If your friend told you…

[Paperdolly]

If your friend told you she was having an affair would you share that with your husband?

Yep. I tell him everything.

I absolutely would even if I was asked not to.

Depends on which friend it was.

No of course I wouldn't.

No! What business is it of his?

That particular fact specifically? Yes, absolutely.

Something medical about a friend? No, definitely not.

It depends. Does DH know the friend? Does he know the friend's partner? It makes a difference if it's just your friend he doesn't really know compared to if you see friends with the couple and he's friends with the guy being cheated on.

If you were told in confidence then no I would breach that trust.

Yes, they definitely do know I tell him. We just don’t keep secrets from each other. And I expect my friends to tell their husbands things. Not that I have any big secrets to share.

I probably would share it with my husband. And I would terminate my friendship with someone with such poor morals.

if they asked me not to tell him then I wouldn’t but if they don’t ask I would. If my friend was married or I knew the partner of the person that they were having the affair with I would be annoyed with my friend for putting me in an awkward position with the innocent spouse by telling me.

This. She has told you, not your husband. I don’t like it when friends do this.

Yes, I would.

Just to add it would be purely for my own release and need to offload the pressure of being the only one knowing. My DH has no interest in my friends or their private lives and would never say anything to anybody.

Yes. Well DP. And I know she knows I would and visa versa. But we both know it would go no further.

If it was asked not to share with DP I don't think I would. But I wouldn't be able to remain friends anyway.

Probably, although likely not in detail. If I tell a friend something I assume they will share with their partner.

I’d tell him, we tell each other everything.

No

No chance.

Not least because my DH could not keep a secret if his life depended upon it.

A friend's confidences shared with me are not automatically any of my husband's business just because we're married.

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More than likely not we may be married but I don't feel the need to tell private information that doesn't concern me or him

No I wouldn't

I’m aghast at the number of people who, told stuff by gfs in confidence think it’s ok to tell their Dh. I hate it when people do this! Your gfs are not telling your husband, they are telling you. In confidence!

No, it's private. He wouldn't tell anyone but to me private conversations between friends are that. I would only talk to him about it if I needed his advice about it for some reason.

Yes. If i thought my husband would gossip to anyone, let it slip by accident or feel obligated to tell the spouse about the affair then I wouldn't. But if i could trust it to go to further then i would because i would be worried about my friend and her partner.