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Lauren Goodger beaten after her babies funeral

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PutinSmellsPassItOn · 06/08/2022 01:17

Good God that poor, poor woman. How much more suffering can one woman take? First the loss of her baby and now this it's just horrific.

www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/lauren-goodger-hospitalised-facial-injuries-27672451

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Stickly · 06/08/2022 14:14

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AuntMasha · 06/08/2022 14:22

Poor young woman. My heart goes out to her.

FurCoatNoNickers · 06/08/2022 14:25

I feel so very sorry for this poor woman. I cannot imagine how she must be feeling. Probably in deep shock and very alone. I hope she seeks some professional counselling to give her a safe space to talk. I hope she has some good people supporting her and her young daughter.

LuckySantangelo35 · 06/08/2022 17:22

@Dagnabit

should she? Why?

says who? You??

Dagnabit · 06/08/2022 17:32

@NegroniNonna - wrong, wrong and wrong

Dagnabit · 06/08/2022 17:33

@LuckySantangelo35 - I'm just expressing my opinion, the same as everyone else. Who makes the rules? You?

Pipsquiggle · 06/08/2022 17:35

God it's just awful.

I hope she gets the help she needs and realises her worth.

She seems to have a pattern of choosing awful men. She needs to break this cycle.

Whatagrapefruit156 · 06/08/2022 22:40

Let’s not forget he has lost his beautiful baby too and grief manifests itself as rage sometimes. I don’t condone his actions at all but the pain he has gone through is unimaginable, paired with the fact that he and Lauren’s relationship has publicly been rocky too. The stress and grief has clearly caused him to snap. It was the day of his daughters funeral. He needs psychological help clearly. I hope they both are able to heal from this. I’m so heartbroken for both of them.

Sheepreallylikerichteabiscuits · 06/08/2022 22:43

Whatagrapefruit156 · 06/08/2022 22:40

Let’s not forget he has lost his beautiful baby too and grief manifests itself as rage sometimes. I don’t condone his actions at all but the pain he has gone through is unimaginable, paired with the fact that he and Lauren’s relationship has publicly been rocky too. The stress and grief has clearly caused him to snap. It was the day of his daughters funeral. He needs psychological help clearly. I hope they both are able to heal from this. I’m so heartbroken for both of them.

Nah, sorry you never hear about a woman rearranging their partners face because they are grieving.

LilacSky95 · 06/08/2022 22:46

Nah, sorry you never hear about a woman rearranging their partners face because they are grieving.

exactly!!! No excuse IMO! Lauren needs love and support from her partner, not a fucking beating

LidlCinnamonBun · 06/08/2022 22:55

OneFrenchEgg · 06/08/2022 08:51

ShirleyPhallus
Wtaf. You think the problem is women who don’t fight back?

I think this means that women in a relationship with domestic violence are scared and mentally and physically broken down. Send the man to a woman who is ready to give the perpetrator what he deserves.
Its not a criticism of the women!

what he deserves would be a police investigation, not some woman who thinks she's hard or something ridiculous like that. Honestly wtf. So I should have asked a female friend to punch my ex husband and all would have been well?

If you think that women report domestic violence to the police and it’s happily ever after you are mistaken.

BlueWhaleBay · 06/08/2022 23:13

Sheepreallylikerichteabiscuits · 06/08/2022 22:43

Nah, sorry you never hear about a woman rearranging their partners face because they are grieving.

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It is difficult to articulate this without sounding like I am making excuses for violence.

Men and women behave differently. It is socially acceptable for women to express sadness. It is not socially acceptable for men to lay bare their emotions. That is one of the reasons that we, as a society, have such a big problem with male violence. So many men are emotionally inept. we need to change the conversation from blame and shame to mental health and family violence.

BlueWhaleBay · 06/08/2022 23:18

pylonpal · 06/08/2022 09:14

Just to share that when my cousins baby died her husband got drunk, sped around the city and rained abuse on the police officers who picked him up

You can surely see the difference between this and if he had beaten the crap out of your cousin? Would you be praising the compassionate response of the police if he had done that?

clumsy attempt to twist my words to fit your narrative. Totally unnecessary.

Atomicspider · 06/08/2022 23:21

Emotionally inept or just entitled.
its very sexist to assume that as women we’re raised to be emotionally intuitive in comparison to men. I don’t remember going to any lessons to teach me not to beat my partner. It’s totally acceptable and indeed encouraged for men to show emotion and express themselves these days, we’re no longer in the fifties. Heaven knows they manage it at sports games, at the gym, down the pub and so on. They have access to therapy and support groups in the same way as women do.

Sheepreallylikerichteabiscuits · 06/08/2022 23:40

Atomicspider · 06/08/2022 23:21

Emotionally inept or just entitled.
its very sexist to assume that as women we’re raised to be emotionally intuitive in comparison to men. I don’t remember going to any lessons to teach me not to beat my partner. It’s totally acceptable and indeed encouraged for men to show emotion and express themselves these days, we’re no longer in the fifties. Heaven knows they manage it at sports games, at the gym, down the pub and so on. They have access to therapy and support groups in the same way as women do.

This

BlueWhaleBay · 07/08/2022 00:23

Atomicspider · 06/08/2022 23:21

Emotionally inept or just entitled.
its very sexist to assume that as women we’re raised to be emotionally intuitive in comparison to men. I don’t remember going to any lessons to teach me not to beat my partner. It’s totally acceptable and indeed encouraged for men to show emotion and express themselves these days, we’re no longer in the fifties. Heaven knows they manage it at sports games, at the gym, down the pub and so on. They have access to therapy and support groups in the same way as women do.

No it isn’t sexist, it’s just an accurate description of where we are at as a society. Try not to be so black and white, to shut down discussion because it is uncomfortable. We live in a deeply sexist society and this can only change if we all face what it is and why.

GerronBuzanDoThaWomwok · 07/08/2022 01:50

ShirleyPhallus · 06/08/2022 05:22

Wtaf. You think the problem is women who don’t fight back?

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No, that's a fallacy, Shirley.
The problem is the men who make a calculated decision to assault those they perceive as smaller and weaker, which is generally women and children.
This is why I gave the example of one of these cowards changing his mind in relation to me.
Because he wouldn't expect a woman to take him out.
And I would.
And that fills me with a grim satisfaction.
Because these men are scum.

GerronBuzanDoThaWomwok · 07/08/2022 02:03

Whatagrapefruit156 · 06/08/2022 22:40

Let’s not forget he has lost his beautiful baby too and grief manifests itself as rage sometimes. I don’t condone his actions at all but the pain he has gone through is unimaginable, paired with the fact that he and Lauren’s relationship has publicly been rocky too. The stress and grief has clearly caused him to snap. It was the day of his daughters funeral. He needs psychological help clearly. I hope they both are able to heal from this. I’m so heartbroken for both of them.

Your use of the word "but" identifies you as yet another apologist for male violence.
Shame on you.

Atomicspider · 07/08/2022 03:07

@GerronBuzanDoThaWomwok
how would you ‘take him out’ ? Just out of interest? Would you go into a full fight with a man if you were trying to protect your babies/children at the same time?
You’re trying to protect your family from a man on a violent rampage .. there’s only you to protect the children from witnessing violence or being hurt. He’s smashing your home up while you try to hold on to your babies, would you ‘take him out’? And if so, how please?

georgarina · 07/08/2022 06:05

Whatagrapefruit156 · 06/08/2022 22:40

Let’s not forget he has lost his beautiful baby too and grief manifests itself as rage sometimes. I don’t condone his actions at all but the pain he has gone through is unimaginable, paired with the fact that he and Lauren’s relationship has publicly been rocky too. The stress and grief has clearly caused him to snap. It was the day of his daughters funeral. He needs psychological help clearly. I hope they both are able to heal from this. I’m so heartbroken for both of them.

Fuuuck that.

She's the one that went through much worse and he retraumatised her and put her in fucking hospital.

No excuse. None at all.

ShirleyPhallus · 07/08/2022 08:04

GerronBuzanDoThaWomwok · 07/08/2022 01:50

No, that's a fallacy, Shirley.
The problem is the men who make a calculated decision to assault those they perceive as smaller and weaker, which is generally women and children.
This is why I gave the example of one of these cowards changing his mind in relation to me.
Because he wouldn't expect a woman to take him out.
And I would.
And that fills me with a grim satisfaction.
Because these men are scum.

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This is both naive and offensive, but a nice fantasy

BuckarooBanzai · 07/08/2022 08:06

My heart goes out to Lauren, I can't imagine the pain she's going through.

OneFrenchEgg · 07/08/2022 08:12

If you think that women report domestic violence to the police and it’s happily ever after you are mistaken.

@LidlCinnamonBun where did you get that from my post? I think a police investigation is preferable to some woman thinking she's hard and trying to beat him up, which is what I was responding to.

NCHammer2022 · 07/08/2022 08:20

Poor woman. I hope she’s got someone who can support her to get away and stay away from this men and the other awful men in her past, for the sake of her older daughter in particular who is still only a baby herself.

pastypirate · 07/08/2022 08:33

Dear Lauren, mumsnet is always here for you x