DH thinks I was rude but I disagree

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At our local pub my usual tipple is rose wine. Almost every time we go they want to flog us the bottle and I always say no thanks.
I tend to have a large glass to start and then a couple of small ones with ice & soda to 'tip in'
Anyway today they tried to push the bottle and as usual I said no thanks to which the lass helping out behind the bar ( not even staff) said "do you know just how much wine you drink? You would save money by buying the bottle "
I replied "judgmental much?"

Well that escalated quickly … you sound incredibly rude hth

Don’t know why you’re being so arsey to me. I agreed you weren’t rude and was obviously teasing about the name.

But please do change it as I’d rather not be mistaken for you now.

I've used this name since at least 2011 (been here since 2006) so the name is mine. You've been here long enough to remember the rules.

Do you actually know how much the bottle costs OP? You've said it would be 50p cheaper - is that just you doing the calculations of the measurements or do you know the price of their bottle? I'm only asking because if the bottle is actually cheaper than what they know you are spending, they can't be upselling. The only reasons I can think they would have to offer you the bottle is either to save you money, or to save themselves having to waste wine and they're thinking their job is easier just to hand you the bottle rather than having to keep pouring out glasses.

I think its strange that they keep trying to push the bottle on you and I can't really believe they would keep doing that just to try save you money when you've said no. It sounds like they have a motive for wanting you to just buy the bottle and maybe they're pissed off that you keep refusing, hence the comment from the person helping out.

I think she was rude to make that comment to you, although I don't think she was judging your alcohol consumption I think its more to do with being pissed that you refuse to make life easier for them by accepting the bottle. I can see why you were annoyed by her comment, however I don't think I would have replied in the way you did, especially if you want to keep drinking there? Also there's no need for the level of anger you seem to have, and the constant 'fucking this and fucking that'.

I'm also interested in what her response was when you replied with that? If I was you I'd just find somewhere else to drink. YANBU to be annoyed that your bar staff are constantly trying to push something on you that you don't want and then commenting on it.

Judging by your posts on here, I think the Bar Staff got away lightly.

You seem to be looking for a fight with anyone or everyone. Perhaps the extra glass of wine would have helped.

You replied 'judgemental much'? YABVU by using that stupid phrase.

Thought it might be something like that

I always think have the best Halloween nc

Rude as fuck.

A gin drinker doesn't drink a whole bottle nor a beer drinker a whole barrel. You, however, drink enough that it’s cheaper to buy the bottle

Nope

I feel for your Dh.

I do think she phrased it a bit rudely (although she was probably right!) but I work in a customer service role and, when you serve hundreds of people a week, it’s hard not to get the phrasing of things slightly wrong on occasion. Sometimes things just don’t come out right and I try to keep that in mind when I think a staff member somewhere has come across badly.

I typed my response before RTFT. After seeing your replies to others (with yet more swearing) I'm starting to think you're quite rude and aggressive in general. As I said you WNBU to be annoyed at them pushing the bottle on you, but YABU to be this angry and aggressive over it and the fact that you've been so rude to people on here who are just giving their opinion (which you asked for) makes me think maybe you misrepresented or misinterpreted what the bar staff actually said or did. Did you swear at the bar staff like that? Your DH was probably embarrassed by you if you were this aggressive to the staff in your local pub that he hopes to keep drinking in.

what the fuck is wrong with you OP? are you drunk now?

If you acted in the pub as you have acted on here then yes, you were incredibly rude.

This!

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@Johnnysgirl 50 pence if I wanted 3 x individual 250 ml glasses which I do not want are you really that fucking dense

yes you are very rude

Booting off like you are and getting arsey because you mistook a bar maid for saying you drink too much tells me you probably drink too much.

trust me, if the bar maid was judgey about someone drinking too much it won’t be the woman drinking rose wine lmao! Mostly tho she don’t give two fucks about you, she was trying to save you money, soz

I think OP needs to post when she’s not sloshed after downing her —bottle of— wine

OP, from your aggressive reactions on here, I’d have to say you’ve bought more than ‘3 glasses’ and definitely more than a bottle…. hic

Step away from MN for the rest of the night and sleep it off!
But yeah, you were (and are) rude AF!

< strike through fail >

I imagine your DH was probably thinking, "Here we go again..."

It sounds like you get upset very quickly and easily if you feel someone is interfering with your drinking, OP.

Still rude, even with the drip feed. Girl was trying to help you out. On some wines there could be more of a saving.

You sound aggressive, rude and frankly embarrassing. Your responses have done nothing except reinforce that impression.

And DH needn’t worry about you being rude in the pub, because if your replies are an example of your RL behaviour, I’m guessing you might be barred, either from today or very soon.