Is this the new thing re parties and weddings.

[Cookiemonstersnana]

Last week we received a wedding invitation for the end of January.
On the invite it's asking us to pay for our food. £100 each. It's worded
as though they are doing us a favour as it's only £200. Plus asking us for
money for their honeymoon.

Then in the post this morning is an invite to a significant birthday for one of DHs
friends and this says there won't be a buffet but there will be a van outside where
we can BUY a pizza.
Both of these events is where we purchase our own drinks.

also wedding food is not £100 per head so they're basically just trying to foist the cost of their wedding and their honeymoon onto their guests.

It is in a lot of places.....

Just a small point, but it seems to be assumed in the comments about lots turning the invitation down that everyone's had the same one

What if, as well as subsidising the actual wedding, the B&G are hoping that certain guests will subsidise the meals of those closer to them?

No, not bothered about the expenses, we were kind of expected to go and made a night of it, but at £150k plus for the day, he could have stretched to an evening buffet instead of a cheese wheel. 🤣 Yes, they were really in love, both shagging other people behind each others back. Well worth the £150k.

Overall, weddings in the UK are odd. I've been to a couple and was shocked you need to pay for your drink. In Romania for eg. guests will give you an envelope with money at the end of the party that would cover the cost of the food, drinks and extra on top for honeymoon or whatever. It is general knowledge how much things cost depending on the location, but nobody pays for anything at the party - it's all you can eat and drink affair. If I were to go to a wedding today in UK, I would happily give the B&G £200/couple and no prezzies, but would expect the drinks to be included for that amount.

Trust me adalina MOST weddings in the UK definitely do include dinner and drinks and much more besides. We paid for all of the flights and hotels as well. There is a small minority of people that seem to think they can achieve a bigger wedding by getting the guests to pay for themselves, in mine and most of civilised society this is almost always a non starter and incredibly rude.
CF couple trying to stretch the budget at the expense of the guest/payee. You can't even call someone a guest if they are paying for everything, more like a payee of the wedding.

I am sorry you have had a horrid experience here, and I hope you will attend a more normal wedding in the future that is both generous and beautiful, as most weddings are here.

Times are tough

The wedding is ludicrous -

The b’day party pizza not a big deal - you can always take snacks/sandwiches if you don’t want to spend the extra

Congratulations- home page of the Daily Mail

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