Feeling cheeky asking boyfriend for half for bills?

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I have lived in my flat (private rent not bought ) for 5 years.
After dating my boyfriend for a year he moved in on Sunday.
I don't know how to approach the bill situation.
Ask how much he will be contributing
I'm lucky my rent is only £400 for 2 bed and at the min my gas /electric is £100
So £500 I'm paying for bills
(Not including CT )
So if we were to go half's £250 each ...it would be such a massive help.
How do I bring it up?
He hasn't mentioned it?
All he has said so far is he will save a fortune now he doesn't have his £650 monthly bills

I know I'm stupid but feel a bit cheeky bringing money up.
I'm independent and can manage my own money -so I feel like I'm asking for a hand out

He’s taking the absolute mick not to have raised this himself - but WHY didn’t you have the conversation before he moved in?! Half is more than fair considering you rent! He will still save £400!

I honestly don’t think you should be cohabiting at all if you’re this unassertive. He’s taking the absolute piss right from the word go.

If he's cheeky enough not to offer to go halfs, why are you worried about being cheeky telling him what his share is. Don't start off pussy footing around, or you'll have found yourself a cocklodger.

Woman up!
Grab a pen and paper. Let him see in black and white how much the bills are for the house. Offer up your bank details for his half..
Or you will be skint while he saves 650 a month!

I did tell him how much my bills are before he moved in.
So I'm hoping payday he just gives me the half.
If not I will tell him we need to sit down and work it out.
I was gonna suggest a regular monthly payment so day after pay day it just transfers to me

Oh no, really should have been sorted before he moved in. Not helpful I know!
He sounds awful and insensitive, personally I'd get rid if he won't go halves.

It sounds like he thinks he’s moved in for free. How did that happen?

You will have to say, ‘hey, let’s have a chat about sharing the bills. I suggest half which is…..’

and do it now, today!

Before he gets himself comfortable he needs to be told! A month's time is too long to have this worry!

Get it sorted now, or you will be supporting him while he takes the piss

Why on earth didn't you sort this out before he moved in

Simply say "your half of the bills is 250, here are my bank details "

My word, I’d have sorted this before he moved it but there’s no way he wouldn’t be paying half bills if if he moved in with me, surely that’s what everyone expects! Just tell him how much he needs to pay.

Good god sounds like he thinks you’ve offered to keep him. How on earth has this happened and you’ve found such a cock lodger.

just tell him. Grown man wanting to be paid for, how do you stomach it

Your gas bill is about to go right up, so don’t ask him for £250. Tell him he needs to be paying half every month (don’t wait and hope he just does it ffs). Your bills aren’t going to go up to £1300 so you’ll both still be better off with him paying half. But honestly it’s incredibly concerning that you ‘feel cheeky’ having this conversation with him.

This us definitely a conversation you should have had before he moved in. What about water? Groceries? TV license, phone broadband??

Half is completely reasonable and expected. You'll both save lots of money so it's win/win.

Maybe at the same time discuss chores, cooking and groceries? Tackle it all at once!

Why on earth didn’t you discuss this before he moved in? You’ve been incredibly naive and foolish to move someone in without discussing how bills would be split.

You tell (not ask him or wobble around like a wet lettuce dropping hints and hoping he pays up) him how much the rent and bills are and you come to an arrangement based on both your salaries.

Unbelievable.

So he has been living with you for a year and doesn’t contribute towards rent or bills?? He needs to go halves on bills AND rent. So he needs to pay £200 rent and £250 bills (£450 a month). Ask it as an automatic transfer that comes out every month. Very cheeky that he hasn’t approached you about this already!

What about council tax, water, insurances? Seems to be me he should pay half of everything that you pay out for the flat. Then you agree to take it in turns with food. If hes expecting you to pay for all of it then you dont want him as a boyfriend!

Show him a list of what you pay out for the flat and say can you please set a standing order for X amount.

Very silly of you to agree for him to move in without talking about this first!

Your bills will go up as well. Electric, gas, water, council tax that’s before you start on food. Does he honestly think he’s going to live for free! Get him told.

Should have been agreed first but half is perfectly fair.

He should feel cheeky for not offering

so many women on this site seem to finance men what the fuck is going on in our country that we have sp many freeloading men around
its actually says so much about how men are coddled

Well we discussed the food shop and said £100 each and we will grab bits along the month.
My broadband is only £25 so I'm not too bothered plus I had enough money before he moved in so the £250 is a bonus.
Obviously I've lost my single person discount so will actually half that

Oh no he's just moved In on Sunday.
He was renting and tenancy ended last week.

Don't 'hope' he'll give it to you, tell him that on payday you'll be expecting £250 for his share of the bills, if he complains in anyway shape or form, tell him to leave.

You're not being cheeky, so bite the bullet and bring it up. Half isn't unreasonable, emphasis he said he'll save a fortune.

He would be setting up a standing order for half of ALL bills TODAY or be kicked out if it was me