DP doesn't brush his teeth

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My fiancé rarely brushes his teeth. I brush mine twice a day morning and night. I think the last time he brushed his teeth was Tuesday morning or maybe even before then! He also rarely showers. He wipes his nose with his hand and not a tissue. If I prompt him to brush his teeth he sighs and gets annoyed. It's disgusting. He is lucky that he doesn't get bad breath.

He is great in every other way - very kind, caring, has a good job etc. He does his fair share of the work in the house although he is incredibly messy.

I have spoken to him before and said it is very disrespectful to me that he doesn't take care of his hygiene. I've said I deserve better. He said he isn't doing it to be disrespectful. He improved for a few days and he's slipped back into his bad habits.

Why am I marrying this absolute creature? As above, apart from the hygiene issue he is great in all other ways.

Holy mother of God tell me this ain’t true!! 😳😳🤮🤮

Once upon a time this was me too, though I didn't start the thread! Somehow he"d got to 30 without knowing that it was necessary!
Needless to say I binned him off soon after I found out. This was just one part of a hugely stunted personality.

That's absolutely vile.

How do you kiss someone like that 🤮.

It's like when people don't brush their tongue. It's absolutely disgusting 🤮

So, he rarely brushes his teeth, hardly showers, is a messy bastard around the house.

Do you shag him??

I'd find him repulsive.

You really do not want a lifetime of this do you? If he's like this in his 30's, imagine what he'll be like in his 50's 😱

YES - omg I hate when your talking to someone and you can see a coating on their tongue, usually accompanied with bad breath… why do people not brush their tongue???… It’s disturbingly common too! 🤢

Hang on I'm confused.

If he had all his teeth removed what is there to brush??

Surely he wears dentures and they go in the cleaning fluid stuff?

If he doesn't brush his teeth or wash I couldn't have sex with him. No one like bad breath or cheese dick.

Or sweaty balls

OP make a new rule, if he wants sex he has too be freshly showered and brush his teeth… Watch how quickly he changes his ways!

Ugggggghhhhh I’d leave. Why are you going to marry him?!

🫣 Eeew! 🤢

So he's OK about your unhappiness and is even willing to lose you rather than spend 10 minutes a day on basic self care? Show him this thread

That's vile.

Stick a sign saying 'brush your teeth' next to his bedside. He can't say he forgot if it's right there morning and night. He could also set a morning and night repeat reminder on his phones

Teenagers often go through a soap dodging phase... The difference is, they grow out of it
He doesn't want or see the need to change
It's very disrespectful

It's not just the fact that he's grim, but also that he doesn't listen to you when you're only pointing out basic hygiene. If he's so nice, then why can't he listen to you and act like a basic functioning adult.

How can you have sex with someone who doesn't shower ? 😖dirty twat

This is really disgusting.

How does he not have bad breath? Presumably because he's had most of his teeth removed?

If you have children he will impose his lax attitude to hygiene on to them and I can guarantee you that it will fuck you off more than you can possibly imagine.

He's clearly not arsed to change, this is a very easy thing to correct and he must just love festering in his own filth.

Can't belive ADHD is being put forward for a dirty smelly person's reason for...well, being dirty and smelly 😂

So you are planning to marry a 35-year-old teenager? What a rich life full of UTIs etc you can look forward to!

Even if he doesn’t have bad breath which you say, he will never smell fresh and his teeth will be furry and covered in food and plaque.

Well it was either going to be ADHD, or early onset dementia 😆

Do you have any actual experience of ADHD? My DD does and because of problems with executive functioning many people with ADHD find normal daily routine stuff a challenge. When DD got diagnosed a neuropsychologist told me this was common, but what does a neuropsychologist know, hey? 🙄 If you read my initial post, I asked the OP IF her DP has ADHD. I didn't say 'that's why he's like this", obviously there are people who are just lazy with their personal hygiene. It's like people seem to lack comprehension skills on here sometimes.

We are both WFH today so I just sat him down (I appreciate I may have jumped the gun a bit). I said you need to improve your hygiene levels or I will leave. I also said I've asked on mumsnet and was going to read the responses and he says I know they will all support you but they will hurt me so I don't want to hear them. He said he will do his best, he needs my help to remind him. I said I'm not his mother?

Luckily we use a condom

Deal breaker. I genuinely struggle to see how you can be with him to be honest. Intimacy must be disgusting.

He must be putting on one hell of a show atm, because if he cant get a shower and brush his teeth daily for the benefit of his partner and others around him then that should be a huge red flag regarding character. It's so utterly lazy and selfish.