Is this the new thing re parties and weddings.

[Cookiemonstersnana]

Last week we received a wedding invitation for the end of January.
On the invite it's asking us to pay for our food. £100 each. It's worded
as though they are doing us a favour as it's only £200. Plus asking us for
money for their honeymoon.

Then in the post this morning is an invite to a significant birthday for one of DHs
friends and this says there won't be a buffet but there will be a van outside where
we can BUY a pizza.
Both of these events is where we purchase our own drinks.

Other than asking bride and groom for refund!

I feel a tiny bit sorry for the b+G

wedding guests normally know each other and I guarantee word will / has got round and opinions will be shared.
I predict a tiny wedding

burger party van ok tho - that’s normal

Wow that's expensive for wedding food ...no I wouldn't go
But to ask people to basically pay to go to their wedding and ask for a wedding gift is just RUDE

Hahaha, yes, good luck with that!

The wedding is rude it's one thing to ask guests attending a small diy wedding to bring a dish etc but £100 a head isa pretty flashy meal. Pizza truck wouldn't bother me as it's optional. If u don't want to pay eat before you go.

Most people saying 'pizza truck is fine, eat something beforehand' but the hosts aren't providing drinks either. I've never been to a party, or held a party, where the hosts didn't provide anything for their guests.

Where I am, drinks wouldn't be expected at a party. I can only think of one party , outside of work where drink was provided. And at the most It's a buffet that's provided.

Food for an evening party where most will have already had tea is just a snack and I have been to some where it's not provided or it's just nibble type things.

I don't see it any different as to going out for a meal for someone's birthday - I would fully expect to pay for my own drinks and food.

Oh dear, I think that bride and groom are going to be disappointed by the number of people who say yes to that plan.

Birthday party and buying your pizzas, can't see an issue really. Is there a bar there, or can you just take your own supply of drink?

I am curious about the wording too!

@pinkyredrose

youve actually quoted the op saying it's £100 each which is per head.

2 people £200 not per head.

Ooh. Me too.
I'm quite fascinated by this.
I'd love to hear the response from most guests, and then what the B&G end up doing.

I mean, this will undoubtedly make the Daily Fail or the Mirror or The Sun or 'Reach', so we'll get lots more opinions on it, but I want to get an update as to what the B&G decide to do.
A I can't see any venue capable of serving 80 - 100 guests being impressed when the B&G say only 17 are coming.......

I’m not sure about this, the op only said she’d been invited to a wedding and this was for food. She didn’t say what food. Everyone just assumed the wedding breakfast. It could actually be she’s booked into stay and this is for dinner the night before and breakfast on the morning of the wedding and the day after before they depart; this I would expect to pay for if I intended to eat in the hotel.

indont know but a hundred a head is steep , the op has been very unclear with her words, and it’s the comment on them doing her a favour as it’s only two hundred makes me think it’s something they would have to pay for and the bride and groom has done a deal to get it cheaper.

@TheHallouminati · Today 15:09

Dh and I married young when we were "poor" (13 yr anniversary today actually!) and the fact that we had a modest affair is actually quite quaint. It's nice to look back that we started our married life poor and in love which was all we needed and now we can look back and see how far we've come in every way through being a great team.

Happy anniversary, Halloumi!

I've been to parties where its just been part or all of a bar/ pub/ restaurant booked for the group. No expectation that the host would pay. A wedding is different.

only two hundred makes me think it’s something they would have to pay for and the bride and groom has done a deal to get it cheaper.

£200 per head for a meal would be an awful lot unless it's a Michelin starred place or something.

Cheeky f'ers! Think they will find they have a very low response from their invitations or people willing to pay that ridiculous amount for food plus hand over money for a honeymoon

I have heard of this before but instead of a gift, also wedding food is not £100 per head so they're basically just trying to foist the cost of their wedding and their honeymoon onto their guests.

They'll probably still bleat about 'ungrateful' people declining invites as if they're doing you a massive favour by inviting you to their wedding

Thanks so much!

Oh wouldn't mind at all about pizza van birthday though.

Blooming heck no, I certainly wouldn't be paying for my own meal at a wedding. What a cheek!
The pizza van birthday party I wouldn't mind so much, at least I'd get to choose my own pizza.

This. Not normal at all and utterly cheap. I wouldn’t attend both.

Decline wedding
Eat b4 you go to party if you don't want to buy from the food van

Wow no way! Birthday one I'm on the fence about, but the wedding one is madness!

@burnoutbabe I would be more than happy with that sort of wedding invite and would definitely go and pay for my meal. I think it's totally different as they are not spending a load of money on a massive fancy wedding then getting guests to subsidise them. We did something similar for one of our DCs christenings. We couldn't afford a big party so we paid for church service then booked a private area in a pub, we provided cake, tea and coffee and gave people the option to order lunch if they wanted to, we bought the first round also. Pretty much everyone did order food and were genuinely happy, they said they preferred that to a buffet anyway.

Everything he could possibly buy to show how rich he is. Strangely, the evening reception was a wheel of cheese between 250 people 🤣.