The most outrageous way you’ve been fat shamed?

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This is in part inspired by a TikTok video and it made me laugh so much that I thought that a similar thread here might get some interesting responses,
keep it civil please obviously post what you want but don’t be attacking posters for their lived experiences

I also think these things really highlight how people who are rude to the overweight are rarely doing it out of concern

Ok I’ll go, my grandma only lets certain people in the family sit on some vintage chairs at the bottom of the garden , as they “aren’t as sturdy as my other chairs” me , husband and my mum are not allowed on the chairs 🙈

"I wish I was more like you ................. and didn't care what I looked like."

I once said this to someone without realising how it sounded.

What I meant was... At the time, I couldn't leave the house without lots of makeup, straightening and curling hair etc, having fake nails and the rest of it, because I was so insecure about my appearance.

Whereas this friend didn't do any of that, she was beautiful, and seemed confident in her natural appearance and I wanted to be more like her! She had her natural hair, no makeup on her face, natural nails etc.

It was such a clumsy way to say it and I did realise that afterwards. It absolutely didn't mean I thought she looked "bad", far from it. I was trying to say I wish I felt as confident to be my natural self as she did.

Oh how I spent ages trying to explain that one because she took massive offence and I see why, it just wasn't what I meant at all. This was so many years ago and I still feel awful when I remember it.

I cycle with my child to school most days. There is a woman who regularly makes gagging noises to anyone around her and over time and her comments I know she considers the sight of me on a bike disgusting, she laughs too loud when I've had a problem with the chain or the basket on the bike. I've had the random fat bitch/ slag/ useless/ whore comments and dpecific comments about my breaststroke many times over the years. But this woman really gets to me (not that I let her know). I have all sorts of fantasies about scratching her car, splashing her from puddles.

It's obvious she's got a specific problem and no doubt mn thinks I should feel sorry for her but all she is doing is voicing stuff I see here all the time. She's probably some sort of 'speak your mind hero' reminding me what 99% of the population thinks.

I remember as a teen my boyfriend’s chain smoking skeletal mother making digs like “My boy must like having plenty to hold onto!” I was a fucking size 8. I’m much bigger than a size 8 but I bet she’s still an absolute weapons grade bitch.

Was also called a fat cunt while 37 weeks pregnant - shouted from a car by some lobotomised waste of skin. Tell me you have a tiny penis without telling me you have a tiny penis. 🙄

I put on a lot of weight during my first pregnancy. We went for a drive with our newborn and PIL. I got in the back of the car and as he shut the car door for me my FIL said 'blubbablubbablubba' and made out that he couldn't shut the door because of my bulk! (He also used to tell me that I was starting to look 'haggy' when my DH wasn't around to hear him!)

Many many occasions but then I've been fairly big since I was 21.

John Lewis recently called me up to cancel my personal shopping experience as they would nothing in store to fit me. I am a size 18/20 so big but not completely unusual.

I once worked at a National Trust place where the ticket office (which was one of my responsibilities) was a good 10 minute walk from the main house. I had some awkward stuff to carry so asked the buggy to give me a lift down. A volunteer saw me on it and commented that if I got the buggy then no wonder I was fat.

Oh I do love a grovelling apology!
Good for you OP! 🤣

Lovely and kind? Really?

Possibly by my GP this week. I have pyelonephritis, she asked was I eating and drinking. I said I was drinking loads of water but not eating much as I didn't have an appetite. She said good, drinking was a good idea and she wouldn't be worried if I didn't eat anything at all. I asked in a jokey way was it because I had plenty to spare (am v overweight) and she replied matter of fact "no, I'd say the same to a skinny person"

Wasn't sure whether to laugh or cry!

Walking past a car with open windows minding my own business chatting away to my daughter happily, 2 kids maybe 10/11 sitting in the back of the car shouted out at me “oi fatty” and “how many chins you got there” their parents was in the front and laughed, I practically ran back to the car after.
I hate to admit I was really upset (maybe cried after when I was alone) and ashamed as my daughter was upset too and I think embarrassed as she’s really shy.
i think what was the worst feeling was it was my first day out with my daughter in 7 weeks after an injury, sitting at home for those weeks with no exercise/feeling sorry for myself didn’t help with weight gain and I felt so deflated afterwards.

I was 13, and not at all overweight, but hungry, as you are when you're a growing teen. I was sat at the table eating a pizza, thinking, I'll have half now, and save the rest for lunch tomorrow - just about to put the last planned slice in my mouth and Dad pipes up: "You're not going to eat ALL of that are you? You don't need the entire pizza, that's just piggy. You'll get fat."

I burst into tears. and put the slice down.
"Why are you crying? Don't be so ridiculous, eat whatever you want. "

I did later explain my plan, and that he had no right to comment even if I did eat the entire pizza, and maybe telling a teenage girl (in particula) that they might get fat wasn't the greatest thing to say!

That was the day I learned NEVER comment on what anyone puts in their mouth! Unless you want to agree that something was delicious 😋

1. When I was expecting my first child, I was eating a packet of crisps at work and the total cow colleague who sat opposite me said I shouldn't be eating crisps because I was fat enough already. I was about 30 weeks pregnant by that point.

2. When I was TWO DAYS post-partum with my first baby, my Nan came to visit. She grabbed my belly with both hands, kind of jiggled it up and down a few times and said "you've gotta get rid of this as soon as possible Zim"

3. Once I'd had my second baby and returned to work after mat leave, one of the doctors I work with asked if I was planning anymore children and I said I was not. He not so subtlety implied that I was probably too fat for my husband to fancy me enough to have another child anyway 😡

I'm not going to say my height, weight, dress size or BMI because I think it should be totally irrelevant to how people treat you.
Reading everyone else's stories makes me realise what a very sad world we live in.

to everyone on this thread

I'm a nurse and so when I saw a woman collapse in the street I stopped to help. Turned out she was blind drunk (it was 10am!) and she got very verbally aggressive. Told me to leave her the fuck alone and go and loose some weight. I'd just had my second child and was very self conscious about the way I looked. It really stung.

So much for trying to be a Good Samaritan.

A bit of a lighthearted one.....

We went out for a pizza and I ordered a calzone instead of a pizza, and my son was about 3 at the time and had never seen one before. He loudly shouted 'Look Mummy, your pizza is fat like you!'

Call her out on her behaviour.

Ask her directly!

"What is it that makes you feel so sick each day?" when she gags
"What's so funny?" when she laughs at you.

She'll fucking backpedal faster than Usain Bolt can run forward. Prbably make up some bullshit

Then will hopefully stop.

p.s. Don't include yourself in the question (i.e. don't say "why are you laughing at me?" otherwise she'll just have a get-out of "I'm not laughing at you..." )

Lovely kind people don't call other people fat, especially when they're at someone's deathbed.

An unkind and insensitive person does that.

I can imagine he'd have ben most affronted if you'd said in return "Well you're old and rude... I'm only speaking the truth"

I was once driving down a very narrow one way street. I had my roof down as it was a glorious day. This old man was on the pavement and as I went past him, I bet I was doing about 3mph as it was so narrow. I smiled as I went past him and I kid you not he got his walking stick and tried to him me on the head as I went past calling me a fat cow. Still one of those wtf moments now and it was about 10 years ago.

Some of these are dreadful!

Not mine, but my bestie's mum came to see us at uni, we'd both put on a stone or so, Friend's mum said to her DD, "Your face is huge, you are so bloated and you look vile." She'd gone from a 10 to a 12!! That is all Still so slim.
Friend's mum said, Flatflatflat has always been chunky so it's all the same (I went from a 12 to a 14 that year!)

Some years ago, I suffered a miscarriage, stopped working out and ate myself 3 stone bigger. Uncle saw me at bbq, said, "Wow I thought you were someone else, you are absolutely huge. Are you pregnant?" He KNEW I had mc'd a year before. Not nice.

Love that you did that!!!

I’m surprised it’s not happened to me more because I have always been huge!

The one time I remember was when I was around 18/19 (1990s) and was in a pub with friends eating chips.
A table of lads were next to us and one of them decided it was a good idea to look over, snort like a pig, make scoffing noises amongst other things and laugh in my direction.
None of us knew him, it was just some random lad who wouldn’t let up despite the obvious embarrassment on his friend’s faces.

A bit later I went over to the bar and on my way back casually poured a good amount of cider and black (!) down the back of his neck blaming my fat fingers for my clumsiness. He was wearing a white ‘come home’ T-shirt (the band James) which I guess was ruined.

His friends showed no sympathy and laughed so much, told him he asked for it and started chatting to me and my friends.
Poor pig snorting boy didn’t know what to do with himself. Revenge is sweet indeed.

I wouldn't because the 'larger' part was still required to be stated if you were riding so an appropriate horse could be given to you. Horses can only carry so much weight for so many hours a day. So it was their cackhanded way of ensuring that happened.

Still shit though.

Lighthearted….

my 5 yo DS wandered into the bathroom the other day and was staring at me lathering away. We’re quite an open/liberal household so I just carried on. He said “mummy you always say your bottom is big, but it’s actually your boobies - they’re huge!”

Thanks kiddo.

My sister has a 'tactic' she responds, but pretends she didn't understand them.

SO once we were in town and some bloke with his mates said "OI piggy"
Sister: "Sorry? what did you say?"
Man: "oi..piggy..."
Sister: "Pardon?"
Man shuffles off

I used this once, when I was quite rightly within my rights cycling along the side of the road, a man in a van decides to slow down and call to me..
Van Man: "Get off the road!!"
I looked over at him and slowed down: "Sorry?"
Van Man: "Get off the road, you're slowing the traffic down"
I stopped "I can't hear you properly, what did you say? I should get off my bike??"
Van Man stops in road: "Err.. you're blocking traffic" (ironically blocking the traffic behind him )
Me: "I'm blocking what? The Traffic? "
Van Man: "Er...." and then drives off

I know I shouldn't, but this made me laugh a little bit. It's so annoying teaching kids (while perhaps being a tad hypocritical!) and them calling us out for it!!

That's just horrendous! I'd have been shocked into silence initially I suspect and then the storm would have come, big style! For a mum to say that about her daughter, and to friends, AND in front of you?! Beggars belief! I'm so sorry!

Ah yes, I was once openly photographed by some sniggering teenage girls in a supermarket. I turned my back and ignored but it's still with me now.

I have a health condition that's nothing to do with my weight but means I can't monitor my body temperature and I'm ALWAYS bright red sweating profusely winter and summer alike. You have it if 50 stone or 5 stone, but if I had 1p everytime for the amount of people who tell me I wouldnt be sweating so much if I lost weight I'd be a millionaire.