Is it really the norm to be completely hair free for sex now?

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I was married for 30 years, I kept myself tidy if I was likely to be going swimming but that's about it. DH never seemed to mind or express a preference for anything else.

I was part of a conversation with a bunch of middle aged, mostly single, admittedly quite drunk, men and women (don't ask me how the conversation came up!) and the consensus seemed to be that anything other than a completely hair free woman and a well trimmed man was "disgusting".

I've told them all that if the ever get the opportunity (they won't!) they'll have to take it as it comes 😆

I really can't imagine setting myself up for that sort of maintenence, even if I wanted to, but is it really the norm?

Not among the people I know!

I think it is the norm, doesn't mean it's right though

Not in this house. Older we get, more hair sprouts in weird places 🤣

Porn innit? I think it’s grim, everyone wants to fuck women who resemble little girls. Bleuch!

I don't bother anymore. Just a trim on a fairly low setting. I like men pretty trimmed as well, but still some hair.
Men trim now to make themselves look bigger for dick pics.

Not for me, I have PCOS and am basically a gorilla. DH has never uttered a word of complaint. If he did, he would immediately lose intimacy privileges.

It's one of those things where people think their own choices are normal and that everyone does it, when in fact they haven't seen most people naked. The only thing I find disgusting is when people label other people's bodies as disgusting.

Programmes like Naked Attraction really don't help, as the person doing the choosing almost always makes the "trendy" choice, so nobody with a bush would dare go on the programme for fear of being ridiculed, so it ends up with a vicious circle of what is seen to be "normal". The same way that neat and tidy labia are seen as "normal", so anyone with more flowery ones would be scared to show it in public, which again creates an artificially skewed version of what is normal.

That's what I said. One of them did at least look like he gave that point some thought.

This has been the norm for at least the last 15 years.
I think younger generations (teens to early twenties) might be more body positive and be starting to embrace their body hair. I am in my early thirties and constantly read magazines that body shamed women (even straight after giving birth!) so that conditioning may never leave me.

Read in the past tense - they wouldn’t get away with such BS nowadays!

Not with me or about half my friends. I can't be arsed and DH would have sex a few times a day given the chance so definitely doesnt mind!

"I was part of a conversation with a bunch of middle aged, mostly single, admittedly quite drunk, men and women (don't ask me how the conversation came up!) and the consensus seemed to be that anything other than a completely hair free woman and a well trimmed man was "disgusting".

Whenever I'm looking for guidance on sex and intimate relationships, I always give the most weight to the opinions of single, middle-aged drunks. It's not failed me yet. Said no sane person ever.

Not for me. I don’t shave anything, not legs, armpits or pubes. I know a couple of other women who don’t either (late 20s to mid 30s). Anyone who thinks natural body hair is disgusting wouldn’t even get past a first date with me let alone a shag!

I hate this take - little girls and women are different in plenty of ways other than pubic hair! It’s also rude to those who choose to be hair free and women who haven’t lost their hair by choice.

Personally I prefer to be shaved, it’s just the way I like it. But I don’t always and DH doesn’t mind either way. Everyone is allowed preferences of course but I wouldn’t be too impressed with a man who branded any part of a women’s natural body ‘disgusting’ frankly.

Oh bless you. Might that be why I'm seeing other views?

We're both going for more of the 1970's look in this house! I cba to remove perfectly normal bush and neither can my very fuzzy OH

I've got a friend who is a midwife and the majority of women she attends are hair free these days, so I think loads of people of a certain age do remove it all.

I do get cross when people say it's cleaner to have no public hair or that shaving it off makes you look pre-pubescent, because neither is true. Ideally everyone would do what they wanted and everybody else would just let them get on with it.

Gah, pubic.

Not in this house, treat myself to a leg and bikini wax prior to beach holidays, otherwise he's lucky if I've bothered to shave my arm pits or legs, forget anything else!

I think there’s a difference by age. I think the younger ones are all hair free.

Just a short back and sides for me. I would not be comfortable with the whole Brazilian?. Not a problem for me though as I’m now permanently celibate.

It's pretty common. Certainly for sex dating 3 years ago i went for all off, which was a big change from previously never doing anything to it. At least one guy was a bit disappointed and said he enjoyed some hair, one guy would probably have cancelled if I had had any hair, and the rest I would say didn't care much but in an ideal world preferred a smaller curated area to a full rainforest (I also have PCOS and the untouched version is fairly extensive).

Most of the men i met had reduced or removed their hair but not all.

Not in this house. DH fortunately prefers au naturelle.

I think the hairless look is a porn-thing where the look is important and the feel doesn't matter.

This is an example of the value of getting to know someone reasonable well before taking off one's clothes. I'd like to know in advance anyone who thinks that a non-hairless body is disgusting, so I would be sure to avoid any kind of intimacy.

Ps one of my DD's waxes the other resists even showering, same with dsd- who asked my opinion (first serious boyfriend) and I told her personal preference and never be bullied into doing anything you aren't comfortable with

I have everything waxed off but I live in Asia, it’s boiling all the time and we are always swimming so it’s just easier.