What’s the worst thing you’ve found out about someone after they’ve died?

[Watisthis]

Going through a big shocker at the minute. Has anyone ever had something massive come out after a loved one has passed away?

I found out through doing an ancestry tree that my grandfather had two families and went back and forth between them having children. He worked for the RAC at the time!

Lazy journalism

That a beloved uncle , who visited regularly and was helped financially , was an abusive drunk . Quite well off. Cousin revealed that he was neglectful, spending money on himself whilst his kids went without adequate food or clothing. And regularly beat his wife and kids. Worst part was that his family assumed that we knew and condoned his behaviour. So glad we were able to assure them that had we known , we would never have tolerated him. The whole thing was very unsettling and I was so angry .

That he didn't die in a motorcycle accident but had committed suicide. He was never divorced, but still married. His wife loved him and the son that he had spent months supporting through a 2nd round of chemotherapy and had died (as we all tried to support him through this emotional rollercoaster) was in fact alive and had never had cancer and was the one who found his body. Guessing that he took his wedding ring off everyday before work and put it back on again when he went home. That the money he was going to use for a joint investment was his and his wife's not his alone. That the dog he offered to give to my son (which was refused) was a much beloved family pet. That he had mental health issues and his wife was the one supporting him through them.

Finding this out was like he never existed. Like a dream.

@daisychain01 mentioning this on a totally anonymous forum is disloyal? Get a grip.

That those photos he sent on when he said he was alone were taken by his wife. That he treated everyone he met like they were some part of a game.

That my grandfather had another family.

This has not been proven, though I think it likely.

Another relative had a previously unknown-about son turn up at the funeral..

But these people were born in the Victorian era when shame and subterfuge were rife.

And for any horrid journalist looking for a story they don't have permission to use content from my posts.

You need to provide more details @Watisthis because a one word answer, prison, isn't enough. People have provided you with private family details here. So the least you can do is add your story otherwise you look like a lazy journalist fishing for stories.

I had an older colleague who to look at was very straight laced and 'proper', a bit like a scary headmistress. We used meet up for coffee and she told me she and her husband hadnt had sex for years as he couldnt 'get it up' and that her rabbit was the best thing she had ever invested in. She kept this a strict secret from her husband as he would not approve. She sadly died suddenly and I often wondered how her dh felt when he found her rabbit, poor sod!

I’m afraid it doesn’t work like that.

I hope people are happy for these stories to appear in a tabloid or clickbait article.

The OP asking for stories but failing to provide their own to set the thread off, then just providing a one word answer is dodgy. Journalist, or maybe someone fishing for info.

Where punctuation is important :)

They don't need it. Your post is already public.

My wife was adopted and when she died her biological family didn't care. They didn't care when she was alive and only wanted to know how she died. I hate them.

@MrsOnyx same here - I found a huge pile of my grandmothers diaries from the early 70s until 2010s. I always wondered why our relationship wasn't close - turns out she intensely disliked me from the moment I was born! "Too needy" as a baby and gave my mother too much work apparently...

Nothing bad, but my aunt found all my Nan's gifts from Christmas and birthdays over 20 years unopened and put in a spare room.

My grandparents left their very used "toys" in the living room. They were in their 90s!

I found out my relative was a Daily Mail reporter.

seriously guys, they peddle division and hatred. Please don’t write their articles for them.

After she died, I discovered that my aunt used overheard bits of conversation from well-meaning people to write exploitative articles for the press. She reckoned she was a journalist, but in reality she was just a leech, cynically feeding on other people’s trauma.

A tasteless thread .

This is ironic.

I don’t think it’s ironic. I think it’s a pointed comment

My gran died first (my dads mum) and then my gramp a few years later.

When my dad and his brothers were cleaning out the house they found about £70,000 in cash under the bed in shoe boxes.

My gran & gramp were old school, didn't trust the banks, lived very frugally and had a happy, simple life.