Page 11 | Centreparcs with dss - dreading it

nelle45 · 2022-08-25T21:41:48+00:00

We are going away to CP for 4 nights, me, dh, dd 10 & dss 14, we were going to go somewhere else but have decided on CP purely as its better for dss due to his age. He never wants to participate in anything and honestly i am dreading this trip. We prepped him and said if he feels he won't want to do anything then not to come and ruin it for us, as harsh as it sounds its true. It would be shit for dd and for us as there will be arguments. Plus we could've just gone to the first cheaper option which would've been fine for just us and dd. He isn't allowed to bring his ps5 as he will be too distracted & stay up all night then not want to do the activities. Another thing, dd & dss are half siblings snd will be sharing a room, this was the only option left so we figured a few days is ok, but if im honest i dont love the idea. Is this just going to be a disaster??

Wetblanket78 · 27/08/2022 13:38

I never even mentioned about the children sharing. Though I don't think they should. I was made to share with 3 boys two slightly younger than the OP's DSS and they both sexually abused me. So no I don't think children that age should be sharing. As I said further up there's usually a sofa bed in the lounge he could sleep on. Or the OP and DH could and let the DSS have they're room.

wellhelloitsme · 27/08/2022 13:42

I'm so sorry that happened @Wetblanket78

Staryflight445 · 30/08/2022 16:06

nelle45 · 26/08/2022 18:37

I've since checked & it is twin beds, not sure where DH got bunkbeds from. So ive ordered a room divider for when we cone back to the room and they want to chill.

Yes on consideration i think for sleeping i will share with dd, I absolutely wouldnt want either to feel uncomfortable & as so many have flagged that i think it makes sense.

Although i still wont allow the ps5 he can go without for a few days, im not allowing dd's tablet either. So at dss is better off as he will have his phone.

And you wonder why he doesn’t like holidays with you?
they’re meant to be fun.
not sure why you’re taking your dds iPad away either. They’re fab for downtime, holidays can be overstimulating and overwhelming.

Sswhinesthebest · 30/08/2022 18:11

Dss needs limits on his gaming both at home and on holiday. He shouldn’t be allowed to stay up all night gaming!

Choconut · 30/08/2022 18:42

An unrelated 14 year old boy sleeping in with a 10 year old girl just isn't appropriate or acceptable, i'm glad you're changing that around.

I don't understand why his dad can tell him not to bring the console at all but can't instead just put restrictions on it while you're there? Sounds like a crap parent if he can't manage that at home or on holiday.

You can't expect a 14 year old boy to behave like a 10 year old girl does. He's old enough to stay behind sometimes so just get him to join in a few things he really likes and let him have lots of down time. You might think it's a waste of time/money but it's not about you, it's about him - and maybe he likes being away somewhere different and spending time with his dad even if it's not doing the activities you think he should want to do.

Namechangehereandnow · 30/08/2022 18:58

@Choconut … have you even read anything??
An unrelated 14 year old boy sleeping in with a 10 year old girl just isn't appropriate or acceptable, i'm glad you're changing that around. … they are related! They have the same dad! 🙄

Shinyandnew1 · 30/08/2022 19:04

You’ve paid out more ‘for’ DSS but he doesn’t want any of it!

We cant share its bunk beds

Why?

If you told me I had to go on holiday and share a bedroom with someone 4 years older than me who I didn’t normally sleep with and I couldn’t bring my phone, I’d be pissed off, too.

feistyoneyouare · 30/08/2022 20:42

Namechangehereandnow · 30/08/2022 18:58

@Choconut … have you even read anything??
An unrelated 14 year old boy sleeping in with a 10 year old girl just isn't appropriate or acceptable, i'm glad you're changing that around. … they are related! They have the same dad! 🙄

FFS.

It's beyond me why some people on this thread still insist on parroting that these two kids are related as though that magically makes it OK and they 'should' be comfortable with it. It's as if the actual comfort (both physical and emotional) of these kids (particularly the girl) counts for nothing. They're automatically expected to not mind just because they're related. It doesn't work like that.

lotsofthem · 30/08/2022 20:58

Choconut · 30/08/2022 18:42

An unrelated 14 year old boy sleeping in with a 10 year old girl just isn't appropriate or acceptable, i'm glad you're changing that around.

I don't understand why his dad can tell him not to bring the console at all but can't instead just put restrictions on it while you're there? Sounds like a crap parent if he can't manage that at home or on holiday.

You can't expect a 14 year old boy to behave like a 10 year old girl does. He's old enough to stay behind sometimes so just get him to join in a few things he really likes and let him have lots of down time. You might think it's a waste of time/money but it's not about you, it's about him - and maybe he likes being away somewhere different and spending time with his dad even if it's not doing the activities you think he should want to do.

They are biological brother and sister so very much related.

not saying it’s okay for them to share, just pointing out they are siblings.

Namechangehereandnow · 31/08/2022 09:47

feistyoneyouare · 30/08/2022 20:42

FFS.

It's beyond me why some people on this thread still insist on parroting that these two kids are related as though that magically makes it OK and they 'should' be comfortable with it. It's as if the actual comfort (both physical and emotional) of these kids (particularly the girl) counts for nothing. They're automatically expected to not mind just because they're related. It doesn't work like that.

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If you read properly, my reply was pointing out an actual fact to a poster who wrote a blatant false statement. Nothing more, nothing less.
Get a grip.

feistyoneyouare · 31/08/2022 11:09

Namechangehereandnow · 31/08/2022 09:47

If you read properly, my reply was pointing out an actual fact to a poster who wrote a blatant false statement. Nothing more, nothing less.
Get a grip.

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There's nothing wrong with my grip, thanks.

Presumably you consider the fact that they are related relevant, otherwise you wouldn't have pointed it out. And if you read properly, my reference to 'people on this thread' makes it clear I wasn't even talking specifically to you, your reply was merely the last in a stream of posts pointing out that they are related.

Namechangehereandnow · 31/08/2022 12:48

feistyoneyouare · 31/08/2022 11:09

There's nothing wrong with my grip, thanks.

Presumably you consider the fact that they are related relevant, otherwise you wouldn't have pointed it out. And if you read properly, my reference to 'people on this thread' makes it clear I wasn't even talking specifically to you, your reply was merely the last in a stream of posts pointing out that they are related.

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I pointed out an incorrect fact in a statement, a rather large incorrect fact. If posters are going to give an opinion, then they at least need to state the correct facts/situation.

Half of mumsnet think siblings that age can share, half of mumsnet think they can’t 🤷‍♀️ There’s no right or wrong here 🤷‍♀️

You weren’t talking to me? Why quote my post then? 🤔🫤

feistyoneyouare · 01/09/2022 10:50

Namechangehereandnow · 31/08/2022 12:48

I pointed out an incorrect fact in a statement, a rather large incorrect fact. If posters are going to give an opinion, then they at least need to state the correct facts/situation.

Half of mumsnet think siblings that age can share, half of mumsnet think they can’t 🤷‍♀️ There’s no right or wrong here 🤷‍♀️

You weren’t talking to me? Why quote my post then? 🤔🫤

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If you re-read my reply you'll see I already explained why I quoted your post. HTH.

Kezzie200 · 01/09/2022 11:51

I would share rooms adult and child.

Let him take his PS.

Let him do his own thing so you all get a break but when it's a free activity like the pool book him in with you for any prebooked sessions. Paid for booked activities as him if he wants booking in or if he will want to stay back at the lodge with his PS.

I would, probably, also try as part of the deal, to get him to agree to go swimming with you on first night. Chances are he might love it. If he can swim the pool at CP is fabulous.

Namechangehereandnow · 01/09/2022 13:35

feistyoneyouare · 01/09/2022 10:50

If you re-read my reply you'll see I already explained why I quoted your post. HTH.

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No doesn’t really help tbh. If you weren’t talking to me then don’t quote my post, just put a general post 🤷‍♀️
My post literally just corrected a statement that was wrong 🤷‍♀️