DH thinks I was rude but I disagree

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At our local pub my usual tipple is rose wine. Almost every time we go they want to flog us the bottle and I always say no thanks.
I tend to have a large glass to start and then a couple of small ones with ice & soda to 'tip in'
Anyway today they tried to push the bottle and as usual I said no thanks to which the lass helping out behind the bar ( not even staff) said "do you know just how much wine you drink? You would save money by buying the bottle "
I replied "judgmental much?"

It doesn't sound like she was passing judgement. If you felt judged, that's coming from you, not her.

just buy the bottle ;)

You were rude

How is it cheaper to buy a bottle aka 750ml of wine when I only want 500ml of wine ie one large 250 ml glass plus 2 x 125ml glasses (with ice and soda which is free)

It does sound a bit rude, yes - as others have said she was just trying to help. If you tip in the ice in the smaller glasses of wine to make the wine cold you could ask for a pint glass of ice and tip it in as your pour out the bottle.

You sound more than rude, you sound aggressive. And saying ‘judgemental much’ is embarrassing. Who says that as an adult in an interaction like this?

You were rude.

If I bought 3 x 250 ml single glasses (which I don't) against a whole 750 ml bottle the price difference is 50 pence (plus more wine than I want and warm)

Yeah it's a massive over reaction to be this angry and pissed off. It was basically a non event. I think you'll look a bit pompous and self important if you complain.

Did you tell your husband to piss off as well? Hope you didn't have a row over nothing!

You're not rude. It sounds to me like the staff have been discussing you. Find a new pub I say

“Do you know just how much wine you drink?”

I think responding with “judgemental much” is pretty tame.

Whether you’d save money or not is irrelevant - you, as the customer, said no. The bar person shouldn’t comment anything further after that.

She was rude, once they've asked if you want a bottle and you've replied no they should leave it at that

But the point is, a customer doesn’t what you offer, you don’t insist. That’s really basic stuff isn’t it?

That, in itself, is bad business. Let alone the remark itself.

I wasn't aggressive but am tired of having the "have a bottle convo" - they are not trying to save me money but are upselling ffs

Well duh because nobody drinks that much in a night but you're drinking 500ml+ which costs more in glasses than by the bottle.

You're spending more money for less wine is what she was saying.

You were both rude.

But I think your response was justified.

Yes you were rude.
I can see why your DH was embarrassed by you.

Im sure they’d give you some ice for free.

If you don’t want more wine for less money (who wouldn’t) then just say no thanks.

Rude

Upselling happens everywhere, really not sure why you were so bothered by her comment.

if that’s exactly how she said it I don’t think your response was too bad because she was rude.

I've been to quite a few pubs/bars that have had offers whereby if you buy two large glasses (i.e. the 500ml you're drinking) you get the rest of the bottle for free, and 125ml glasses usually cost more than half a 250ml glass so yes, that would be cheaper. Clearly this is not the case in this particular pub, but you really have got your knickers quite excessively twisted over this!

sounds like the bar staff have been discussing you

It really doesn't. "Woman drinks 3 glasses of wine in pub" is hardly worth acknowledging.
A bottle of wine was offered based on ops consumption, albeit in a clumsy way. Really no need for a snippy sarcastic response.

I think she's hit a nerve.

No you weren’t rude. If they were genuinely trying to save you money, they’d have opened a bottle for your first and if you’d have drunk the whole thing by the end of the night, refunded you the difference. Or let you take the rest home. They were obviously just trying to make money.

I don’t understand why people have to comment. If you want to spend more money on wine or if you want to guzzle by the gallons it’s got nothing to do with anyone else. I don’t think your reply was rude either I would have said a lot worse! ✌🏼 Enjoy your wine OP