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Christmas ruined

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Pushingdaisys · 21/12/2022 09:34

me and my partner and also my dd dad have been in a rocky relationship for a while he moved out and we continued with the relationship, the plan was him stay at mine Christmas Eve as he wanted to spend it with her and watch her open her presents. We booked a light show to take dd he phoned last night and said he’s decided against it he’s taking his son Instead because he thinks dd is too young. I got upset and told him I don’t think it’s fair to cut a long story short we went half’s on presents which he kept in his and now he’s saying I’m a spoilt brat to be upset and refusing to give dd presents back and said he hates me etc I’m at a loss on how i will get them back, he’s a control freak who runs the show

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Mix56 · 28/12/2022 12:05

Did he return the presents ? Did he ask for Christmas contact ?
Its imperative to keep a diary from now on of any request for contact, & how often he bothers.
it will be beneficial in court & prove with what frequency he wants contact, if any ? How many opportunities he has, & how many times he doesn't show etc.

To be honest, you should allow him some contact, he is the father & it will not go in your favour if he says you are preventing him from seeing DC.
If indeed he requests any.
I could you offer one afternoon a week & EOW... it seems to be a standard contact pattern. He cannot pick & choose, it needs to be regular. If he fails, he does not get to decide he will have the next day or next w/e.
Do not sway from any agreed dates. He will use it to manipulate & abuse you.

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Pushingdaisys · 28/12/2022 15:41

Mix56 · 28/12/2022 12:05

Did he return the presents ? Did he ask for Christmas contact ?
Its imperative to keep a diary from now on of any request for contact, & how often he bothers.
it will be beneficial in court & prove with what frequency he wants contact, if any ? How many opportunities he has, & how many times he doesn't show etc.

To be honest, you should allow him some contact, he is the father & it will not go in your favour if he says you are preventing him from seeing DC.
If indeed he requests any.
I could you offer one afternoon a week & EOW... it seems to be a standard contact pattern. He cannot pick & choose, it needs to be regular. If he fails, he does not get to decide he will have the next day or next w/e.
Do not sway from any agreed dates. He will use it to manipulate & abuse you.

Yes I’ve said he can see her but it’s not going trough me I’m get a family member to take her, I don’t think he would take me to court he doesn’t seem bothered it’s more control with him. I’m not going to use my daughter as a weapon

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Pushingdaisys · 28/12/2022 15:42

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 28/12/2022 10:57

New Year: new start. You deserve so much better than him.

thank you I know I’m doing it I’m so much happier already

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AcrossthePond55 · 28/12/2022 17:38

@Pushingdaisys

Girl, you have got your head screwed on right and tight! I don't know you, but as a 'fellow woman' I'm so proud of you.

Onwards and upwards! Your future's so bright you gotta wear shades!

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