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If your friend told you…

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Paperdolly · 04/01/2023 19:33

If your friend told you she was having an affair would you share that with your husband?

OP posts:
DowntonCrabby · 04/01/2023 19:35

Yes, I probably would as I’d feel extremely torn and would want the support from DH while I worked through my feelings about her/the affair.

walsbdoa · 04/01/2023 19:36

Yes

FictionalCharacter · 04/01/2023 19:36

No. I’d treat it as private.

NYresolutions23 · 04/01/2023 19:36

Yeah as he knows all my friends well so i wouldn't want to feel like I was lying to him

rebekahnorris · 04/01/2023 19:36

Defo

Highlyflavouredgravy · 04/01/2023 19:36

Yes, he's my husband. I tell him everything

Emmamoo89 · 04/01/2023 19:36

No keep it to myself.

TurtleTriplets · 04/01/2023 19:37

Yes more than likely. Depends how well he knows her husband as I wouldn't want to put him in the same position I had been put in.

FuglyBitch · 04/01/2023 19:38

No

Flapjackquack · 04/01/2023 19:41

My husband is basically a vault, I tell him everything.

Corcra · 04/01/2023 19:42

Yes more than likely.
My dh once didn't tell me. He said it would have put me in awful position as I was very good friends with the wife.

Cookerhood · 04/01/2023 19:43

No, I didn't in this situation. I didn't think it was any of his business & she told me in confidence.

pictoosh · 04/01/2023 19:43

More than likely, yes.

FartWrangler · 04/01/2023 19:44

Definitely.

BarbourandWellies · 04/01/2023 19:44

Probably. I tell him most things and that’s probably something I’d want to talk out with someone.

FizzyFucker · 04/01/2023 19:46

Yes I would, I would also reconsider my friendship with the one having an affair.

IronicElf · 04/01/2023 19:47

No. If I'm told in confidence I won't pass it along. It won't impact on him and he doesn't need to know sensitive gossip. He knows that about me.

I didn't tell DH when I found out one of his family members has HIV (everyone knows now). I'd known for 5 years before it became common knowledge, as I'd worked with people who were HIV in the past, and the person felt they could chat with me.

Campervangirl · 04/01/2023 19:47

Yep, I tell my oh everything, I couldn't keep a secret to save my life.
My oh would keep quiet because if it's nonsense / something that doesn't affect him he'll promptly forget what I've told him unless I remind him.
So I get to unburden myself without worrying that it'll get out

TheLastDreamOfTheOak · 04/01/2023 19:48

Yes I tell him everything

IronicElf · 04/01/2023 19:49

*were HIV Positive. Not HIV. People aren't their illnesses. Sorry I revised the sentence and missed the phrasing.

mistermagpie · 04/01/2023 19:58

Yes I would tell him, I tell him most things to be honest. He wouldn't tell anyone else though.

Craghopper1 · 04/01/2023 19:59

No. I would keep it a secret.

thefirstmrsrochester · 04/01/2023 20:00

Absolutely I would, and I have.

PlaitBilledDuckyPuss · 04/01/2023 20:00

I doubt it; unless it personally affected him, it would be mindless gossip.

Almostlegible · 04/01/2023 20:01

No.