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Centreparcs with dss - dreading it

265 replies

nelle45 · 25/08/2022 22:41

We are going away to CP for 4 nights, me, dh, dd 10 & dss 14, we were going to go somewhere else but have decided on CP purely as its better for dss due to his age.

He never wants to participate in anything and honestly i am dreading this trip.

We prepped him and said if he feels he won't want to do anything then not to come and ruin it for us, as harsh as it sounds its true. It would be shit for dd and for us as there will be arguments. Plus we could've just gone to the first cheaper option which would've been fine for just us and dd.

He isn't allowed to bring his ps5 as he will be too distracted & stay up all night then not want to do the activities.

Another thing, dd & dss are half siblings snd will be sharing a room, this was the only option left so we figured a few days is ok, but if im honest i dont love the idea.

Is this just going to be a disaster??

OP posts:
rwalker · 25/08/2022 23:08

why Can’t adult sleep in bottom bunk or failing that take air bed/camp bed for one of you

LilacPoppy · 25/08/2022 23:08

Of course blood related siblings can share a room . People are very strange it's very different to step siblings. If a women had a son then got divorced re married had a daughter nobody would think twice about them room sharing!

LilacPoppy · 25/08/2022 23:09

@rouge they are not step siblings

Original poster
nelle45 · 25/08/2022 23:09

MyNameIsAngelicaSchuyler · 25/08/2022 23:03

Don’t make them share that is so inappropriate!!!

Can i ask what is the reasoning for this?

I am fully aware of what the possible options are but curious as to why specifically you think it is inappropriate for them to share

OP posts:
GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 25/08/2022 23:09

We cant share its bunk beds

Er... of course you can. Just means DH on bottom bunk with DS on the top, and you sharing with DSD or one of you on the couch.

Basically, it means not you and DH sharing a bed. But if you've agreed to go on this bonkers holiday then so be it.

Personally, I'd have waved DS with his kids and booked a couple of days away with my friends.

If you didn't want to go, you shouldn't have agreed to go.

LilacPoppy · 25/08/2022 23:09

@calmlakes yes I agree but they are not step siblings.

wheresmymojo · 25/08/2022 23:11

I really don't get this. It's exactly what my parents were like.

Why would you make someone spend their holiday being forced to do activities they don't like?

I'm sure there are activities you don't like OP. How do you feel about a week of that for your next holiday? And being warned in advance that you'd better smile and be grateful for it the whole time

TheFormidableMrsC · 25/08/2022 23:11

It's entirely inappropriate for them to share a room.

calmlakes · 25/08/2022 23:11

My bad @LilacPoppy.

I still don't think it is great but if they are actually related it isn't as bad.

I would still go for adults sharing bunk beds with boy/girl rooms.

IvebeenUpAllNightNoSleep · 25/08/2022 23:12

Pls don’t make them share a room. No privacy! Can’t decide who it’s worse for. The boy or the girl.

arethereanyleftatall · 25/08/2022 23:14

For the life of me, I cannot fathom why bunk beds mean the females can't share one room and the boys the other.

It's also a bit odd that you didn't think of this automatically as the obvious bed sharing solution. Almost like as the first poster said, you're setting him up to fail.

PiffleWiffleWoozle · 25/08/2022 23:15

This:

Really inappropriate for a 10 year girl and 14 year old boy to share bedroom esp step siblings

Rethink this part of the arrangement - you can sleep in DD room if necessary

cestlavielife · 25/08/2022 23:17

How tall is the 14 year old? If it is a cp in europe with bunk bed room designed for under 10s/ small kiddies then it isnt going to work unless you take blow up bed. Unless 14 year old is very small for age . If bunk beds suit a regular 14vyr old then they are fine for you or dh

Marinamountainzoo · 25/08/2022 23:17

This holiday is going to be all your DC and DSC talk about in the next 10 years of therapy.

Teenagers and shit bags. They sulk and moan and only want to game. They don't want to hang out with their parents and they most certainly do not want to share a space with their non-teenaged sibling. I don't understand why you're putting the poor lad through this TBH. Like PP said, you're setting him up to fail.

NewJobSoNewName · 25/08/2022 23:18

1 - WHY can't an adult use a bunk bed?

2 - CP doesn't have bunk beds....

Hugely inappropriate ages to share.

I'd gladly share a double bed with my DD or sleep bottom bunk.

And not taking the PS5 at all is cutting off your nose to spite your face. I agree with don't play all night, but surely he can have a couple of hours on it if he didn't want to do a certain activity you were taking DD to?

dogface44 · 25/08/2022 23:19

Yeah don't make them share rooms. Just have your dh in with dss and you with dd.

Shocked at the amount of people who think it's a good idea to take a PlayStation on a holiday though. My ds is a big gamer but I'd draw the line at that. As op says, they can game at home, holidays are for new experiences and family time.

3ShotsOfEspresso · 25/08/2022 23:22

Really weird you’re making them share. I’m with you on the PS5, but I’d be taking the bottom bunk tbh.

Mumwithsons · 25/08/2022 23:23

Bit worried about the sharing, he’s a hormonal teenager, having to dress and undress, he’s 14 and she’s 10? Just not great for either of them. I’d have the 10 year old with me and 14 year old can share with his Dad. Even though the ps4 is annoying, I’d also separate the parenting vs harmony on holiday. As a step parent I think it’s OK to expect harmony, (so not being rude etc) but much lower parenting - that I’d leave to his Dad only and if he’s ok with the ps4, so be it.

JuvenileEmu · 25/08/2022 23:24

LilacPoppy · 25/08/2022 23:08

Of course blood related siblings can share a room . People are very strange it's very different to step siblings. If a women had a son then got divorced re married had a daughter nobody would think twice about them room sharing!

I think most 10 and 14 year old different sex siblings would be very uncomfortable sharing a room actually. And I don't understand why bunk beds make sharing with same sex parent impossible.

arethereanyleftatall · 25/08/2022 23:25

@dogface44
New experiences are what some people like doing on holiday.
Other people like doing the things they like doing, but don't always have time for.
Bit of a mix is probably best.

GreenClock · 25/08/2022 23:27

I think that sharing may be difficult for your DD at her age especially if she’s started to mature physically. I know they’re blood relations but they still need privacy.

NYNYNYNYNYNYNYNYNYNYNYNYN · 25/08/2022 23:27

Section 325-326 of the Housing Act 19855* states that children of the opposite sex should not share a room beyond the age of 10

You need to be responsible parents and DD goes in with you and DSD in with Dad.

I can't even begin to understand why you've booked this holiday. It's ridiculous!!!

dogface44 · 25/08/2022 23:29

@arethereanyleftatall nah I think there are bigger issues at play if a teenager can't be away from a games console for 4 days.

WestIsWest · 25/08/2022 23:31

NYNYNYNYNYNYNYNYNYNYNYNYN · 25/08/2022 23:27

Section 325-326 of the Housing Act 19855* states that children of the opposite sex should not share a room beyond the age of 10

You need to be responsible parents and DD goes in with you and DSD in with Dad.

I can't even begin to understand why you've booked this holiday. It's ridiculous!!!

Please take note of how many people are saying this! I’ve shared rooms with my brothers as adults but I’d have absolutely hated it at 10-14!

FitFat · 25/08/2022 23:33

Maybe be less stressed and chill. Deal with issues as they arise, dont preemot challenges. It might be fine. Let hm do his own thing (not ps5!).

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