The most outrageous way you’ve been fat shamed?

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This is in part inspired by a TikTok video and it made me laugh so much that I thought that a similar thread here might get some interesting responses,
keep it civil please obviously post what you want but don’t be attacking posters for their lived experiences

I also think these things really highlight how people who are rude to the overweight are rarely doing it out of concern

Ok I’ll go, my grandma only lets certain people in the family sit on some vintage chairs at the bottom of the garden , as they “aren’t as sturdy as my other chairs” me , husband and my mum are not allowed on the chairs 🙈

I have a few of these (thanks PCOS!).

In a shop, buying chocolates for a friend's birthday, bloke sidles up to me and tells me that 'they're very fattening, you know'. I told him he was rude. He went off to find his mate who also told him he was rude!

Walking along a street at night with husband, limo drives by with young women hanging out the windows and sunroof shouting 'fatties!' at us. Gave them the finger.

Walking around local streets in daytime, couple of young boys shout 'fatties!' at us. Shouted 'virgins!' back at them.

My very, very favourite one is the time I was out with some mates getting drunk, as you do, mates are copping off with various blokes, I'm minding my own business as I was engaged. One of the blokes who had failed to cop off with anyone else and hadn't even spoken to me the whole night looks at me and says 'right, shall we go back to mine then?'. I just held up my engagement ring for his inspection. He was so shocked, he blurted out 'well aren't you a very lucky girl then?!' and buggered off. I think he meant something like 'your fiance is a lucky man' but Freudian slips are so tricksy.

Friend was pregnant, not very big just had a tiny tummy asked me how I managed having a big tummy all the time, she hated being so far away from the sink when washing up.

my mother told me that my niece was so pretty, she looked like I did at that age, except she’s skinny…. It fact my mothers my main fat shamer, but I don’t have all day to list it all.

my 4yo, mummy I love your tummy, it’s so wobbly and I can blow raspberries on it 😂

When I was working as a carer during my uni days, I was working with another carer and one of the residents referred to me as “the big nurse” and my colleague as “the little nurse”. She was knocking on 100 so I couldn’t call her a cheeky fucker 😂

Just a few weeks back I was walking along our high street with my DD 18 minding my own business. A woman with a young child in the pushchair stares at me and says 'move out the way you fat cunt'. I looked at DD just to make sue I had heard correctly and yes i had, I am a size 12.

When I was on holiday in Melbourne a random woman just walked up to me on the beach and handed me a flyer for a weight-loss class. Had the nerve to smile as she was pressing it into my hand too, as though I'd be thrilled.

Whilst there is most certainly a lot of fat phobia around, I think there are plenty of people who just feel they have a right to comment on anything and everything.

Body shaming happens to slim people too- I was a very slim child/teen and got so many comments ('you need a good meal', 'you look like you're going to snap') and now my very slim DS gets constant body shaming comments that get him quite upset.

People just just remember the old 'if you haven't got anything nice to say then don't say anything at all' adage. Body shaming is never appropriate.

My DH grandpa said to me when he met our baby for the first time at 2 days old- it's a pity you aren't breastfeeding, it's really good for losing weight 😂

I worked hard doing all the flower arrangements for a friend's wedding. It took me all day and it didn't cost her a penny.
At the evening event, a colleague of hers I'd never met before loudly informed me that she was a doctor. I was overweight, she said, and if I didn't do something about it, I would be dead in a few years. The bride and her friends listened and nodded in agreement. None of them knew my medical history.

When I was getting my little girl ready for bed that night, she burst into tears and sobbed her heart out. She'd heard every word and she thought her mummy was going to die.

I'm still here nearly 10 years later. I regret doing those flowers and we're not friends now.

I've had some horrible things shouted at me in the past. And the thing is, i was much slimmer than I am now. I've had men shouting 'who ate all the pies' at me outside a pub. Vile and derogatory comments about my body really loudly on public transport. And even to to this day i still think about it because it was so humiliating. I wish i could erase it all from my mind.

A doctor - I was being examined and partially undressed, when she saw my belly, she blurted out "Ooh, you're plump!" I'm a (admittedly not very toned) size 10. (Another time I had some insect bites on my legs and had a prescription for an an antiseptic cream, to which the pharmacist head-tilted and said in a confidential tone "Is it for the things on your face?")

a stranger (a woman) I was sitting next to on a plane told their friend it was just their luck to get ‘the fatty’ next to them. I was size 14!

The physio for my knee mentioned me being a 'larger lady' each time I saw him. I know my weight is a problem, was losing it, and was far from the largest person I saw at the clinic. He was not exactly svelte himself. But for some reason seemed to have to mention my size ALL THE TIME. I finally told him he had made his point, and could stop now.

That's so fucking cruel

I was about a size 18 at the time (about 10-12 years ago)and walking up the street wearing ankle length chino material trousers, flat loafer style shoes and a loose blue chambray shirt. I was feeling quite confident which is unusual for me. I am 5ft7 and had lost quite a bit of weight.
Outside a neighbour's house in a car was a man whose partner was visiting an old lady in the street.I knew him, his sister lived in the street.He was about 60, overweight, badly dressed. As I got near the car he said 'Hello'. I said the same and asked how he was, he said 'Fine....you know, as you were coming towards me I was thinking fat women should never wear trousers- you never suit them'.

I was astonished. I think he thought he was offering me useful advice. I just kept walking and about 10 seconds later, I lost it inside . I turned and went back, calmly, and said something like 'Brian, that was really rude. How dare you speak to me like that! What I wear is none of your business but as you seem to think it's ok to make rude remarks about someone you hardly know, can I just say you could lose 5 stone and not notice it and you've got a belly the size of a woman about to give birth to twins. You've got just about the worst dress sense I've seen on a man- you always look an absolute sight, your clothes are grubby and I would never have been rude enough to say any of that to you except you've been incredibly rude to me. I have no idea what makes an unattractive, elderly, fat, grubby, badly dressed man think he can comment on women's appearances and just get away with it. Please don't ever speak to me again.'

I was aware my temper was starting to show and I walked off.I then spoilt it by keeping on walking back to my house when I was actually going out. I had to watch to see him and his partner drive off before I could go out again. I was fuming. He could never look me in the eye again.

His partner told the old lady I had been rude to him! I told her why the next time I saw her without him and she said 'He won't have meant anything by it'!!!FFS!

My ex husband's nickname for me (that he used in front of everyone, and to me all the time) was 'Fatty'. I was a size 14. He also used to tell me that if I put weight on, he wouldn't want to share a bed with me. I still have worries around my weight many years later.

Oh, so many times.

But I'm in a customer facing job that invites a little conflict so they go for the obvious.

I am fat, and trying to do something about it.

Usually people are just thick, entitled, or both. I've grown a thick skin against it over the years. You can fix being fat, you can't fix being stupid.

Was told by my Dad as a teenager that I had "rugby player" legs and shouldn't wear skirts.
Was told by my Mum that if I didn't stop eating I would end up on Jerry Springer getting winched out of my house by a crane.

I was a size 12.

It was a really dreadfully hot day and I wore shorts..

I was heckled "there's a weight limit on shorts" "that pig is wearing shorts" "it needs putting down"

Never worn shorts again. Happened 10 years ago and I still lie awake at night thinking about it.

Most people can't even look at me when speaking to me.

My DS(5) squeezes my tummy when I'm getting dressed and makes it move like a mouth while saying 'look! It's Tina the talking tummy!'.

To be fair though he does give me a cuddle when I'm upset about my weight gain bless him.

The amount of stories on here where women are tiny but still called fat! Just shows how appearance shaming is a way to control and belittle women, even if the insult isn't remotely accurate. Fat is the worst thing a woman can be because apparently fat=unattractive and really, being unattractive (and therefore worthless) is the worst thing that a woman can be.

I have only been fat shamed a few times. Once in a pub in which young men behind me decided to tell each other how big I was. I was more annoyed as it was so pointless, the second was yesterday when walking past a very drunk man outside a pub, who said really loudly look at that fatty waddle. His girlfriend who laughed her head off was the same size I am. He embarrassed himself more than anything.

Actually just thought of another one. Years ago I needed a new work shirt and my manager told me I would have to have a man’s one due to being a size eighteen. Then the area manager took me aside to tell me off for wearing a man’s shirt. I would not take that now, but at the time I was humiliated.

A wedding dress place put the phone down on me when I said I was size 16.

Had a GP say I wouldn't be fat if I was in Belsen. 😳

Was sat on a bench in the park reading where a large man (height and weight) was exercising with a personal trainer. A stranger sat down beside me and started telling me how there was no point to the exercise he was doing because "he'll just go home and eat ten bags of crisps" and because I was much younger and too shy I kept hoping he'd get the message and leave me alone when I went back to my book, and should have told him to fuck the fuck off.

My mum said to me "are you sure there's not a baby in there?" about the stomach I'd gained from being seriously depressed and binge comfort eating which seemed like a particularly cruel comment because she knows I'll never have a baby.