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A woman is being sued for being disabled

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MrsPear · 05/10/2022 09:52

Seriously the world has gone mad - a woman who is disabled is being sued by her air B and B guests for triggering them.

see her explain here

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sausage767 · 06/10/2022 00:56

@rivermanblows of course it's not acceptable, if that is actually what is happening.

joangray38 · 06/10/2022 09:40

If they do win they will bring Ireland s disability and associated equality legislation down which I imagine is what they are aiming to do. It’s awful that they are essentially ruining the last years of a terminally woman who still acts with grace and won’t name them etc in case they get hate on social media.
if they had bothered to meet her and treat her with respect they may have learned a valuable lesson that disabled people can be lovely. Instead they treated and continue to treat her appallingly.

Wanderingowl · 06/10/2022 10:19

THIS STORY IS A FABRICATION. It could not have happened. The discussions this woman is saying she has had with legal professions just would not have happened. It's genuinely totally impossible. They are made up. She is not only completely and totally muddling up the laws in two different countries but when she does refer to them, she's referring to them in slang terms and assuming they mean things that they absolutely do not, then saying this is what a high level, specialist barrister has told her. It's clear and total bullshit. It's a fabrication.

Either this woman is deliberately trying to stoke a 'culture wars' panic and doing so in a really, really stupid way as her story literally falls apart in under five minutes of research by anyone who has a clue about the laws in Ireland. Which should include any real journalist. Hence why this story has gained no traction once she started making legal claims. Or this woman, who says she has early onset dementia in at least one of her videos, is not making this up but actually believes this is happening. If this is the case, what she needs is specialised medical care, not hordes of gullible people stoking up what must be a very distressing delusion and making it worse.

thinline · 06/10/2022 11:25

I feel stupid for believing @Wanderingowl Blush

Etak123 · 06/10/2022 12:22

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Facepalmtree · 06/10/2022 12:32

Hmm she's turned off comments on tiktok.

Etak123 · 06/10/2022 12:46

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 05/10/2022 14:43

Come on luv, you even said you don’t know why so you can’t have it both ways. I apologised for upsetting you and that I didn’t know vomiting was empathetic 🤦‍♀️* I know you can vomit from being distressed and upset but that’s not saying that is caused by empathy.
She could very well be disgusted by obvious disabilities and vomit, like you said you don’t know the reason and actually neither does anyone, not doctors or anyone but we are all entitled to our opinions and I don’t agree anyone vomits because of empathy, it doesn’t make sense and if something doesn’t make sense it’s generally not true.
I mean there’s conditions like command rejection disorder lmao*

You literally just apologised because you didn't know hyper empathy. You only know about how it affects you, not other people. Do you have a problem though? Like split personality?

No silly, sometimes people go away and come back so things aren’t always in the right order chronological.
I didn’t not know hyper empathy or any of the things you said, I said I don’t believe anyone vomits through empathy which I don’t and I can’t find anything that says it does. After I read a link I was sent on here, I read it quickly, updated my knowledge and adjusted my position and apologised.
I don’t edit what I write, obviously, I just spew out whatever I think at the time lol.
At some point, not too much later, I read something else that got my back up (‘triggered me’) and as I was writing my salty reply which I later apologised for again, I realised that it didn’t actually say vomiting at all, it said stomach ache and nausea. Nausea apparently doesn’t mean feeling sick yourself but making others feel sick but it’s generally used as feeling sick personally.
You and the lady I apologised to have both said things about me not being empathetic and I think she said I can turn it off and on, but actually hyper empathy doesn’t just mean you care so deeply always, it can be that you are effected by everything, other peoples moods and attitudes are mirrored so actually if you can understand that then my comments do show that I obviously absorb what attitude is coming my way in a setting like this and that I react in an overly emotional way let’s say.
So all these less than friendly comments deciding how hyper empathy shows itself are exactly what you are saying I did, but actually I live with it, I know others with it and have been given lots of information from my doctors and like I said, I don’t agree it’s out of empathy.
I should have said more clearly that empathy doesn’t always mean you always are nice or caring or good and neither am I like everyone else.
I wear my heart on my sleeve and I’m not to proud to say when I’m wrong and apologise and adjust my position accordingly. Some people have an opinion and stick to it no matter what, there’s plenty of examples just on this thread

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Etak123 · 06/10/2022 12:50

DaSilvaP · 05/10/2022 15:02

If that is the aim, it's a pretty good way to get there.

My only objection would be that if they wanted to deliberately create an absurd situation to make a point and create a legal precedent against absurdity claiming divine right to truth, they should've chosen someone less vulnerable - It's not fair on that disabled women to drag her into that fight.

Just because one bunch of fanatics couldn't care less whose life they ruin doesn't mean the opponent should stoop to the same level.

Exactly x

Etak123 · 06/10/2022 12:55

Owlsinmybedroom · 05/10/2022 15:37

I would like to very politely point out that 'being trans is not the same thing as 'being an authority on trans' and your friend may just want to have to live her life without having validate every friend and acquaintances questions and thoughts on being trans.

If she wants to actively vocally advocate and debate and discuss then cool. But if she just wants to live her life as someone who also just happens to be trans, then she probably gets irritated by this stuff.

I say this as a mixed race person who is absolutely sick of being the 'authority' on racism and being mixed race etc etc from well meaning people who could just google things, and read around and come to their own conclusions instead of expecting me to pick up the mental load for them.

Oh yeah I totally agree with you, luckily she’s one of the most clued up, politically minded, vocal campaigners on most topics and especially on trans rights, treatment and history so I know she would be more than happy to have a good conversation about it but I appreciate your point and I bet it’s really frustrating if you aren’t x

Etak123 · 06/10/2022 13:02

Lovenne · 05/10/2022 16:23

*I repeat I’m not saying your DD is a bad person at all but come on , in reality people do not vomit because they care."

If her DD sees someone disabled and feels extreme distress for the disabled person, being autistic this could feel so intense as a rush of emotion that she vomits and faints. Quite simple to understand. People who feel strong rushed of emotion, even emotions such as sadness, can vomit and it's nothing to do with disgust.

A sudden shock or grief yes but sadness mmm not so sure as like I said I do have it too and it’s not always that you care so intensely it’s all and anything, I just don’t agree. I wasn’t judging her or saying anyone decides how they feel or that she’s bad.
I don’t really know why you highlighted being disabled?

Etak123 · 06/10/2022 13:14

ChelseaRobertsofMalibu · 05/10/2022 21:33

You're trying to justify disabled people making your child VOMIT? Come on.... If we disgust your child so much then you should keep her inside, rather than insist that all disabled people stay inside to accommodate your child's disgust.

Infuriating Angry

🙌 well looks like it’s just you and I, 2 disabled people, 1 with the same condition (unless you do too) who think this.
All those things sound very hard to manage and hard on her DD but I also struggled with almost all lessons because of some of the topics, I won’t go into it but it was much worse when I was younger and had lots of time off school. I was always around disabled adults and children and never once was I sick or fainted, I wanted to be with them and I didn’t see/feel like they were any different to me, we were all the same in my mind and I wasn’t disabled then, I’ve only been disabled for just over 2 years x

Etak123 · 06/10/2022 13:35

orbitalcrisis · 05/10/2022 14:46

@Etak123 So you apologised now you're doubling down and saying it doesn't make sense! Some people get so overwhelmed by feelings, sometimes empathy, sometimes other things, that they have a physical response. The most common is anxiety. If your feelings of empathy (or anything) become too much, which is common in those with autism, an anxiety-like attack can ensue. We DO know why this happens. Just because it has never happened to you does not mean it doesn't happen to others.

Also, don't tell someone you are sorry for their or their child's autism. Autistic people do not need your sympathy, it is insulting and ablest to offer it.

Who do you think you are? You’re telling me, a person with the condition, how people get overwhelmed by feelings? Lol well thanks for that, I’ll make sure I tell my doctor 😂 oh and you’re calling a disabled person an ableist mmm ok
Im not sure what I actually said but I would have meant I’m sorry that her daughter suffers not that she has autism 🤦‍♀️
Ive said it enough, I don’t agree anyone vomits from caring, get over it.
You don’t understand hyper empathy,

DysonSpheres · 06/10/2022 15:14

Thanks again @Wanderingowl

I wonder if the company hosting the petition will take it down. It would seem quite a few people have signed it in good faith.

QuebecBagnet · 06/10/2022 16:01

TitsInAbsentia · 05/10/2022 15:47

Most of her reviews on airbnb are fine, someone else mentioned restrictive check in and the now showering at 9.30pm (which isn't mentioned in her listing and probably should be, along with maybe a surcharge if you change your agreed check in time) but other than that all the other reviews are positive.

Not sure whether to read anything in to the person/family making the claim against her are also airbnb hosts in France..with a nice yoga pose photo...ahhhh all those woo therpies and yoga....would the service pet have to do yoga too?

Who has the service pet? The Irish host or the people making the complaint?

hennaoj · 06/10/2022 16:43

I can barely hear the video, is it really quiet or is it just me?

ReformedWaywardTeen · 06/10/2022 18:36

I've heard of some utterly stupid behaviour on my time but wow.

And Air BnB should be ashamed of themselves!

Have they and the people involved never heard of the disabilities act?

WTF is wrong with them?

My DS has disabilities and it really horrifies me that someone could be so ridiculously and needlessly cruel. We've only ever had two minor incidents of people acting like jerks and those were bad enough but this beggars belief.

GatchaLass · 06/10/2022 18:38

It's in the U.K. I believe

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 06/10/2022 18:47

GatchaLass · 06/10/2022 18:38

It's in the U.K. I believe

The air B'n'B is in Eire: Kenmare, County Kerry.

threatmatrix · 06/10/2022 18:53

Rosehugger · 05/10/2022 10:52

I don't see what this has to do with AirBnb. It has everything to do with how bonkers and broken the USA is.

i thought it was in England?

nannykatherine · 06/10/2022 19:00

Oh my
i just want to give her a big hug !!!

Dibbydoos · 06/10/2022 19:07

Disability prejudice gone mad! Disgusting people and Airbnb is going down with them...

GiantKitten · 06/10/2022 19:11

Emma Kennedy is promoting this on twitter now and everybody is taking it at face value 🤔

twitter.com/EmmaKennedy/status/1577900918833643520?s=20&t=UCtmgk_tIdETtsa5VISkwQ

LicoricePizza · 06/10/2022 19:12

Sorry no time to read whole thread but what exactly was it about her disability that triggered their mh so much?
What mh condition do they claim to suffer from?
Absolutely awful - hope they lose.