Why are so many women so obsessed with having girls?

[TreacsPotNoodle]

(Not all women of course.)

But it seems to be so common that pregnant women are desperate for a baby girl! Why is this?!

3 of my friends who had babies around the same time as me were so disappointed to find out they were having boys and have made a point to "keep trying until they have a girl"

I'm not trying to be goady I just genuinely cannot think of why baby girls are so favoured over baby boys?

Just...what is the point of favouring either?! You get what you get! I've got three sons and the minute they were each placed in my arms they were my children, each beloved and individual. I never yearned for anything other than a safe birth and a healthy child. We're just on the way back from a long weekend in London and we've shopped, eaten out, done the sights...at 5,10 and 13 they're just great company. You get the relationships you deserve, male or female.

I genuinely wasn't bothered whether I had a boy or a girl, I was just grateful to be pregnant.

I was convinced that I was having a boy, so when DD emerged I was a bit surprised. I don't know anyone who was obsessed with having a daughter (or a son for that matter). I've no intention of moulding her into a mini me - She's her own person and although she is, and always has been ncredibly close to her dad, as she gets older she and I are getting closer day by day.

I'm parenting a child, and I just want to make sure my child is loved, happy and secure.

Mitocondrial DNA.

Not pink stuff nor pretty dresses.

Was closer to my mum and gran and want to extend the female line.

I do know some families that have had lots of sons then a girl. The girl tends to be tomboyish with all those big brothers.

I did want a girl for my first pregnancy. My mum died when I was two years old and I just wanted to be mum to a girl. Then had my boy a few years later.
They're grown up now, both lovely when little and are really great adults too. Love them both to bits equally.

I was desperate for a girl as no boys in our family and didn't think I'd know how to raise one. Then found out I couldn't get pregnant. After two x IVF, eventually had a boy. Was overjoyed. Then conceived naturally and had a girl. May as well have had two boys as she hated anything pink or girly and just wanted to be like her brother. Are now early 20's. My son is way more loving and emotional than my daughter. May as well have had two boys! Daughter has never needed me in an emotional sense whatsoever-massively mature and independent whereas son confides in me and we remain close. IMHO we raise children to be who they are, not to accessorise a 'mini-me'.

I wanted a daughter because I already had a son and wanted to experience raising both sexes. I have exposed both my children to a wide variety of toys, hobbies, sports, and experiences, and despite all that, DS loves cars & football and DD loves princesses & pink.

Of course if DD had been a boy, he might have also loved pink and princesses and dolls, who knows. But they are completely different children in just about every way you can think of, and I really enjoy that.

I am very close to my Mum, she was very close to her’s, and I suppose I grew up with that impression of a mother / daughter relationship and hoped I’d have the opportunity to experience the same.

‘A son is a son til he takes a wife, a daughter is a daughter for life’

i don’t know the truth of this saying but anecdotally I’ve seen this to be true

Perhaps because so many women suffer at the hands of men?

I got all the usual shit from men and boys, starting from before I left primary. For a long time I didn’t want to bring either girls into the world to suffer from it or boys to perpetuate it. No doubt due to hormones I did it eventually anyway and have one of each but ending up in that situation is my biggest fear, especially since my marriage is not as equal as we’d planned thanks to political/ economic change.

I don’t have children, but back in my fertile years, I often thought about having a girl. whenever I dreamed about being a mum, it was always to a DD.

In my case, it’s almost certainly because I have a terrible relationship with my own mum, and I wanted to build a better mother-daughter relationship with my own daughter.

When I realised what I was doing - trying to fix my own issues through a non-existent child - well, that’s one of the reasons I didn’t have kids at all… It would have been a big burden to place on a child.

Bull shit! Some will, but just look at how men are viewed on here - as misogynistic, aggressive, woman-hating arseholes who can do no right. Is it any wonder women are then apprehensive about having sons? You can’t expect them to read thread after thread about how awful men are then berate them for saying they would prefer to have a daughter, saying ‘oh but MY son is lovely’.

Maybe they’ve seen my daughters, they’re awesome 😁 Some days it’s a glitter filled princess twirl-a-thon and other days I’m demanding to know who brought a jar of snails in the house. I suppose on the one hand you probably do get a bit more variety with girls, I think girls are not exclusively but on the whole more likely to play football/king fu than boys are to play dollies/Sylvanians (based on DD8’s play dates, anyway)

Anyway, I’m clearly biased. I’m sure if I had 2 boys I’d be as smug about them!

Sadly men are more likely to commit suicide or suffer from drug addiction. It’s not as straightforward as you suggest.

Not always, certainly not in my case. Why presume that?

My mum died suddenly when I was 34 weeks pregnant she was my everything we couldn't of been closer. If I'm honest I was desperate for a girl to recreate the bond we had. Who knows if I'll get it

Interesting question. I hoped for a girl with my first and was a bit worried I'd have a boy. Two reasons 1) because I grew up with a sister so as a child that was what I was used to, I just assumed I'd have a girl and the older I got I just didn't think differently, 2) because I was a girl and didn't know anything about boys. I think i felt I'd be out of my depth. I had a girl and then all of those feelings went away and I went onto have more children without any thoughts about what the sex would be. I don't think I'd have been disappointed had I not had a girl.

It always surprises me how men as a group are viewed as being awful on here, yet every single poster’s son ‘isn’t like that’ and is ‘cuddly and gentle’ apparently 🤷🏼‍♀️

When I was a teenager you wouldn’t BELIEVE the behaviour of some of the boys who then turned into a lovely respectable young man the moment their mum was there…

@Bettyboop3

It is not an assumption. Certainly in our culture daughters remain closer to their parents in adulthood. Sons integrate more into their wives families. Their children often tend to be closer to maternal grandparents.

Now of course there will be exceptions but as a general rule of thumb that is the norm. To suggest otherwise is just denial and I speak as a mother of sons.

I love my son dearly but haven't been able to have any more children. I would have like one of each and am jealous of friends who have this. As others have said, I think men tend to gravitate more towards their wife's family and I worry that DH and I will be an afterthought. I know that I involve my own mother much more in our lives than DH involves his, but added to this that MIL has other children/grandchildren whereas we wouldn't.

I suppose though that you can't predict what a relationship between parent and child will be like with either sex.

Its only people who have boys who trot out this question again and again and again.

I've also wanted girls. I couldn't even imagine having boys. I grew up with a sister and don't have any brothers. I had nephews before I had children and I wasn't interested in what they were interested in e.g. playing tractors and diggers seemed to be all they did.

When I was very young, I dreamed of having daughters. When I had my first daughter I was so relieved to have a daughter. When I was pregnant with my second child I wasn't as bothered about the gender because I already had my girl. It turned out to be another girl and I was delighted that they'd be sisters.

If I had boys I'm sure I would have been more interested and of course I'd have loved them too.

I don't really give a thought to other people who have boys or girls or both. I'm very happy with my daughters to care about other people. But to be very honest, I suppose when I hear of somebody having their third boy, I feel a bit of regret for them.

When I was born boys were wanted and girls were very much the consolation prize.
I wasn’t bothered either way as I was so ill when pregnant I knew dc would be an only so a boy was fine with me.

My boys are far easier children, but in the event they have children and divorce or the DIL doesn't like me, I could easily end up barely seeing the grandchildren. That's the only reason I was pleased about having a girl.

I am sorry, that must have been so hard but there's no reason to think you will bond with a girl more than a boy. It is all about the personality not the genitals

Yes but men and women are more likely to hold certain characteristics due to their sex. We can deny it all we want, but it’s true.

& i speak as a mother of both sons and daughters