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Centreparcs with dss - dreading it

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nelle45 · 25/08/2022 22:41

We are going away to CP for 4 nights, me, dh, dd 10 & dss 14, we were going to go somewhere else but have decided on CP purely as its better for dss due to his age.

He never wants to participate in anything and honestly i am dreading this trip.

We prepped him and said if he feels he won't want to do anything then not to come and ruin it for us, as harsh as it sounds its true. It would be shit for dd and for us as there will be arguments. Plus we could've just gone to the first cheaper option which would've been fine for just us and dd.

He isn't allowed to bring his ps5 as he will be too distracted & stay up all night then not want to do the activities.

Another thing, dd & dss are half siblings snd will be sharing a room, this was the only option left so we figured a few days is ok, but if im honest i dont love the idea.

Is this just going to be a disaster??

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Ladyoftheprom · 26/08/2022 11:02

Teens are awful - especially on holiday!!

Mummyoflittledragon · 26/08/2022 11:02

I forgot to say, I wouldn’t have them sharing together. Not a moody, sulky stronger, taller boy with a probably excited, perhaps chatty 10 yo dd.

Hopefully your dcs get along. My brother was violent to me and continues to this day despite my mother pretending it doesn’t and didn’t happen… he knew not to do in front of my father and looking back, he probably had no idea what was going on.

10HailMarys · 26/08/2022 11:03

A teenage boy is not going to go four nights without masturbating. Your DH had better prepare for a very uncomfortable conversation telling his son to sort himself out in the shower.

A teenage boy is already fully aware that he needs to sort himself out in the shower, and not in a bunk bed with his little sister.

SwedeCarrotLime · 26/08/2022 11:06

10HailMarys · 26/08/2022 11:03

A teenage boy is not going to go four nights without masturbating. Your DH had better prepare for a very uncomfortable conversation telling his son to sort himself out in the shower.

A teenage boy is already fully aware that he needs to sort himself out in the shower, and not in a bunk bed with his little sister.

Not necessarily if he’s never had to share before. This is one situation where I wouldn’t trust an assumption.

AnnaFri · 26/08/2022 11:08

Why have you already set such a negative tone before going?

Telling him if he isn't going to participate just not to come!?

It's not weird for siblings to share a room on holiday, so not sure why so many posters are fixating on that

CP holidays are great for letting people dip in and out and do what they feel like. We usually set it up that there is a family pool table booked and dinner every night but outside of that it's up to each person what they want to do. He is 14 so can do most activities on his own too if that's preferable

Ihaventgottimeforthis · 26/08/2022 11:10

You've already decided you're going to have a shit time and he's going to 'ruin it' for all of you - poor lad.

I agree the room set-up is inappropriate, even though they're related, they're not living together all the time and both children would appreciate some privacy, so DH and DSS together, also means DSS can stay up a bit later without waking DD.

Let him choose some activities, let him bring his console with some appropriate time limits on it, perhaps DH & DSS can game together for a couple of hours, a nice bonding activity.
Is it his presence that you want? Even if it is just around meal times? Surely he doesn't have to fully participate to make it worth your while. I'd be happy with him being there and relaxed even if he didn't want to join a game of mixed doubles every day.
You can make some simple changes which will give the holiday a much better chance of success.

Namechangehereandnow · 26/08/2022 11:10

SwedeCarrotLime · 26/08/2022 11:06

Not necessarily if he’s never had to share before. This is one situation where I wouldn’t trust an assumption.

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I wasn’t aware of the new rule/law that states teenage boys MUST masturbate at least once every 4 days 🤔
Ffs boys get such a hard time everywhere nowadays 🙄

WillPowerLite · 26/08/2022 11:10

This thread is hilarious.

Yeah, OP is essentially violating this poor child's human rights by force-marching him onto a Centre Parks holiday for 4 nights. And without his gaming console!!

Someone ring SS.

OP, I hope you can ignore the moral panic. Your plan is fine. Let him choose his activities and if he meets a few other teens and wants to hang out - great.

I can't believe people are quoting the housing act at you - that's about children's permanent residence, not about a holiday, when mixed-sex siblings often share rooms or tents.

Have plans with dd that you two can do irregardless of dss, that way you won't mind if he stays in and mopes chills. Might be nice for he and dh to some things just the two of them. I hope you enjoy the holiday!

Maves · 26/08/2022 11:15

Not getting the issue with sharing they are brother and sister if he was your son you wouldn't have an issue! As the ps5 no chance would any of my kids want to or even be allowed to take one on holiday! They may as well sit at home if that's what they want to do.

I wouldn't have worded it to him as he'd be ruining thjngs Just say it's a holiday you don't need to bring a games console, you don't have to join in activities but we'd love you to it'll be fun he's 14 not 20

billy1966 · 26/08/2022 11:16

I wouldn't dream of having them share a room either.

You should share with your daughter.

Maves · 26/08/2022 11:16

And how much time are they actually going to be in the room other than to sleep? It's 4 days....show him the activities and let him choose some he likes before you go

AnnaFri · 26/08/2022 11:16

@SwedeCarrotLime

Did you have to be told not to start fingering yourself when a sibling was in the same room as you?

Why do you think 14 year old boys are so thick to need to be told to wank in the shower if they're sharing a bloody room

SwedeCarrotLime · 26/08/2022 11:20

What the actual fuck.

I’ll leave you to it, lads.

AnnaFri · 26/08/2022 11:21

SwedeCarrotLime · 26/08/2022 11:20

What the actual fuck.

I’ll leave you to it, lads.

Yes

What the actual fuck to why you think a 14 year old would wank in front of his sister if not told explicitly not to

NoMichaelNo · 26/08/2022 11:22

SwedeCarrotLime · 26/08/2022 11:00

Do you actually need this spelling out to you? A teenage boy is not going to go four nights without masturbating. Your DH had better prepare for a very uncomfortable conversation telling his son to sort himself out in the shower.

Is it a European location? I’ve never seen bunks in a UK CP.

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Jesus Christ.

VoyageInTheDark · 26/08/2022 11:26

@WillPowerLite exactly! This thread is insane

SausagePourHomme · 26/08/2022 11:30

Centerparcs don't have bunk beds

Viviennemary · 26/08/2022 11:30

The two of them should absolutely not be sharing a room. If he doesn't want to participate in activities then I think he is old enough to be left on his own for a few hours.

AngelsWithSilverWings · 26/08/2022 11:32

Why on earth can't siblings share a room on holiday? We usually try to arrange separate rooms for our DS 16 and DD14 but sometimes we have to compromise with two bedroom accommodation instead of three. On our recent holiday they shared a twin hotel room next to our's. Wouldn't occur to me that's it's inappropriate. Certainly wouldn't be expecting a call from SS! They use the bathroom for getting changed.

Brendabigbaps · 26/08/2022 11:34

cestlavielife · 25/08/2022 23:01

Why cant adults sleep in a bunk bed?
That mskes no sense

(Which center parks has bunk beds? )

My thoughts exactly, I’ve been to all cps, looked at lots of the floor plans (asd, sorry mumsnetters! ) and never seen bunk beds

Sswhinesthebest · 26/08/2022 11:35

SausagePourHomme · 26/08/2022 11:30

Centerparcs don't have bunk beds

They did in at least one of our lodges. Can’t remember which one.

AnnaFri · 26/08/2022 11:35

AngelsWithSilverWings · 26/08/2022 11:32

Why on earth can't siblings share a room on holiday? We usually try to arrange separate rooms for our DS 16 and DD14 but sometimes we have to compromise with two bedroom accommodation instead of three. On our recent holiday they shared a twin hotel room next to our's. Wouldn't occur to me that's it's inappropriate. Certainly wouldn't be expecting a call from SS! They use the bathroom for getting changed.

Didn't you know all teen boys are rapists?

And if not they just wank all over the place even if in a shared bedroom unless they're explicitly told to wank in the shower

I'm so glad I don't know anyone this bat shit irl - MN is another world at times

Sswhinesthebest · 26/08/2022 11:36

Sswhinesthebest · 26/08/2022 11:35

They did in at least one of our lodges. Can’t remember which one.

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Although it could have been at a cp abroad. My memory…

Drivebye · 26/08/2022 11:38

I haven't read the whole thread but please please do not let your DD share with him. He needs to go on a sofa bed or take a blow up mattress for the living area.

gogohmm · 26/08/2022 11:42

Set realistic expectations eg up at 10am. Have set family time, then time for himself. Nothing wrong with half siblings sharing. Many have to all the time!

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