didn’t want to go somewhere crowded, risk catching covid and taking it home to her

With regard to the text messages, yeah they don’t portray him in the best light but there is a lot of backstory to his relationship with her. If I remember she hacked into his Amazon account and spent loads of his money, and also she hacked his (I wanna say Instagram) and posted awful messages from it because he /they told her that they couldn’t afford to send her to her private school anymore. She also threatened him with social services for not getting her own way. She seems to have a bit of an attitude problem (who can blame her at her age when her parents are having such a messy separation and divorce) but I think that was his attempt at standing his ground and being fair. Alice portrays herself as the fun, spontaneous parent whereas Ioan is the firm but fair parent.

Ioan also has a recording of Ella and Alice arguing with Ella telling her to “be a mother”, to stop “bringing daddy up” into every conversation when they haven’t even spoken about daddy and to stop “threatening to leave us”. If I remember correctly, Alice referred to Ella as “you bitch” and it happens within listening distance of Elsie as she made a few random comments in the transcript.

Those poor children 😔

You need to let your kids know you love them and stop trying to insert your girlfriend into traumatised kids lives. They have had trauma and an unstable primary parent. Your job foremost is to help them adjust to the divorce, maybe stop going on expensive holidays with your new lover so you can save money. Your kids see this on SM so don't believe it when you plead poverty. Stop the selfishness childhood lasts for only a short time , you can still see your girlfriend but not blend.

I found a thread on tattle 🤫🤣 about her and felt sorry for her due to all the abuse she was getting! Then someone linked the court docs so I read them and now I just think she really, really needs help! Her girls should not be in her custody unsupervised (at the moment) IMO - if she was a man, mumsnet would be advising her spouse to see a solicitor ASAP and that contact should be minimal until the clear alcoholism and MH issues are addressed. The judge found the evidence of her ongoing abuse compelling enough to grant a restraining order.

After someone mentioned this up thread I looked for this on YouTube. It seems like no surprise the way it's ended after this story.

Ioan also has a recording of Ella and Alice arguing with Ella telling her to “be a mother”, to stop “bringing daddy up” into every conversation when they haven’t even spoken about daddy and to stop “threatening to leave us”. If I remember correctly, Alice referred to Ella as “you bitch” and it happens within listening distance of Elsie as she made a few random comments in the transcript.

Yes I've read this too and it is utterly shocking how she speaks to them. And it's clear she talks about IG all the time to them from their reaction.

As everyone has said, the poor poor children

She's deleted her Twitter this morning and denied all knowledge of a court date, but apparently last night was posting about an early appt this morning so ended up deleting

Should have said, engagement story.

For everyone saying what he should have said, we only saw a few lines of the messages. We have no idea what was said before or after any of them.

@Habber

Dear 'OP'

My pleasure. That all sounds incredibly stressful, I'm so sorry.

At the end of the day, she's what, 12? Her brain isn't fully formed and she's dealing with a lot of upheaval. Personally if she wants to go to a theme park, I would take that opportunity to see her. Is that a really a hill you want to die on when the alternative is not seeing her at all? Not checking that she's ok given youre concerns about her living situation?

If you really can't go to a theme park, again, seize the opportunity of her asking to spend time with you- and suggest something else you know she will love and tell her you are so excited to see her.

Keep going with the custody work, it sounds like getting court orders is the best way to get some clear rights that your ex can't interfere with. But in the meantime, don't pass up opportunities to be with your daughter.

She's a child. She's not her mother. You don't get to walk away from her.

Also I think I saw that you're refusing to pay her school fees and making her change schools- if you have a lucrative career (...like being a movie star) I suggest you endorse a smoothie or make a crappy ad or guest appear in a TV show or sell some stocks or borrow money from your parents- and find the cash for her school fees. If she is happy at school and her home life is terrible (it really sounds like her mother is cruel and unhinged) then moving schools is the last thing she needs. Show her that she is important to you and that you will keep your commitments to her by honouring your promise to pay her school fees and give her that stability and a safe happy place to go to.

All the best anonymous OP!

I think the issue was he couldn’t risk going anywhere busy because Bianca was having her MS flare ups and has a compromised immune system, therefore it is too risky to enter a busy environment where he has the possibility of catching Covid and passing it back on to Bianca, making her critically ill. I’ve seen a few posts on her Instagram where her flare ups are so bad she’s ended up in hospital so I don’t think he’s being unreasonable. He probably could have relayed it better to her though.

This wasn’t what happened! He wasn’t inviting her. Stop making stuff up. He said he could not go as it was crowded and COVID and BW was very unwell and he didn’t want to risk her getting really sick by bringing home a bug. It then cuts off so doesn’t show what else he suggested to his child else to do.

Imagine having a judge give you a permanent restraining order against your highly abusive ex, having them continue to do what the order tells them NOT to do (it’s not just about social media ffs), having them not show up to face the music for these constant breaches, and then having people say you’re weak, you deserve it for alleged cheating, you’re not thinking of the kids and whatever else the dumb fucks on here have said.

Take a look at the reams of evidence he submitted, including transcripts of videos their children took of her abusing them.

She doesn’t comply with any court orders, including the one in which she must take her children to therapy - which it’s fairly obvious she doesn’t want her children talking to anyone without her present lest they disclose the full scope of her abuse, neglect and addictions.

Thanks, the school fees were $50,000 a year so don’t think it’s too unreasonable to agree we can’t afford this right now, or the $50,000 a year nanny. I did text her back other things but my ex wife only showed a page or 2 on Instagram and got it all published in the daily mail, further harming my relationship with my kids

That's the one. The 'proposal' story is towards the end.

I mean, on its best day, this relationship involved her screaming at him that he was boring, saying she hated him, her running down a hallway while he chased her... and he thought it was funny and cute.

I think she very obviously has issues and needs psychiatric help.

She comes across very bitter about the break up, but instead of moving on, seems very vindictive and intent of shaming, humiliating, and trying to damage his career. I think it's had the opposite effect and people now feel sorry for him.

It's hard to accept when someone doesn't love you anymore and doesn't want to be with you, but healing isn't about hating the other person.

That’s such a damaging thing to say to someone. Ride out the emotional and verbal spousal abuse for the sake of the children. And he tried to do what you suggested (separate and still be there for the children) but Alice has interfered in their relationship and brainwashed the children against him). It’s all been documented at court. Go and take a look at the custody filing transcript.

She sounds like she has always been hard work. That story is far from cute

Alice portrays herself as the fun, spontaneous parent whereas Ioan is the firm but fair parent.

Yes, I remember reading some of her messages that had been submitted as evidence in court that she belittled him for driving safely, claimed that he insisting the girls say please and thank you was abusive, she thought it was stupid that he did homework and reading with them and stuff like that. I think she sees herself as the fun, anything goes parent. Where I think he’s the stricter, more firm but fair parent

Those text messages weren’t great, but there is a lot of back story, evidence of parental alienation, Alice has only screen shot very small parts so we don’t know what went before or after, and Ioan says himself in the text he is in therapy so is probably following advice to put boundaries in place.

Alice has a tweet and delete habit, so a lot of stuff she Tweeted herself and then deleted (when she sobered up) - but screen shots are still out there