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Offered something on Facebook .. now confronted by harrassment

343 replies

listsandbudgets · 13/01/2023 13:41

Luckily I'm quite robust and couldn't give a damn but for your entertainment

I'm having a big clear out and putting things in Facebook and olio for people to take.

This morning I listed a play pen on a local group and after about half an hour.got a message from a lady who will come.and take.it this evening.. brilliant.

Just before marking it as taken gone got a message from.someone else

"Need this .. please drop off at X address between 3 and 5pm today" I replied saying it was taken and anyway collection only and left it at that.

Then received

" I can't believe you would give it away without even asking why I need it I bet I need it more than anyone else "

"You're so selfish I bet you sold it instead"

"You don't care about anything but clearing out your house you couldn't give a sh*t about a young mum like me"

"If you've got any other children's stuff message me and you can drop it over tomorrow, I need things"

"You obviously don't care if my child gets hurt because they dont have a play pen.. youve got to give it to me, dont be heartless"

" How am I supposed to come and get it Ive got children you need to drop it off today"

I ignored her and blocked her and now receiving stroppy messages from another person saying they're her friend, I'm victimising her,.I shouldn't just give things away without talking to people about what they need it for everyone deserves a chance..

and best of all:

" you should be dying of shame for treating a young mum like this I hope you carry the guilt.to your dying day"

WTAF ?????

I've blocked them too and await next messages with interest. I strongly suspect they "friend" is also her. I am having quite a boring day cleaning out the loft so this is brightening it up no end

OP posts:
Nicecow · 14/01/2023 06:15

I'd report them. Gosh some people! 🙄

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 14/01/2023 06:18

AlwaysGinPlease · 13/01/2023 19:30

chriswguerrr*a is brilliant at these! Links to his TikTok

Just followed him, the mixer story 😂😂

Whycanineverever · 14/01/2023 06:38

@PeachyPoppedBack

I have to say if I received several enquiries at one time I would avoid that ones that used that preset message. It's not that I see it as rude but think people just do it without actually thinking much about if they really want item.

I find people just send that and then you say yes and never hear again. So like PP I prefer someone who actually types a full sentence and says 'I would like this'

Original poster
listsandbudgets · 14/01/2023 09:09

EasterIssland · 13/01/2023 23:50

Op hope you’re ok and haven’t been banned on fb and mn :).

I'm OK.. been stuck in the loft eying up the boxes of.toys..

The lady ses to have gone away for now probably moved onto jer next innocent victim. I have reported her with screen shots as the next person may not find it so easy to shake off. I've nearly always worked with the public nothing surprises me anymore

I'm loving the MINE story

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AlwaysGinPlease · 14/01/2023 10:34

@Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious 😂 I know! Some are just crazy aren't they. The utter cheek of some people.

LibertyLily · 14/01/2023 16:44

Whycanineverever · 14/01/2023 06:38

@PeachyPoppedBack

I have to say if I received several enquiries at one time I would avoid that ones that used that preset message. It's not that I see it as rude but think people just do it without actually thinking much about if they really want item.

I find people just send that and then you say yes and never hear again. So like PP I prefer someone who actually types a full sentence and says 'I would like this'

This ^

Of every ten 'is this item available?' messages, I'd say only one or two actually follow it up once we've replied in the affirmative. Most of those who send that stock message appear to be timewasters imho. DH is far more patient than me and tends to give people the benefit of the doubt, whereas I just blank those who can't be arsed to ask a proper question...especially as most disappear once you've told them it is available.

The number of people who think you can a) deliver to their home which is usually many miles away (we live rurally so not a huge pool of takers/buyers locally so I get that it's not as easy as being in a city or town) and/or b) expect you to wait in all day for them to collect - fortunately I'm home all day. We had one woman who lives a couple of miles away say she'd come at 1pm to collect. By 4pm she'd still not appeared, despite sending her messages asking if she was still coming (no reply). Eventually she responded saying she'd forgotten and would come the following day at 5pm. She finally rocked up at 6.30. A few weeks later she said she wanted to buy a lamp we were selling and the same thing happened..no show. This time we gave up and I kept the damned thing.

DH doesn't mind dropping something (sold, not free) off if there's mitigating circs - such as the old chap who's wife had dementia. He was buying a table (£70) and couldn't collect so DH delivered it about 10 miles away....

gravyriceandchips · 14/01/2023 17:12

All the loons are out today on vinted. I've put some stuff on really cheap to get it sold quickly but still make something and I'm getting all kinds of stupid offers and messages.

£25 for something and people asking will you accept £6. I am just declining or ignoring and I'm getting messages about they need to know now today or they won't buy etc etc.

The lower the price the bigger the cheekiness I think is how it goes.

Gonners · 14/01/2023 17:26

I answered the door the other day to a very nice woman who said she was sorry she was a bit early, but she was just passing so dropped in on the off chance I'd be in. Could she pick up the two red table-lamps now? Some loon on FB had given her our address. She showed me the message. It was utterly pointless and not even a scam, because she was paying cash. Just why?

Bekstar · 14/01/2023 17:43

Screenshot the messages and share them on any group pages she is on. Warn people what she's like. Sounds like a fruit n nut missing a bit or two.

Kd96 · 14/01/2023 17:45

Seems to me like this person is wanting items to sell on herself! Just my opinion though 🤷‍♀️

Messyhair321 · 14/01/2023 17:49

I can sympathise. This happening to me on FB giving away a childs dressing table. Loads of grief from this mother who thought this should be hers & having a right hissy because it wasn't. Seriously some people...!

SmudgeButt · 14/01/2023 17:59

I had a heater that I wanted to get rid of - fortunately just at the start of the cold streak in December. A lady expressed interest and asked for the address to come and get it. And then said she'd be delayed because of how the buses were running. Personally I think she was completely legit, not trying it on and as it wasn't that far off my way to work I delivered it. Mostly because I wanted rid of it and I couldn't imagine her carrying a heater that was 3 feet high and 3 feet long all the way to the bus stop and then wrangle it on to the 2 - 3 buses she would need to get from mine to hers. And when I dropped it off I asked if she wanted a used but clean feather duvet - she just about hugged me!

Pants0nFir3 · 14/01/2023 18:01

Bless you. You know what? Sell it on Vinted. Seriously people think that the world owe them a living and to to treat you like this, nope wouldnt give it to them. Sorry. But that's nuts. X

Jo586 · 14/01/2023 18:08

Free items bring out the bottom feeders, always put a nominal price on, discourages them.

mikeysmummy2004 · 14/01/2023 18:09

Unbelievable! 😂😂😂

NippySweetie16 · 14/01/2023 18:16

I don't put anything up for free any more. Brings out the loons who are always more trouble than they're worth!

Notlivinglife · 14/01/2023 18:17

Just another example of how aggressive and bullish some people can be. She has no right to message you in this way. You were doing a good thing by just giving stuff away. Glad you're made of Teflon! 🙂

PeachyPeachTrees · 14/01/2023 18:22

On our local freebay fb page it is strictly first person to say 'yes please'. 'mine' would get totally ignored even if first and admin would agree.

Scousefab · 14/01/2023 18:25

Haha what a massive manipulator - very upset they not got their own way. You handled it like a Pro!! Yes agree with the other comments she wanted them to sell probably. Unfortunately world full of lunatics just have to try and wide berth them. After selling a few things through Facebook I have changed tact and use gumtree instead now as email etc not given out. Think you can give out things for free too on it.

purplebunny2012 · 14/01/2023 18:27

There's stories likes this all over r/choosingbeggars so it doesn't surprise me in the least

WestendVBroadway · 14/01/2023 18:27

I sold a rocking chair, when I was clearing my late Mum's house. Pregnant lady turned up, but wouldn't fit in her hatchback. As she lived on the way to my own house I offered to deliver it. She insisted on giving me an extra £5, so not everyone takes the pi*s.

sassyclassyandsmartassy · 14/01/2023 18:28

This person will have ‘be kind’ messages all over her FB, guarantee it! They always turn out to be the type of people that expect it, but rarely consider that they should perhaps practise the same!

Toomuchtrouble4me · 14/01/2023 18:30

I gave up on Olio because if this - people not turning up and then raging two days later when it’s gone to someone else. People insisting on delivery and even asking if I could take a pram round so they look and decide! I deleted my account which was a shame because it’s a great idea - but it does attract the rudest of people!

Catmum2023 · 14/01/2023 18:30

This is why I never give out my address for collection until the person who is having it confirms they are ready to leave to collect. And then I delete it afterwards. To many nutcases out there who want something for nothing, and then some more. Someone once asked for a playmat. I commented with pictures and they said it wasn’t what they wanted. Replied to commiserate as it was so nice snd free and, what do you know, it would be perfect for their mums house. Declined and I was told I was a horrible bitch. I referred them back to their comment refusing it and they deleted it. But I’d screen shot it. I refused to give it to them and donated it to charity.

CaroMD · 14/01/2023 18:41

Similar experience. Posted lots of free baby toys on Facebook to go as one lot. Reply from No 1 asking for the expensive ones only and then another person (No 2) asking politely for all. I agree to No 2 and No 1 messages me saying the other person won’t miss the toys she wants and can I drop them off! Since then noticed No 1 is always first in line to ask for items that have potential resale value and doesn’t have transport so needs them delivered.

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