Is anyone not weeping in to their cuppa today?

[JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam]

Or is it just me? My colleagues are all in mourning and apparently can’t concentrate and do their work properly today and I’m all 😑 at the drama of them.

Don’t get me wrong Her Majesty was a legend and she did a really good job, but at 96 it’s hardly unexpected and I don’t think it warrants quite the level of drama some people seem to be displaying.

As was I

no, i'm more checking the news because I want to know how the proceedings over the next few days might impact us in terms of closures etc.

I agree with PPs - although I was fond of the Qween in an abstract sort of way, I didn't know her, and she certainly didn't know me. However, her death took me straight back to my Dad's death three years ago, and my Mum's some 30 years prior to that - and I cried. It's the sense of loss more than anything else, and the empathy for the grief of her friends and family. I certainly shan't be doing any performative grieving, but every so often I feel the need to have a little cry.

I fully understand that many people won't be feeling this way, just please don't mock those of us who do.

Yes I feel like am
The only person that doesn't really care about it

I don’t get sad over other 96 year olds I haven’t met dying (unless it’s some horrible gruesome death, or they were lonely & alone) so I’m not at all sad about this either. I wish people would realise the ‘nation’ is not all grieving - a lot of us have bigger things to worry about right now.

This .

Can't you just for once allow those who want to grieve and reflect do so without your carping . You don't feel the same , great , now go away

I'm not upset about her death as such.

But regardless of how you feel about the Royal Family, you have to admit that we are currently witnessing a huge moment in history. Something that hasn't happened for generations.

Nice to see you are in tune with the mood of the nation. How about you just get on with your job and leave everybody else alone?.

I'm not a very 'drama' person, but I'm surprised how upset I am. I appreciate a lot of people won't understand that though. Radio 2 playing wind beneath my wings on the way to work did to help though, I think they need SOME normal songs today, it just set me off again.

So it’s okay for social media and mumsnet to be awash with mawkish grieving posts but not the ones with people who aren’t? Okay 😑

I've not shed a tear and don't plan on doing so.
It's a monumental event for the UK and I have huge admiration for the Queen, but she died at a fantastic age and it's been on the cards for months.

I really couldn't give a flying fuck.

I'm not, OP. I really don't care one way or the other for the royal family. The Queen was the best of them but she's gone now, there really is no 'passing on baton', whatever gets plonked on Charles/Williams' head.

That said. I don't see why so many people are rushing in to rubbish other people's feelings; they definitely are doing that and very gleefully too. What's that about? We (unfortunately) live in the age of social media where all sorts of nonsense is publicly posted and everybody's thoughts and feelings have to be made public. It's abhorrent but, there it is and there's no going back.

I was idly wondering what our lives would be like without a royal family? We seem to need somebody to herald so if not them then who? We'd just be fawning over some other figurehead minister/politician-type, we would never have just nobody there, would we? I'd rather the royals stayed as the lesser evil then.

@JoshLymanIsHotterThanSam people who are genuinely upset perhaps want to support and comfort each other. What are people like you who are apparently unbothered getting from starting threads like this? We get it, you don't care. That's fine. Do you really need to start a thread to tell everyone you don't care?

When you say you could care less that means you do care to some extent.

Why? Why do you need to police the thread? The title was clear enough.

How about you stop doing that and get on with whatever it is you're supposed to be doing?

I've no sadness towards a privileged, wealthy person dying at 96. Couldn't care less.

Whilst I'm sure there are some that do simply enjoy the drama I think a lot of people are a bit obtuse to the fact that the heavy emphasis on loss, all the language relating to it and visible mourning everywhere you look can be surprisingly difficult for those who have experienced a loss/are actively grieving and we don't really ever know what someone's going through or has been through when it comes to this.

I don't hold the RF in hugely high esteem and wouldn't have thought I'd be specifically upset but it has been reminiscent of loss for me in a year of very painful grieving and also calls to mind all sorts of other memories off the back of feeling reminsicent, such as of my lovely nan who died when I was a teenager and loved the queen. Grief works in odd ways.

I'd just let people get on with it if they feel a need, nobody has to join in.

Got the virtue signalling loud and clear. Thanks.

padfootlives Why do you need to post on this one? There are dozens (and counting) of support threads about the Queen's death. Find one of those if they're more to your liking but kindly stop imposing your strictures on others.

I am ok, weeping into my cuppa for other reasons maybe. But it's not been 24 hours yet, it's not like it's 3 months later and everyone is still mourning the Queen. Let them get it out of their system.

don'tgobaconmyheart, I feel exactly the same. My mum won't make 96, I know she won't, but when I lose her it will hurt and I will grieve. Wealth/privilege doesn't really insulate you from losing someone you care about.

Funnily enough I was thinking of my nan also when I heard.

I was more upset that I saw the text from my dentist cancelling my appointment whilst I was sitting in the car outside the practice. Actually I was more pissed off than upset.

I don't think Liz would have looked very favourably on people being too upset to work. That was not her style at all.

But it's a little harsh to not understand why people might be upset. Of course none of us knew her personally but that doesn't stop it being a symbolically sad event, the end of something familiar. It's a very normal human reaction.

Death has become almost a taboo in our modern society and it seems to take some people by surprise that anyone should ever die. I think that's quite an unhealthy state of affairs, but that's how it seems to be.
A grandma died of Covid in the early days of lockdown. A shrieking grand-daughter was shown on the BBC news. I thought she was enjoying the drama plenty and hamming it up for the cameras, although that might be harsh of me. I thought the BBC was using her for their own ends, as well.
Some folk just do judge grief and caring by how many or how few tears have been shed. One of my relations would have said she couldn't possibly face breakfast after an early-morning death in the family. Three relations just sat there and chewed away .