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Would you be okay with a 10 year old using the ladies?

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helpinghandinhisname · 30/12/2022 18:42

Accompanied by their carer obviously

The disabled toilet was locked, there were two and both weren't responding to the access key this poor woman had

She had a very clearly disabled boy with her. He was in need of a change and crying, ripping at her coat and trying to bite and scratch her. No verbal words, just very flight risky and tried bolting off a few times. He had what looked like toddler reins on but obviously not exactly toddler ones

I say age 10 but that's generous, he was probably about 11/12. As tall as the woman etc and she wasn't tiny

She gave up then after he successful did manage to bite into her arm and marched him into the ladies

My friend was tutting and looked ready to say something, pretty much doing that look as if she was about to speak if the woman looked in her direction

I said leave her be. She said it was disgusting she was bringing such an older child into the toilet when he wasn't a small child or under 8/9.

I said she was desperate, leave her be

She said 'whatever, it isn't right and I'm shocked you're standing for it'. It seemed to ruin the mood of our coffee out then and we haven't text since!

Would you be okay with a much older boy using a woman's toilet if they're with a carer?

Obviously, this isn't a trans argument and nobody 'identifying' as a woman should be using the ladies toilet.

This really isn't about that so I would appreciate if we could avoid that argument Blush

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Bicurator · 01/01/2023 16:28

EarringsandLipstick · 31/12/2022 08:59

Well, all I can tell you is it is not unusual for me (Ireland). I've never noticed a boy of over 5 or so in the women's toilets or boys of anything more than 7 or so in the female changing rooms.

I don't particularly think about it nor would I react if there was a boy a bit older in either of these scenarios.

I have 3 DC; they naturally chose the appropriate toilet facility, unaccompanied, as age permitted. No big deal, no discussion and no angst.

If it's entirely different where you live, well, ok.

It is, it would be very rare for a 5/6 year old boy to be alone in the mend changing rooms/toilet
s here.

BackAgainstWall · 05/11/2023 22:13

You’re friend is absolutely heartless.

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