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How to not give a shit about what people think of you?

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Ewetoo · 12/09/2022 14:51

Any advice? I find myself constantly wondering why people don't like me, say hello, brush past me etc... I try my best to be polite & friendly at all times... I feel it's really starting to effect my anxiety & I would love some tips on how not to care what people think..

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teaandtoastwithmarmite · 15/09/2022 18:04

I used to be friends -well still am with a woman but we haven't met up for ages. At first I thought it was my fault as I'd got busy and stressed with work but then my dd never got invited to her DD's party. I understood this as it was probably for her school friends but I wondered if it was because she's really rich and has rich, posh private school mum friends. During the pandemic I reached out. Then we've tried to meet a few times but she cancels and then is very non committal. I invited her to my wedding but she said she had something on and sent an expensive gift. I really appreciated it but would've love to have seen her. She is friends with me on fb and comments and stuff so we haven't fell out but it's weird and I wonder what I've done.

Psychogeography · 15/09/2022 22:54

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 15/09/2022 18:04

I used to be friends -well still am with a woman but we haven't met up for ages. At first I thought it was my fault as I'd got busy and stressed with work but then my dd never got invited to her DD's party. I understood this as it was probably for her school friends but I wondered if it was because she's really rich and has rich, posh private school mum friends. During the pandemic I reached out. Then we've tried to meet a few times but she cancels and then is very non committal. I invited her to my wedding but she said she had something on and sent an expensive gift. I really appreciated it but would've love to have seen her. She is friends with me on fb and comments and stuff so we haven't fell out but it's weird and I wonder what I've done.

But it doesn’t sound particularly mysterious — you were stressed and busy, then Covid happened, and you drifted apart. Assuming your daughters don’t have a separate close friendship they’ve kept up despite their mothers drifting apart, it’s not that odd your DD wasn’t invited to the party if they haven’t been in touch in a goodish while. You’re now acquaintances rather than friends. There’s been no falling out, but you’re no longer close.

Elphame · 15/09/2022 23:19

Comes with age!

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