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Lauren Goodger beaten after her babies funeral

209 replies

PutinSmellsPassItOn · 06/08/2022 01:17

Good God that poor, poor woman. How much more suffering can one woman take? First the loss of her baby and now this it's just horrific.

www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/lauren-goodger-hospitalised-facial-injuries-27672451

OP posts:
forlornlorna1 · 06/08/2022 09:22

pylonpal · 06/08/2022 09:10

Ok, I have read a few more of the posts on this thread now.

I have now another reason why he beat up the grieving mother. Its because he is feeding off an undercurrent of belief in our culture that thinks it is 'understandable' for men to lose control of themselves and beat up women when they are under stress. This legitimises men behaving this way as they. 'can't help themselves'.

Of course, this rationale is nonsense. We all know that normal decent men, who have internalised how wrong it is for men to be violent to women, do not beat up their fellow grieving partner or are violent to their wives and girlfriends when they are under 'life stress'. Only men who already believe it is ok for them to beat up women to relieve themselves of 'bad feelings' do this.

So to posters seeking to 'understand the context' that 'triggered' this assault, look no further than yourselves. The attitudes you are espousing are the ones in our culture that this young man fed off to justify that assault.

👌 this

35965a · 06/08/2022 09:22

pylonpal · 06/08/2022 09:10

Ok, I have read a few more of the posts on this thread now.

I have now another reason why he beat up the grieving mother. Its because he is feeding off an undercurrent of belief in our culture that thinks it is 'understandable' for men to lose control of themselves and beat up women when they are under stress. This legitimises men behaving this way as they. 'can't help themselves'.

Of course, this rationale is nonsense. We all know that normal decent men, who have internalised how wrong it is for men to be violent to women, do not beat up their fellow grieving partner or are violent to their wives and girlfriends when they are under 'life stress'. Only men who already believe it is ok for them to beat up women to relieve themselves of 'bad feelings' do this.

So to posters seeking to 'understand the context' that 'triggered' this assault, look no further than yourselves. The attitudes you are espousing are the ones in our culture that this young man fed off to justify that assault.

Absolutely. It’s horrifying how people will immediately look for a reason why men do these things.

WishingWell5 · 06/08/2022 09:23

This devastating. Poor lady, I always thought she had a big heart.

I hope she has people around her who truly love her.

Candleabra · 06/08/2022 09:31

Oh my god, poor Lauren.
I hope she has support around her to help her be free from that man.

BeautifulWar · 06/08/2022 09:34

This is just so horrendous, that poor woman. She seems generally, like such a vulnerable person, I hope she gets help and support.

Trashy reality TV has so much to answer for, glorifying cruel behaviour, the scrutiny it's 'stars' come under. It seems to attract a proportion of vulnerable people, looking for validation and their lives get ruined.

LynneBenfield · 06/08/2022 09:38

Dreadful. I hope she can find peace soon and the man responsible is held accountable.

Sheepreallylikerichteabiscuits · 06/08/2022 09:38

That poor woman, there is never a good time to be assaulted but this must be the worst fucking time, how horrific. Its not even just about the assault, its about the fact that she is never going to be able to look back on her babies funeral and grieve and mourn without also tying it in with the memory of being beaten up (and I am in no way trying to imply it would have been okay at a different time)

To those saying grief may have triggered him. You know what grief never seems to trigger in women - the needs to physically assault someone. More particularly, the need to physically assault the face of someone who relies on their looks for their occupation. Thats a particularly spiteful, aggressive, vile sort of 'grief' isn't it.

amijustparanoidorjuststoned · 06/08/2022 09:51

Stop the world, please. I want to get off.

😐

Willowthewispy · 06/08/2022 09:57

How horrific I really hope Lauren has lots of love and support around her.

Cstring · 06/08/2022 09:58

Good God. Poor, poor Lauren, there’s no words to express how low a person could be to do this. If you read this Lauren- never ever let him back.

safetyfreak · 06/08/2022 10:01

Some of the comments I have read, on here and another well known forum makes you despair of the world. Women really are their own worse enemies.

I hope Lauren has lots of support and she can move on with her daughter.

Festoonlights · 06/08/2022 10:20

Absolutely horrendous - I hope she is getting plenty of support

MaisyMary77 · 06/08/2022 10:27

Poor woman. I’d never heard of her until her ex was killed in a car crash. Then she lost her baby and now this. I’m so sad for her. I hope she gets the love and support she needs.

Michellelovesizzy · 06/08/2022 10:27

This poor girl 😢 just feel 4 her so much.

Summersnearlygone · 06/08/2022 10:30

There's a few warning signs there, she got pregnant again so quickly and while that may have been her choice it could be a warning sign. Her other baby is only one and life has been harrowing for her. I wish her a happier future.

TitaniasAss · 06/08/2022 10:31

I'm struggling to understand those wishing to know the 'context' of this attack. What context would make this acceptable. At all. Ever?

I'm sure this man is devastated over the loss of his baby. That still absolutely does not excuse violence towards Lauren.

This woman has been through the most unimaginable shit and she deserved love and support, not violence.

TempName01 · 06/08/2022 10:33

What a despicable creature. I hope it doesn’t transpire that he has been physically abusive during her pregnancy.

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YetAnotherBeckyMumsnet · 06/08/2022 10:37

Hello everyone. We're dropping in with a few important reminders - this is an active police investigation and so we'd kindly ask that you avoid speculation.

We'd also like to remind posters that we do not advocate victim blaming on Mumsnet.

If you've been affected by domestic abuse, please take a look at our webguide for links to support. Thanks.

WouldJudasLeaveIt · 06/08/2022 10:41

Absolute dog of a man 😤
Poor Lauren 🙁

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 06/08/2022 10:45

pylonpal · 06/08/2022 09:10

Ok, I have read a few more of the posts on this thread now.

I have now another reason why he beat up the grieving mother. Its because he is feeding off an undercurrent of belief in our culture that thinks it is 'understandable' for men to lose control of themselves and beat up women when they are under stress. This legitimises men behaving this way as they. 'can't help themselves'.

Of course, this rationale is nonsense. We all know that normal decent men, who have internalised how wrong it is for men to be violent to women, do not beat up their fellow grieving partner or are violent to their wives and girlfriends when they are under 'life stress'. Only men who already believe it is ok for them to beat up women to relieve themselves of 'bad feelings' do this.

So to posters seeking to 'understand the context' that 'triggered' this assault, look no further than yourselves. The attitudes you are espousing are the ones in our culture that this young man fed off to justify that assault.

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RaspberryParfait · 06/08/2022 10:54

Lowest of the low. I couldn’t even begin to imagine DH attacking me in ‘grief’ let alone causing serious facial injuries, after we’d just buried our DD who died straight after birth similarly to Lauren’s DD. Burying a baby is such a traumatic event. It goes against every maternal instinct to leave your newborn in the ground, the empty arms, milk coming in etc.

Utterly horrific and I highly doubt it was out of character.

I have always found Lauren to be a bit of a laughing stock with the butt implants, desperate for attention and quite ridiculous really but she was obviously a very vulnerable person even before being a bereaved mother and I sincerely hope she has someone around her to support her and her DD to be free of that POS.

Dagnabit · 06/08/2022 10:55

It’s desperately sad and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but why does everything have to be used as an Insta opportunity? She should take a break from social media and take time to grieve properly.

ThinkingaboutLangClegosaurus · 06/08/2022 10:57

posters seeking to 'understand the context' that 'triggered' this assault, look no further than yourselves. The attitudes you are espousing are the ones in our culture that this young man fed off to justify that assault.

Exactly.

VeryEmptyArms · 06/08/2022 10:59

Dagnabit · 06/08/2022 10:55

It’s desperately sad and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but why does everything have to be used as an Insta opportunity? She should take a break from social media and take time to grieve properly.

What is this grieving 'properly' thing? Is there a rule book somewhere??

Sheepreallylikerichteabiscuits · 06/08/2022 11:03

Dagnabit · 06/08/2022 10:55

It’s desperately sad and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone but why does everything have to be used as an Insta opportunity? She should take a break from social media and take time to grieve properly.

I'm not sure having your name in the paper because your partner has smashed your face in could be considered an 'insta opportunity' what a weird take