Things that happened to you that you thought would never happen to someone like you?

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Me… abortion. Thought it happened to other women.

Later on a single parent. Was not at all what I thought I would allow to happen but of course you learn life isn’t like that! Many people said they couldn’t believe it had happened as I’m quite conservative and careful but it did!

Sometimes I don’t recognise me though I am still me. Anyone else experienced this?

Your all fucking marvels I hope you no that!!
brave.brave soldiers.

My ds2 attempted suicide aged 12. I always knew it might happen but not that young.

So many. I didn’t think I would have a happy marriage. But equally didn’t think I would have three half Danish babies using donor sorry due to male infertility. One of my kids has had anorexia. I’m still alive mid 40s - didn’t think I would get this far!

That my sister didn’t come to our father’s funeral due to an argument over her inheritance and five years on, we still haven’t spoken.

Good career, homeowner, partner with a good salary.....to.....3 children, career on hold due to childcare costs and now living in housing association.

I NEVER thought I would end up in a council house.

Being on the BBC and in the daily mail 🤷‍♀️ Was awful and no ability to respond. Lots of people kindly suggesting I sue but I don’t have a spare £250,000. Of course the actual facts of what happened came out, I was not at fault in any way, but they don’t retract or amend previous articles.

Losing our much wanted and loved ds at 24 weeks due to fatal heart and brain problems

That my mum would die alone and crying of covid and I’d be powerless to comfort her.

A brighter one though. I ended up giving my friend a chance to take me out to dinner (well he came to mine for dinner) and now we are engaged to be married and have spent the last few years laughing with each other and we have helped each other and my ds through some hard times. He has taken ds on as his own and loves him like his own son. My boy finally has the dad he deserves as he is an amazing wee guy

I never even dreamed of earning good money. I grew up thinking people who owned a house, a car, or went on annual holidays abroad were a world away. It never even entered my mind that I'd be one of them... I thought we were the normal ones and any kind of financial comfort was for the very few.

That, as a musician who lives and breathes music, my beloved only child is deaf.

Hugs. I can relate to this post so much

I acquired a brain injury 3 yrs ago and my personality has completely changed. It's so hard to see my loved ones struggle with this. I can clearly remember what it was like to be thoughtful, passionate and empathetic but I just don't feel those feelings now.

I never thought I'd experience life changing injuries in a car crash that wasn't my fault, or that my employers of 20 odd years would then treat me like worthless shit and throw me out on my ear as soon as the going got tough. But I'm still here, getting on with life and refusing to give up.

Having a very very poorly baby in NICU. I'd had a very normal very boring pregnancy and went into labour by myself at 40+6. The labour was awful and he got stuck and had to have ELCS but thought the worst was over. Then suddenly he was being rushed away and I only got a glimpse of his nose because they didn't have time for me to cuddle him. I didn't meet him for 24 hours and we were told they weren't sure if he was going to make it. Hit me like a train l, it was so so unexpected. I didn't realise babies could be so poorly once they were born if there were no problems in the womb (it was group b strep and he is now thankfully fine)

Being left by my husband when my oldest was a toddler and I was 8 months pregnant. Not only the fact of being left but being left by my husband. Everyone was shocked. It was on nobody's radar that he could be capable of it. I never really considered that I could end up a single mum. Related to that, having my mum with me while I gave birth. Exh didn't want to be there for it. Mum stepped up to the plate and actually it was wonderful.

Living on a council estate. Nothing wrong with it, I love my little home, my safe little nest with my two children but I'd always imagined that me and my husband would eventually save up enough for a deposit and buy our own place. Funny how things turn out.

Oh and when I was much younger I never ever thought I would smoke. Well that went out the window pretty quickly once I became a teenager. Still reliant on nicotine to this day but at least it's a vape now

My husband died when he was just 47 and I was 48. 3 years ago now. After 25 years together I never expected to be single at 50 :(

This thread is making me cry.....

Thank you everyone for opening up....

Life can be so cruel. Here's hoping to better times for all of us.

What a brave Triumphant lot of women you are. I admire you. Xx

Going to uni, I went at 32 and get the 'bug', I'm now taking a second degree part time.

I have to put this on, not me but a friend.

She gave birth to a white child. My friend is black.

Apparently her mother and the midwife had a rather lively discussion about whether the child was white or light skinned.

Get married and have children. I was bullied all through school for being ugly and having frizzy hair. Not just verbal, I was threatened with being set alight etc. too. No boyfriends.
After school I went to college and then met DH on a night out.
He is an amazing man and tells me I’m beautiful every day, and we have 2 lovely children.
I’ve bumped into people from school over the years and they don’t recognise me as I’ve turned into a swan apparently.

I was widowed and experienced infant loss, both in my 30’s. Grief changed me. Younger me wouldn’t recognize me today.

I am the same as you @SingingInParadise it's not a great place to be. Also lack of mobility has meant that my weight has ballooned too. Sorry to everyone going through tough times xx

I have SPMS too and this heat is a killer. Hope you're both OK xx

My husband being diagnosed with Parkinson's at 48. 9 years on he's like an old man, with just glimpses of the clever, interesting person I married. You do just unconsciously assume that all will be fine until you're actually old, don't you?

Not seeing my grandkids.
Last time I seen them was a few weeks ago.
Never thought it would be me begging to see them.

I never thought I would be jealous of the other grandmother,but I am.
She sees them all the time,us nah.

Even though when my D's and gf and GC lived away.
We where the only ones that went down, nobody else bothered.

Last time I made arrangements to see them we turned up and nobody was in.

I've pulled back I've had too,to protect me and my younger kids.😢
Also last year being diagnosed as having a brain aneurysm,diabetes and sleep apnea.
It's changed me,made me depressed and fearful of going to sleep some nights.