Things that happened to you that you thought would never happen to someone like you?

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Me… abortion. Thought it happened to other women.

Later on a single parent. Was not at all what I thought I would allow to happen but of course you learn life isn’t like that! Many people said they couldn’t believe it had happened as I’m quite conservative and careful but it did!

Sometimes I don’t recognise me though I am still me. Anyone else experienced this?

Cancer happened to people who didn't look after themselves 🤭 i drink very occasionally, dont eat meat, exorcise regularly and guess what, 💩happens.

I think @Ddot means that despite all that, she got cancer.

I agree - hope you are ok Ddot. It seems to be it happens to everyone

Yes I did mean that and shit happened to me at 46 so go away and think how you just made my day even shitter. Operation for cancer has started to fail and I'm now struggling like you wouldnt believe, try not being able to eat or drink in this heat. I will never post again

ddot - don’t take offence as the PP read your post wrongly. There is lots of support on various boards on here. It’s such a shock. Sending a hug xx

Pregnancy and baby loss. It’s just utterly gut wrenching and I look back on that period of my life as if I’m watching someone else go through it all. You just don’t expect it to happen to you.

On a more positive note, my mum was diagnosed with a genetic cancer more than 20 years ago. I didn’t think she’d live to see me walk down the aisle, let alone to see my children grow. Me and my siblings have also had genetic testing and the results mean none of my mum’s grandchildren carry the gene.

Elderflower14 don’t bother commenting if you can’t be bothered reading posts properly.

ddot it was obvious what you meant, ignore the stupid poster. Hugs.

Breast cancer at 37 , 2 small kids, chemo , double mastectomy and reconstruction...it was a lot and all during lockdown was tough and lonely.
Love to all of those going through struggles
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Being targeted by an abusive policeman with contacts

Being nearly stabbed to death as a child.

Having extremely low self esteem, buck teeth and a mother who hated me so much, never hugged or kissed me but when I was gravely ill and it meant she couldn't go a music concert so hissed " I wish I could kill you" . Told on a daily basis that getting married and having children would ruin my life and that it was good I was so ugly as no one would want me anyway.

Not being allowed to have a bedside lamp nor read books by OCD parents who thought they were " untidy".

Writing my own stories and poems by the light of the moon instead.

Dreamt of living in a beautiful home with dogs and horses and a lovely husband.

Crippled with low confidence due to being so badly criticised, found solace in schoolwork.

Being the first in my family to pass A levels. Such a shock to everyone as university was for other people, not like us.

My family and school had not encouraged me to apply to university as no one had actually thought I'd pass so it was a huge shock to go to the careers teacher who said I could apply through clearing if we were quick enough.

Ended up going to university and being surrounded by books 😂

Got scouted by a top modeling agency and went on to have lucrative career as a model and actress.

Gave it all up to go back and do a PhD.

Met my now wonderful DH while doing my PhD and now have 5 gorgeous DC.

Became a successful writer.

Now living in a beautiful home with dogs and horses with my lovely husband and DC. A dream come true and I count my blessings every single day.

Much love to everyone who has had to deal with adversity in life. There is always hope and don't underestimate the power of the mind to change things for the better x

My sincere apologies... I misread your comment... I lost my partner to cancer so read it like someone was posting in an unpleasant way.. I will report my comment and ask for it to be removed..

I misread the previous comment. Please remove my post.

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A baby born very prematurely, with severe visual impairment and genetic deletion

Becoming a parent carer and no longer working

Secondary infertility

Cancer, a rare form leading to hysterectomy and surgical menopause at 44.

Being in an abusive relationship. I really think more needs to be done to show that abuse can happy anywhere even if you are a MC degree educated woman who thinks she is a feminist. Domestic abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse etc is still seen as a 'working class' issue l. I work in healthcare and it's still shocking how people say 'abuse really?' If someone doesn't fit that stereotype of WC or downtrodden e.g. a solicitor.

Having my first partner die with brain tumour at 34, I looked after him at home for 6 months. My current husband having 3 strokes in 18 months and me now being a full time carer after having worked all my life and never having stayed at home ever. Not having children.

@Pinkrinse Just sending 💐

Same as another poster, wasting 14 years married to a secretly gay man.

I no privacy and all that but wow I want to no who you are so I can read your books.books are my sanctuary.your story moved me.it’s a book in itself I’m sure.
how do you feel about yourself now?

Getting divorced. Tho should have realised was likely when I married a man who was divorced himself.

This is really heart warming . Well done you!!

Lots of mumsnetters looking for new relationships fall into the category of divorced, doesn't mean they're people to be avoided.

Wow, this is a very powerful thread, and has compelled me to post for the first time. I’m so sorry for the shit everyone has been through.

I struggle to believe the catalogue of this that have happened in my life. I was sexually abused in primary school which fundamentally changed the way I view myself as a person, and my worth. Ending up basically groomed into a relationship when I was 17 with a much, much older abusive man who then got cancer and I nursed him until his death when I was 21. Met another man very soon after who was incredibly abusive, he tried to take my life on a number of occasions and abused me in every way you can imagine for almost 5 years, eventually managed to escape that relationship.

Again, met another man shortly afterwards, moved half way across the country to be with him. Had 2 incredible children, but he is an alcoholic and decided he liked cocaine and prostitutes much more than he liked me. After an 11 year relationship I left him. I lived as a single parent for a further 4 years in the same town, but then moved back near to my home town hoping to get occasional help from my parents and sister. Back here now, have been for a few years, and never felt more lonely.

My parents and sister have been no help, and I’m now able to reflect on how little they’ve been involved my entire life. I’m sure if they’d been more present some of my issues wouldn’t have happened, there were so many opportunities to stop all the things that happened to me.

I’m left with chronic health issues, c-ptsd and I’m in pain every day. Have periods of being suicidal and my self esteem is non existent. I’m trying to run 2 businesses and provide for my children, but I’m not doing a very good job of anything.

There is a wonderful man I know, who I’m very much in love with, and I’m fairly confident he feels the same way, but he’s married and I couldn’t do something to interfere with that.

I have no choice but to carry on being nothing. Sometimes the loneliness, emptiness and worthlessness utterly break me. I can’t imagine living the rest of my life this hollow.