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What do you regret at your wedding

195 replies

lumothesumo · 16/07/2022 22:32

Wedding tips urgently needed.
What do you regret?
What do you wish you did/didn't do
Any wedding hacks?
I need urgent help

OP posts:
Justfortherandomquestions · 16/07/2022 23:11

Are there any specific aspects of your wedding day that you're particularly worried about?

CrappyNHappy · 16/07/2022 23:11

Getting married.

Silvercurtains · 16/07/2022 23:17

Check out your band/DJ beforehand. We used the hotel DJ as part of the wedding package. They assured us he’d play whatever songs we wanted and was an experienced and great wedding DJ. He didn’t and wasn’t. He played music only our parents and the older generation enjoyed.
wedding favours and expensive flowers are a waste of money.
my husband wanted a big wedding and I wanted a small one. I went along with what he wanted and spent time speaking to people I’d never met before and would never speak with again. Wish I’d stuck to smaller numbers.

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mrsfeatherbottom · 16/07/2022 23:20

Not having more colour - it was 2005 and everything was creams and browns and at the time I thought it was terribly sophisticated but looking back, some colour would have been better.

Also, I wish we had a video of the speeches.

champagneplanet · 16/07/2022 23:20

Don't work the room, let people come to you - I spent far too much time worrying about other people. So without being rude, let them come over to you.

Remember it's yours and your husbands wedding, spend time with him. We barely saw each other apart from the meal and the first dance!

Comfortable shoes are a must.

The right flowers can pull everything together and the photos will be wonderful.

If you are worried about speeches break with tradition and do them before the meal, them everyone can relax.

AnotherEmma · 16/07/2022 23:23

Not many really, it was a wonderful day. Luckily, I don't regret the choice of groom or any of the other major decisions Grin

Just a few minor things:

  • Not hiring someone to film the ceremony and speeches, a relative had said they'd do it but let us down. (We did hire a very good photographer though and we were very pleased, she was lovely and the photos were great.)
  • Not hiring a make up artist (as I hadn't found one I liked) and doing it myself, my make up was fine but it was stressful. Wish I'd tried a bit harder and hired someone.
  • I didn't want loads of bridesmaids so I just had my sister but I wished I'd got a photo of me with my close friends - at subsequent weddings of friends, they had photos of "the hens" and "the stags", which was a nice way to get a photo with friends as well as the family ones.
  • I wish I'd got more comfortable and better fitting bra and shoes. I didn't realise during the day (too caught up in everything) but was very sore by the end and for a few days afterwards.
Rainbowshit · 16/07/2022 23:23

I regret the photographs taking so long. We had a lovely venue with a beautiful balcony and it was a beautiful day. I missed the best bit of our wedding which was spending time with a glass of wine on the lovely balcony.

lisavanderpumpscloset · 16/07/2022 23:24

Not smiling in my photos. I was told to act demure and wish I'd actually smiled instead because I actually had a blast at my wedding!

stayathomer · 16/07/2022 23:27

i got a picture with my mum and dad separately, none of the three of us. Also I didn’t get to see my friends enough

Libre2 · 16/07/2022 23:37

Nothing really. It was great. We did it very simply with a bar-b-cue in my parents’ back garden. Not a lot to regret really. Still very happily married 18 years later.

Have a great day!

Floralnomad · 16/07/2022 23:43

I loved my wedding and 30+ years on I still love my husband , the only thing that would have made our wedding better would have been my in-laws not coming .

FrangipaniBlue · 16/07/2022 23:43

Regrets:

  1. not having a video
  2. inviting our extended families (I wish I'd dug my heels in and stuck to my 25 person guest list!)
  3. not having a proper sit down meal (this was the compromise we made in order to invite an extra 70 people - see regret no2!)
SouperNoodle · 17/07/2022 00:02

I regret not getting a videographer and I regret a lot of the people I invited.
I regret spending so much on the wedding that we had no money left for the honeymoon.
I regret not getting a different dress.

I loved prioritising time with my husband throughout the day. Most weddings you barely get to see each other but my favourite memories from our wedding was when it was just us two.
We snuck off out of the wedding to a separate bar in the hotel to have a cup of tea and it was really lovely.

Benjispruce4 · 17/07/2022 00:03

Having a sit down meal. Massive waste of money. I actually wanted an evening wedding followed by a party but back in 1996, before you could marry anywhere with a license, it was church or registry office followed by the venue/ hotel. My venue said we could have an evening party but we’d have to pay for the loss of revenue from the day so we went with the meal obviously as we’d have to pay for it anyway!

RampantIvy · 17/07/2022 00:04

Not having a professional photographer.

reallyworriedjobhunter · 17/07/2022 00:06

DH

StiggyZardust · 17/07/2022 00:07

Inviting my in laws?

newtb · 17/07/2022 00:08

Turning up. It clashed with the Roses cricket match. My late df was a fan. We should've gone to the pub opposite to watch it. I'm sure the landlord would've hidden us in the men's bar (1977 so legal).

LittleBitFunny32 · 17/07/2022 00:08

In hindsight, I wish we'd got a professional photographer instead of relying on guests photos, which were lovely but there were things that got missed that I wanted to have as photographic memories.

peterpiperpickedapiece · 17/07/2022 00:15

Starsarestillthere · 16/07/2022 22:35

Well I'm surprised I'm the first to say this one - main regret?.... my choice of groom. 🤦‍♀️😝

Me too 😂😂😂

Raspberrysins · 17/07/2022 00:18

1 not having a video
2 not getting photos with mum and dad
3 getting too drunk
4 not doing my own speech

Kite22 · 17/07/2022 00:19

I don't think there is anything I regret.

You might get more helpful answers if you asked if people have any tips and things they are really pleased they did, that you will be able to incorporate with the wedding already being planned, and only a few weeks away.

DinosaursEatMan · 17/07/2022 00:20

Getting married. Both of us are introverts and would have been quite happy to elope or even not bother at all. We could have spent the money on something worthwhile instead.

An actually useful tip would be to remember to eat before the ceremony.

QueSyrahSyrah · 17/07/2022 00:29

First wedding: The Groom

Second wedding: The dress. Objectively it was fine, suited the venue, felt fine on the day, pictures are nice, but I didn't love it in the 'oh I don't ever want to take it off' way I did with my first wedding dress. I knew a while before the wedding I was having doubts and wish I'd pushed harder to reconsider / buy another one instead of accepting the 'it's gorgeous' reassurances from family & friends and the shop.

Other than that, try not to get caught up in the small details, you won't care on the day. Our marquee company didn't line the ceremony marquee roof like we'd asked them to, and neither of us noticed until the photos 3 weeks later Blush

user143677433 · 17/07/2022 00:30

Almost all of it. I love DH am kind of glad we got married but I hated most of the wedding.

worst mistakes:

Having a photographer. He was set strict instructions that it was to be casual reportage style photos with just a couple of group shots, but as it turned out the whole day was dominated by being posed for photos.

Having a sit down meal. It was hell. I was sat between DH and my dad, with my mum on the other side of DH. My mum dominated all conversation with DH, and my dad was more concerned about the guests than anything else so kept leaving the table. The meal was also unbelievably slow, so I spent the best part of 2 hours sat by myself with no one to talk to 😅