What do you regret at your wedding

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Not having my phone to take photos and selfies. My husband has hundreds of snaps he took of him and others. I just have the professional shots. No one took photos with/of me which I was a bit pissed off about.
Not getting to eat. I didn't get the canapés that were lovingly chosen, while everyone else was enjoying them I was redoing my make up for photos and trying to have a wee with four layers of tulle to deal with. My cheese course was whipped away before I'd had chance to sniff it, again because I was ages in the loo and my husband thought I'd finished 🙄. I didn't get a look in with the pizzas served in the evening. Didn't even know they had been served and by the time I knew, everything had been demolished.

Overhearing my wife’s aunts & uncles saying that I was not good enough for her.

Same! Apparently I fell asleep on the toilet on my way to bed, lovely new DH put me to bed and lined up about 5 glasses of water next to me.

That is was in a church.

To be fair it was that or the registry office at the time and the church was much more photogenic.

I really wish we'd been able to stand up and say no to the strangers that ILs insisted we invite. We are married 12 years and it bugs me more every year that there were folk at our wedding who we've not seen from that day to this.

Do you know what is even more annoying my Dad used to say the same thing. So him and mum only ask for a couple of very close friends. That we see periodically.

I wish we hadn't agreed to let Sarah's Psycho sister come to the evening do.

Mine was pretty much perfect (for us).

The only things I regret are:

We didn't manage to get a photo of all the guests together. We did get a good mixture of reportage and formal groups, just not that one big shot of everyone.

I didn't arrange drinks on Friday night for the friends who helped me decorate (I still cringe about that!) I assumed I'd have time to get to a local shop but had too many last - minute things to sort out. Luckily they still speak to me.

We were worried we'd not feed people enough so overcatered and ended up with almost an entire Indian buffet untouched at the end of the night

Not having a videographer

Spend big on the wedding band and get night time food as we as quite a few ‘merry’ people. Our photo booth was also b good investment

Inviting the in-laws 😡😡😡

It’s been almost a year since our wedding and I haven’t printed even one phone as I hated my dress :(
The day was absolutely perfect - more magical than we could imagine. I spent months choosing and altering the dress, had my doubts and even looked at other dresses, asked some friends and strangers and everyone said it’s lovely and now I hate all the photos. It looks frumpy and just odd and totally not like me :(((

The marriage

I genuinely loved everything about our wedding. Some specific things I loved and would recommend:

I wore flat shoes.
We ate the cake straight after the ceremony instead of canapés.
Having a small guest list. We had 36 people.
Magician we hired for the drinks reception.
Food. We took everyone to a local restaurant. Much cheaper and better quality food!
A really good photographer that fitted our relaxed style.
The venue. We got married locally and love that I walk past it regularly.

We didn't do a first dance - that made my husband more relaxed but a little part of me wished we'd done one.

That is took place in a church.

In those days it was that or a very un picture friendly registry office. My mother opted for the church.

I got pretty drunk 🥴
Probably should have taken it a bit easier!

Should have followed my gut about the photographer and spent more, we were doing photography "on a budget" and we liked his photos. He did take some beautiful photos but we didn't click and on the day he was a bit grumpy. I wish we'd have spent more and got someone friendly.

I paid a fortune for a welcome buffet which was largely left. Wouldn't bother in future.
Wouldn't have bridesmaid both of nine were a waste of time.
Professional videoed mil ex husband filmed it ans it was shite and inappropriate in some parts.
In fact I'd probably elope if I did it again.

Not checking with one of my mates about the date because he thought it was the next week and didn't turn up! 😅