What do you regret at your wedding

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What do you regret?
What do you wish you did/didn't do
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Not videoing the speeches

How far into planning are you? When is the wedding?

Thanks I'll add to my list of must do

Wedding is weeks away

Well I'm surprised I'm the first to say this one - main regret?.... my choice of groom. 🤦‍♀️😝

🤣 question is would you do it again ?

I regret not having classic family groups for the photos - only a few. My grandfather and other family members aren't with us anymore and it would have been nice to look back on photos like this. We went down the fly on the wall / reportage style for our pics. I wouldn't change that necessarily... but would have thrown a few family groups in too and kept MIL happy

Not my wedding, but...if you're getting married in a church with flagged floors and stone steps, and have a cute little flower girl, do not put her in hard soled shoes. The vows is not the best time for a tap dancing rendition.

I see sorry about that but I'm sure the photos you have are beautiful
. I've added to my list

Ahhhh good idea

Budgeting the food wrong. We saved money by not having canapés with the drinks to have a bigger late buffet. People were starving with only having drinks before the big meal and then the evening buffet was hardly touched.

We arranged ours for a date in the summer holidays as we had a few teacher friends that we wanted to attend. It turned out that hardly any of them attended so I wish we'd just stuck with our first choice of date which was in term time. Arrange things to suit you, not to keep everyone else happy.

The groom.

The wedding.

The groom.

Not inviting my Nan (small register office). Will regret that until my dying day.

My only regret is not doing things the way I wanted.

My bridesmaids were family and people I wouldn't have chosen had I not felt under pressure.

I just did lots of things for an easy life and now I'm older and wiser I wish I hadn't.

So I guess just make sure you always ask yourself, so i want it this way or am I doing it for other people,

Hee Haw. We eloped. Highly recommend.

Blimmin hell. The fact you're asking this is alarming. It's a marriage. Not just a wedding.

Yes this.
We are still married but there’s lots of things I / we did on our wedding day to keep my mum and dad happy. I do wish I’d stood up for what I wanted more.

That I turned up

Would not do wedding favours.
Would do more formal family photos.
Take 5 minutes in your day to stop, step back, find a quiet corner and take it all in.
good luck

Not many regrets but break your shoes in.

Don't get too drunk on the day like I did!

Main thing is to remember that guests care most about being fed and watered and being comfortable...so things like wedding favours, as a pp said, aren't important. Things like not being kept waiting around with no access to food or drinks is more important for guests. Keep the alcohol flowing and the food coming & people are happy!
And like a pp said, take a moment to stand back and soak it all in as it goes so fast.
Finally, make sure you have a trusted friend (bridesmaid or whoever) on hand at all times to help with dresses in the loo/make up/whatever issues come up...
Have a great day!!!

Having a reception when we returned from our wedding abroad. We didn't want one but our families did.

It was raining so couldn't have the lovely outside group photos we planned. Photographer clearly hadn't planned a plan b so we ended up taking very staged awkward group photos in a side room. The position of the photos was awful (with a large mirror behind ?!) I hate all of them photos & it took so long by the time we'd finished it was time for speeches so missed all the mingling / canapés part of the day. So my advice - have a plan b for photos / leave time to mingle before diving straight in to the formality's of the day / don't stress about having group photos. The natural ones taken when people didn't know the photographer was lurking are by far my favourite!