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Would you say something to someone if you knew they didn’t wash their hands after using the toilet?

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asblindasabat · 27/12/2022 17:54

On Christmas Day, my MIL Used the downstairs loo but didn’t wash her hands. I know this as our lounge is right beside the toilet and you can always hear the water running when the tap is on, which I didn’t hear. She went in, quickly went about her business, toilet flushed and out she came so it was very obvious.

I was going to ask her if she had forgot to wash her hands but I just couldn’t build the courage to do it! I had an audience and it would probably have looked liked I was starting an argument but I did feel somewhat uncomfortable with someone using the toilet, not washing their hands and then touching objects in my house.

if a guest in your house did this, would you just ignore it or would you just say it as it is?

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MooseAndSquirrelLoveFlannel · 27/12/2022 17:56

Nah, unless she was splashing about in her urine stream I'm sure it's fine......gross.....but hardly world endingly gross.

Tereseta · 27/12/2022 17:58

Would not be the slightest bit arsed

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asblindasabat · 27/12/2022 17:59

Ok I guess I must be the only one bothered by it! Still, I think it’s pretty gross.

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Bemyclementine · 27/12/2022 17:59

No, not really anyone else's business.

Miss03852 · 27/12/2022 18:00

It’s absolutely disgusting but I probably wouldn’t bring it up because she is your MIL, I’d just clean everything after they left but YANBU OP. Absolutely gross.

XenoBitch · 27/12/2022 18:01

It is gross.
I stayed at my parents this weekend, and my dad did not wash his hands once after using the loo. I mentioned it to him as I kept turning down offers of tea/food from him.

CarmenOHara · 27/12/2022 18:01

You were right not to say anything.

TheLittlestLightOnTheXmasTree · 27/12/2022 18:01

You were going to call her out??

Couldn't really be bothered about this either..

Kanaloa · 27/12/2022 18:02

Not unless it was a child and I’d been in the toilet with them. I genuinely don’t know if my guests wash their hands or not - I hope they do but I don’t listen, and I think shouting ‘you didn’t wash’ makes you look like a toilet listener, which is almost as bad as a non washer.

Miss03852 · 27/12/2022 18:03

Bemyclementine · 27/12/2022 17:59

No, not really anyone else's business.

Except she’s spreading germs and fecal matter all over the house 🤮 some people who don’t wash their hands really outing themselves on this thread. This is why self service machines are so disgusting and covered in fecal matter.

Kanaloa · 27/12/2022 18:03

XenoBitch · 27/12/2022 18:01

It is gross.
I stayed at my parents this weekend, and my dad did not wash his hands once after using the loo. I mentioned it to him as I kept turning down offers of tea/food from him.

How did you know he wasn’t washing his hands the whole time?

XenoBitch · 27/12/2022 18:04

Kanaloa · 27/12/2022 18:03

How did you know he wasn’t washing his hands the whole time?

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Loo and sink are in sperate rooms, plus the house is small. You can hear everything.

Butteredtoast55 · 27/12/2022 18:06

I would. Not washing hands after using the toilet is utterly disgusting.

Nimbostratus100 · 27/12/2022 18:07

you are being ridiculous - you dont know that she went to the toilet, and you dont know if she gelled her hands, and it is none of your business anyway. Maybe she went to adjust her bra and flushed the toilet just becasue she knows you are the sort of person to make a note of what you hear happening in the loo

TheChosenTwo · 27/12/2022 18:07

I wouldn’t have said anything. I think it’s weird to bring it up even though it’s disgusting.

OriginalUsername2 · 27/12/2022 18:08

I know it’s not a popular opinion but I think touching the taps and towels at someone else’s house or a public loo is worse than just touching tissue. As an adult my fluids never get anywhere they shouldn’t.

I do always wash my hands before touching food though, which I notice a lot of people don’t.

CeriB82 · 27/12/2022 18:13

I would have said something.

i would have asked what the thought of the new expensive hand wash in the bathroom.

i work with people like that. Worse still they leave floaters. Dirty bitches

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asblindasabat · 27/12/2022 18:16

TheChosenTwo · 27/12/2022 18:07

I wouldn’t have said anything. I think it’s weird to bring it up even though it’s disgusting.

It’s not. It’s disgusting to not wash your hands.

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drpet49 · 27/12/2022 18:26

Nimbostratus100 · 27/12/2022 18:07

you are being ridiculous - you dont know that she went to the toilet, and you dont know if she gelled her hands, and it is none of your business anyway. Maybe she went to adjust her bra and flushed the toilet just becasue she knows you are the sort of person to make a note of what you hear happening in the loo

I was about to say this too.

NewMoonPhase · 27/12/2022 18:29

My MIL lets the dog "kiss" her ie: lick her mouth. It's fucking disgusting. We all mention it. She gives not one hoot. 🙈

Strawberrysundaeonamonday · 27/12/2022 18:34

My FIL doesn’t believe in washing hands full stop. He applied that rule even when our babies were newborn, it’s vile. I avoid going anywhere that involves sharing food with him now. If you have nibbles out it’s really horrible when you see their hand reaching into it after using the toilet . . . . 🤮

Onnabugeisha · 27/12/2022 18:37

It’s disgusting and I would say something. I’d probably say “oh, I need to show you something in the kitchen” and tell them in private. But it would be immediate.

Rockbird · 27/12/2022 18:44

I wouldn't say anything but I'd judge with every fibre of my being. If she wants to do that in her house, fine. But touching everything in my house, no thanks.

Lexi868 · 27/12/2022 18:46

That's a bit rank but I wouldn't directly call her out.
If you are that worried, Just have some hand sanitisers placed strategically round and when you use it yourself, encourage other guests to use it.

RustySprings · 27/12/2022 18:46

It is disgustingly unhygienic to not wash your hands after using the loo. But calling someone out on it is a tricky one. Especially when it's family. I think I'd have said something privately, and tried to temper it a bit by saying after covid you are nervous of germs spreading ( or whatever!)...