I shouldn't admit this... but I wish I had a rich husband!

[Dreamofriches]

Im exhausted about worrying about money 24/7. Exhausted feeling I have no time. Wondering if it will ever get better, and how! Exhausted of pretending to everyone there isn't serious money worries.

I would just love to be like my friends and family who don't have any money worries, have multiple holidays too look forward to, can give their kids amazing education and activities and are planning house renovations because their husbands have become very successful. What a dream! Even just one year of living like this would be bliss.

I know how anti-feminist this is, I know its up to me to be my own rich husband but its hard when you need also have other responsibilities.
I just want to dream a bit of a life where we are having conversations about which country to visit, not how we have to cut back even more.

Im not sure the point of this post, I just want to vent and can't admit this in real life as I know how awful I sound.

@MyCatIsAJerk he doesn’t sound a very kind man at all.

Why assume you'd want them to be stressed out? No the opposite, passionate about their work, and that they find it fulfilling.

I like the thought of having a successful provider for the children that I could really respect and admire in all honesty. It very attractive to me. I think most women are wired up to like the best providers, and I'd hazard a guess probably because in caveman times it was the difference between staying alive or not.

I like the thought of having a successful provider for the children that I could really respect and admire in all honesty. It very attractive to me. I think most women are wired up to like the best providers, and I'd hazard a guess probably because in caveman times it was the difference between staying alive or not

Totally agree.

Refreshing to here that actually it is great! I think my friends feel like you but wouldn't admit as they don't want to appear insensitive

This and they often have affairs and can easily find a newer model.

Some rich men are lovely, but a lot are not.

I kind of get what you’re saying. When I’ve been at my most burnt out, I just wanted someone to look after me- take the load away.

In reality though, I prefer to be self sufficient, and on an equal footing with a partner.

This thread is about daydreaming, right? Like a sort of Disney princess scenario where a rich, caring and protective husband sweeps all your worries and cares away by promising to provide for you for life while you twirl around in a ball gown?

In reality partnerships don’t work like this. I have sacrificed my career to run the house/family/our life so that my husband can fulfil his potential (earnings). We have a lovely life in which we both work very hard. I don’t swan around having beauty treatments and doing yoga, in some ways I have more responsibility because the entirety of family life is on me, from financial planning to remembering to buy milk and everything in between. He works. I have had to swallow my pride (I had a great career, but I wasn’t up for working full time AND doing all the donkey work too because he was the higher earner). He has had to face up to the reality of missing out on a lot and undertaking a huge amount of pressure. If we ever were to split I feel like of course I’d be fully entitled to half of everything, there’s no way he could have done it without me doing everything else.

So yeah, go ahead and marry a rich man, you’ll be planning your own date nights and birthday presents for the rest of your life! Enjoy!

@Sunnysideup999 @ILoveAllRainbowsx
less well off men can also have affairs, get stressed, go away, get unwell, be stingy and uncaring.

What you are forgetting is that many of us you’d consider wealthy probably get less stressed than those less well off as there’s less to worry about and lots of things are outsourced.

sure some women may feel their wealthy husbands are stressed or whatever but it’s not the same for everyone

I know someone who married the son of a billionaire and all she spoke about was how much she hated him and wanted to punish him by not letting him see his child. She was in her 20s when she married him so was very young. She is still married to him as far as I can tell by googling and I am sure she is still as miserable as ever.

@Glitterspy you can only speak for yourself. I personally feel my life is quite dream like to be honest and I feel very lucky that that’s the case.

@ILoveAllRainbowsx more fool her for marrying someone she hated

If someone was rich why do you think they would go for you?

And they end up being unhappy or single forever because anyone who is in a different category than you is less likely to go for you.

Basically if you want a rich husband you need to be rich yourself.
If you want a gorgeous husband you need to be gorgeous yourself.

Ouch! That’s you told, OP! Stop daydreaming at once!

Ha ha! Guess I should be more gorgeous.
I think whoever wrote that article has been watching to much TV shows. I may not be rich, but I do live in area filled with rich people and most are lovely but ordinary. Certainly not supermodels swanning everywhere!

No most women are not. Some are. Like you. But many are wired to want to be financially independent in their own right. Millions actually.

I have no idea why you aren’t sitting wishing you earned more and were a successful provider.

From best scenario to worst scenario

1. Happy marriage to rich man

2/3. Happy marriage to poor man
Unhappy marriage to rich man

1. Unhappy marriage to poor man

The order of two and three depends on what's most important to you

I really would advise any young person to look at whether a prospective spouse has money, or is solvent and capable of earning it at the very least. Just as we judge attractiveness on personality, looks, sense of humour, height etc, we need to throw self sufficiency and earning potential into the mix. More important than some of the crap that women say they look for in a partner (like broad shoulders fgs?!)

As other posters have observed, hahahaha at the people telling the OP to work harder and become rich herself. Because it’s so easy, isn’t it?

Why, why can’t the OP, who is exhausted and has a life so demanding that she’s daydreaming (light-heartedly) of financial rescue just, you know, have a brilliant business idea, secure investment and make millions? She’s simply not trying hard enough. Why can’t she just get an internship at an investment bank then work stupidly long days and be offered one of the few permanent roles and become an investment banker? She is simply not committed enough.

Welcome to 2022

Fine for you to want to be rich. A bit feeble to want to get there through his efforts by virtue of a wedding ring.

Same. Think it helps I grew up with not much.

I keep my hand in working 2 days a week in an in-demand profession which I could easily scale up to full time if needed.
And I certainly don’t do everything! My husband probably doesn’t do quite as much around the house as I do, but he pulls his weight. Why wouldn’t be? Does earning a lot of money mean you don’t have to wipe the kitchen surfaces down?

Better to wish that YOU were rich. Rich husbands aren't always what they're cracked up to be. Better to have one's own financial security.

If I'm going to daydream about pots of money, those pots are going to have MY name on them! Let DH wish he had a rich wife, instead.

Nobody has says she's not worked hard enough.
People are just saying they don't want to be financially dependent on a man!!

When did she say that she was expecting to marry a rich man and that it could happen?

I appreciate the first “you have spectacularly missed the point” of the thread, though. One for my bingo card. Eyes down for the full house.

@Newforumnewname exactly! The women married to men who do nothing with the children or around house do have a DH problem; not that they’re rich but that they’re shit husbands!
A man can be wealthy and still be nice person and a good husband and a dad.

Be careful what you wish for OP.

The girls I know that had 'rich' husbands had to put up with them never being around much.

They were on the rigs, working abroad, always at work, in Board Meetings etc.

When they were at home they just wanted to relax, not talk much, get fed and sleep...