What’s the worst thing you’ve found out about someone after they’ve died?

[Watisthis]

Going through a big shocker at the minute. Has anyone ever had something massive come out after a loved one has passed away?

Why don't you share what your shocker is first? 😉

Yes

Prison

i wasn’t my mum’s 1st born

Not in the same vein but, but found my 86 year old grans humongous rampant rabbit in the back of the wardrobe when clearing her house out.
Equal parts horrified and hysterical laughing, only saving grace it was still boxed up.

Went to a funeral once where the deceased secret child turned up. That made for an interesting wake.

My mum always kept a diary and wrote a page (A5 size!) a day about what she's been doing that day, her opinions on the current news stories, gossip about the neighbours, what my dad had been up to etc etc.

I "inherited" a large pile of them (around 30 diaries) when she died. My dad pre-deceased her by two years, but she kept up the writing until she passed away herself.

One day, a few weeks after her passing, I picked one up totally at random, opened it at a random date, expecting to read that she'd been to Tesco shopping and had fish and chips for supper. Instead, I read - to my horror - that she had discovered that day that my dad had been having a long term affair. She clearly had no idea, and neither did I. She never told me.

Found out about a completely different heritage, that our names had been changed by deed poll to hide ethnicity. A previous wife and 6 previous children.

Was a bit of a surprise!

That my mother had a previous marriage and my late sister was a half sister. My mother was pregnant and had got married. Later the marriage was annulled. Some other stuff as well I won't go into but was so sad she had never shared the secret with me. I still don't know what name my sister died with so I couldn't trace her death details or lay flowers etc. No trace of her paperwork so mum must have got rid of it all.

My family are all very boring. No skeletons in the wardrobe so far.

Made up?

From her diaries -that she hated everyone including those who stuck up for her even when it cost them other family members. I'm glad she's gone. Bitch. Wasn't worth the tears, arguments, worry, wasted time, effort, kindness, none of it. She ruined lives, mine included, and it's taken a lot to even start climbing back from there.

My grandmother died and it was revealed that she had millions of pounds in a bank account. She'd received it as inheritance and put it all away, lived frugally and never told anyone. We grew up in poverty, my (single) mum worked 3 jobs to keep us fed and warm and GM never offered us help. It was very bittersweet but the money has been put to good use now

Yes. Family member had another child that they had given up. Wasn’t their eldest either.

I discovered from solicitor's paperwork after her death that my mother had never wanted me right from birth, only my 'golden boy' brother, her firstborn. She had only insisted on keeping me after my parents' divorce to spite my father, who wanted to give both my brother and me a home, when in reality she only really wanted to keep my brother. It all made much sense of her coldness towards and lack of interest in me as I grew up and the preferential treatment my brother received. I look very much like my father, so no doubt I was an unpleasant reminder to her for the rest of her days. Because of natural conditioning on such matters, I feel guilty saying I do not and never have mourned her, but I would be lying to pretend otherwise.

Hilarious 🤣

That my maternal grandfather had gambled away a huge fortune including several millions in one sitting

When my gran and mum were clearing out my late grandfather's wardrobe they found a hand gun! My gran was jokingly pointing it at my mum saying "bang bang"... turns out it was loaded! Was a remnant of WW2.

That a pillar of the community had a wife and a mistress for 45 years and they knew about each other! There's talk that it might have been a threesome relationship too

After a good friend’s husband died and the day before the funeral, I was told by someone (who was upset) that the deceased had confided a few days before that he had been having and a two-year affair with his partner’s ‘closest friend’. I knew immediately it was true as I’d walked in on them once. On the face of it everything had been okay, but it felt off. Looking back in light of what I’d been told, it was obvious. Throughout the drive to the funeral, I felt angry with him and so uncomfortable for my friend. These feelings were made worse in the Church when the Vicar made a long speech talking about what an honourable man he was, commenting on all of the things he cared about and peppering the speech with the comment “nothing though meant more than the love he had for X (his partner/my friend). His mistress sat there beside her own husband throughout sniffling away, alongside his partner.

Not really 'worst' not in comparison to some of these but it turns out my grandad had had such an interesting life. He'd done so many fascinating things but it was only after he'd died that we found out snatches of them-little bits of information from photos or half remembered stories from friends or relatives. We never got to find out the full stories and he'd just never talked about any of it. It was just a bit sad really that he never felt it was important or worth talking about it or passing on, even to his own children. I love hearing about my own dad's stories from his youth and early career etc and I think he was quite regretful that his dad never felt the need to talk about the same with him, and it wasn't for lack of trying either. Grandad always just brushed us off with excuses that nothing exciting happened to him.

Someone in my family died and it was revealed that he had been living a complete different life, including being known as a different first name when he went to his church. A whole community knew him as someone else, with a different personality. They didn’t know that he lived with his partner of 30 years. All this and he was still married to somone else having a third (but pre 30 year partner) life.
when we found out that he had a secret lock up, we were scared to investigate as by this point things were so crazy and surreal we half expected to find dead bodies on there. Instead it was lots of old furniture and things he had “acquired” but had never been missed from his 3 lives.

OP, you need to elaborate