Offered something on Facebook .. now confronted by harrassment

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Luckily I'm quite robust and couldn't give a damn but for your entertainment

I'm having a big clear out and putting things in Facebook and olio for people to take.

This morning I listed a play pen on a local group and after about half an hour.got a message from a lady who will come.and take.it this evening.. brilliant.

Just before marking it as taken gone got a message from.someone else

"Need this .. please drop off at X address between 3 and 5pm today" I replied saying it was taken and anyway collection only and left it at that.

Then received

" I can't believe you would give it away without even asking why I need it I bet I need it more than anyone else "

"You're so selfish I bet you sold it instead"

"You don't care about anything but clearing out your house you couldn't give a sh*t about a young mum like me"

"If you've got any other children's stuff message me and you can drop it over tomorrow, I need things"

"You obviously don't care if my child gets hurt because they dont have a play pen.. youve got to give it to me, dont be heartless"

" How am I supposed to come and get it Ive got children you need to drop it off today"

I ignored her and blocked her and now receiving stroppy messages from another person saying they're her friend, I'm victimising her,.I shouldn't just give things away without talking to people about what they need it for everyone deserves a chance..

and best of all:

" you should be dying of shame for treating a young mum like this I hope you carry the guilt.to your dying day"

WTAF ?????

I've blocked them too and await next messages with interest. I strongly suspect they "friend" is also her. I am having quite a boring day cleaning out the loft so this is brightening it up no end

I also loathe "need gone" usually a load of crap and they're to idle to take it to the tip.

Report them both on the site… weirdos

i avoid those people like the plague. ive learnt over the years to take stuff to charity as people are so horrible and threatening. when i sold my car i took it to a busy local garage car park under the eyes of many witnessess as too many blokes were way too threatening and creepy

You need to post that on choosing beggars on Reddit!

I hate to be a smug twat but I've given away tons of stuff for free on FB and don't recall anyone really awful! Most people are quite nice, although we've met some oddities. One guy wanting my motorcycle boots didn't arrange a time, just said he'd let us know later that day - he turned up unannounced at 9pm, took the boots gratefully for his girlfriend and regaled us with mad biking stories for an hour.

In fact I once sold a phone over marketplace (NEVER AGAIN) and a pleasant guy came to collect it. He messaged me the following day to ask if I was aware that I'd sold a phone with a cracked screen. I was a little abrupt and said it certainly was not cracked when it left my hands, thinking he was trying it on. He zoomed in on one of the photos I'd used in the advert and circled the tiniest little flaw in the curved edge that I hadn't even noticed - it hadn't spread but it was definitely there.

I said I was terribly sorry, I'd been using the phone right up to selling it and hadn't noticed any damage at all. I said please bring it right back and I'll return your money. We arranged the next night and I, very embarrassed and sheepish, handed him his cash. I was expecting him to give me an earful but he thanked me for being so reasonable! Eh?

I had the same recently after posting an outdoor plastic playhouse online saying ‘free outside X address’, I didn’t have the means to move it but was awful for not getting it to people who had no way of getting it for free! Thank god I was moving that day, hate to think that the new people got knocks on the door from anyone, but from the language in the messages I imagine they probably did!!

I once ordered a jumperoo off fb market place, all was well and she even said she could deliver.
The day of she said her husband was going to deliver it.

I'm not joking when I say the hottest man I have ever seen, with just one leg, showed up and was so lovely, kindly offering to show me how to set it up and change settings in it.

I think I just stuttered at him like a star struck teenager and then he flounced off into the night, a jumperoo hero.

Not all fb market place stories are bad 🤣

I smell entitlement.

"I'm a mum! gimme gimme gimme!"

I would be reminding her of the Malicious Communications Act 1988 and to be careful where she is going with this, but then I wouldnt be as cool about it as you are 😬much better to have a laugh about it

FB marketplace brings out a special type of crazy.

I'd be screenshotting her messages and posting them on her links, questioning whether she should be counselling others about their own mental health...

I would get her address, then postthe screen shots to her neighbours.

This thread is great but has got my anxiey levels shooting up and reminded me of the first and last time I used FB Marketplace. It isn't very exciting but is in keeping.

Listed a brand new cordurouy beanbag that was big, beautiful and £££ for a tenner as had no space; stated clearly that the buyer needed to collect (I was physically unwell at the time and literally housebound - had no car at the time and husband had to bus it for FT work). Within a few minutes a message pinged through 'ys pls, collect tonite'.

Our town is small and they were a mile up the road. Great. That was easy, or so I thought...

Waited all evening and they never came. Sent them a polite message enquiring whether they were still interested and got an immediate barrage of vitriolic, angry words about how difficult it was for them as they had no car, were registered disabled and that they were pregnant as though it was somehow my fault that they were expecting and in a shituation. They said I HAD to to bring it to their door that evening, no excuses! I said NO not possible, sorry.

They were SO angry at me and my beanbag yet I did my usual and felt almost sorry for them (!!), made excuses in my head for why they might be so enraged. Feckin mug I am.
I thought it must be stress, hormones and other factors, and that she likely really wanted or needed this beanbag, to the point of being irrational. Maybe it could work as a giant stressball for her?

I regretted bothering at all (I used to be conflict-averse and a people pleaser y'see), as the messages and insistence to collect, and ignoring, dragged on for a few days, then the excuses, then the demands 'you have to bring it to me; you only have 1 kid to worry about, try being me insert life story, I REALLY need this beanbag, I have wanted this very one for ages etc...'
I gave up in the end as it was getting insane; said to her 'FINE. Have it. For FREE. It will be on the doorstep - get a friend to collect perhaps? Failing that, my husband will be dropping it off at the local charity shop on Sat, so you could meet him there and take it' She evidently really needed this beanbag in her life.

She. Never. Replied. Then blocked me!

I then relisted the beanbag for free a few days later and a lovely lady came to collect that afternoon, and still gave me a tenner. Changed the status to SOLD - this triggered the beanbag bag to go nuts and she posted lots of shit on the page about how I had messed her around and never turned up and kept cancelling, then reneged on giving her the beanbag. She went apeshit over this beanbag. It was hilariously terrifying!

It really stressed me out tbh as she seemed so feckin unhinged, and I used to take stuff like this sooo personally. Apparently, she had form for entitled behaviour and was prone to demands, and many other locals KNEW her from FB MP and had similar experiences. She had amassed quite the cache of gratis goodies from many but kicked off if anyone dared to suggest she had to come and get it herself.

It was the most bizarre situation but I cringe at how much of a wet blanket I used to be and could've easily nipped it in the bud by blocking. I still shudder whenever I see large cordurouy beanbags, though...

Not funny bud I had to laugh at your reply’s. Sadly we live in a entitled society; I know several people who have had some really nasty reply’s on Facebook selling groups; threatening, abusive & downright insane ones, but you have to keep it in perspective; some people have nothing better to do that sit on the added being a pain in someone else’s arse; it’s a sad life they lead & it is bullying from sad keyboard warriors

This just reminds me of this musical internet drama video about someone who said “is this available”? Lubavin or something

The entitlement of the grabby people never fails to amuse (and amaze) me! I can post something with street address and postcode and still get messages asking where I am. And don't even get me started on the "I'll take it." messages, people of few words! I think I love the most the ones who ask me how much to courier/deliver when i have clearly stated collection only, do not ask for postage/courier/delivery.

The entitled are hilarious. We have one locally who changes her name regularly, but forgets to change her photo. Absolutely hilarious as she’s well known at all the local boot sales.
you have to laugh and I’m glad you did.

Oh I love his stuff! Especially the casserole recipe 😂

People are crazy on there. I once commented on a FB marketplace thread enquiring about the item. It was one comment only and then someone else pipped me to the post to buy it.

A day or so later I realised that someone else (not the poster or the successful buyer) had messaged me ranting and calling me a ‘rich bitch’, before blocking me so I couldn’t even ask what the hell she was on about.

Definitely this!
What an absolute weirdo she sounds, must admit I'm slightly concerned for her child.

I had a kind of similar experience. We went to see a dog someone was re-homing. She never explained she expected it to be collected at the same time. Not exactly looking at piece of furniture quick before I take it, it's a dog, we thought she was lovely and we would be in contact that evening with a decision. Not something I would jump to in an half hour visit. She went off at me saying I'd wasted her time, she had people waiting who will take the dog today, her children had already said goodbye to the dog before they went to school!
Oh I'm sorry maybe say that before? So people can prepare, you know have a bowl and food, the basics ready for it! Mad woman. Hope that poor dog got its loving home and not a spare of the moment decision!
Our current dog had had 2 owners in 6 months because they had decided on a dog on a whim. Makes me so sad. But still angry I got the abuse from the woman, I understand it's an emotional thing to do but don't rush it!

When offering something on our local freecycle page I of course always check people reacting are refugees from a country with famine ánd a war going on , they preferably have several impairments, are living with many in one attic room, have at least 10 children and all of them sick. Of course I give all of them scores, only the absolute worst of will get my discarded kettle.

I got a lovely pine box from FB Marketplace, I sent the seller a message basically saying I knew that it had been marked pending but if for any reason it wasn't collected, please could I have it and I would be able to collect it at 5.30 that evening on my way home from work. He contacted me and said the person who turned up tried to knock off most of the price and wanted him to deliver it as it wouldn't fit in their car ( even though he had put the dimensions on the ad)

That is shocking, disgusting and totally out of order.
Report her as well.

You don't care if my child gets hurt because they don't have a playpen? Erm it's not down to everyone else to provide for you're child 🤣 I'm all for giving stuff away for free but what is it with people expecting everything for nothing for there kids

I'm so glad you seen the funny side because I would o exploded At her how cheeky it's always first come first serve when giving things away for free